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Thanks for the advice juneau! Currently I am using the CVS brand OPK. Because it is my first month of charting, I started on CD8 ! Silly me, but I was *really* anxious to start and also wanted to be sure I had myself covered whether I O'd early or late =). I have a 29-30 day cycle so according to the charts I wouldn't have to start the OPK till CD 11 or 12. And I suspect I ovulate even later in the month than the charts say anyway. But I had two boxes of 7 strips (and I can always pick up another if I run out) so I figured for the first month I'd better cover the whole range, KWIM? =) I am also checking cervical mucous and doing BBT (but my sleep patterns have always been kind of wonky so BBT may not be the best indicator for me.) Also, I know what the egg-white mucous looks like (and I suppose that's the most important anyway) but the other categories are a bit vague to me lol.

I am pretty sure, just based on my body's symptoms, that I do ovulate, so if I do not get any darkening of the lines I will def switch brands - that is something I hadn't even thought of. I didn't know that there was a resource for checking the sensitivity of them, so thanks again for that info.

Many good wishes on your pregnancy! I'm so happy for you!

And, I know this is a silly question, but what is BFP (I know that it means a + pregnancy test, but I can't figure out what the initials mean lol) Please enlighten me =)!!

Warm wishes,
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Originally Posted by catsparkle View Post
And, I know this is a silly question, but what is BFP (I know that it means a + pregnancy test, but I can't figure out what the initials mean lol) Please enlighten me =)!!
Big Fat Positive!!!
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Originally Posted by juneau View Post
Big Fat Positive!!!
Ahhh, tyvm!!!!
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Hi everyone! I've been lurking for a while, and so happy about the many recent BFPs!!!

I'd given up on consciously TTC a while back and decided to move on with things, esp. since I'm still fairly ambivalent about baby #3 anyway. Last month I went out with a girlfriend, had four beers , got home that evening to dh and, well, you know ....

So, know I'm on CD 33 when my cycles are usually 27-29 days long. I tested yesterday and got a BFN. My back hurts and I feel like my internal temperature is running a little higher than usual. I figure I'm either pregnant or going into menopause with hot flashes! I am truthfully rather baffled and don't know what to think at this point. Had to tell someone, and you all are it.
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Ooh ooh ooh! Go Melissa!
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Good Luck Melissa!!

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Good luck Melissa. are you taking another test today?
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I've only got one test left! And I don't want to buy another. And I don't want to see another BFN. I am kind of enjoying limbo right now.
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No dice, guys. AF came last night, to my surprise -- "dammit!" I said as I stared down at the sight. My official position is that I'm fine either way -- another baby would be great, staying where we are is great, too -- but I'd been getting excited about this, thinking of how I'd tell dh and my friends.

And seriously, I wonder if I'm not going into perimenopause. I'm still relatively young (41) but my cycles have been quite irregular for the past six months or so, and my joints do ache (another symptom). Sigh.
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Well Damn! I really thought this was it for you Melissa. I am glad you have a good attitude about it. ((Hugs))
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bad news

We lost the baby. I found out early this week at my first appointment. The baby only measured 6 weeks and no heartbeat and I should have been 9 1/2 weeks. I'm hoping to miscarry naturally to avoid a D&C but it's hard waiting around for this to occur. I was pretty shocked because I had pretty good pg symptoms and my uterus was measuring 8-9 weeks so everything seemed fine. I had no spotting...nothing unusual. I had a m/c 10 years ago and had a lot of spotting and then gradually lost all my symptoms so I figured everything was fine this time. We are not going to try for another baby. I'm feeling pretty much okay sometimes and depressed at other times. I think my hormones are all over the place. Anyhow, I wanted to let you all know.
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Melissa. I'm glad you're not devastated by visiting and best of luck for a fresh cycle and a fresh start.

I wish you could see more of my charts and also compare them to MsGB's (which you can see awhile back) because we seem to be in about the same place with the iregular cycles that are slowly going back to normal. Stress initially wonked them out, although I'm sure perimenopause had something to do with it.

I'd like to emphasize that technically we are ALL in perimenopause but that doesn't mean we can't get pregnant. Women can and do get pregnant at our age, even accidentally. Menopause is a process that takes a long time.

What happened with me is that my cycles became shorter without my being aware of it. They were actually more regular when I was 41 than when I was 21, but they were only 25 days long. The stress/perimenopause caused me to have several longer than normal cycles, then as things eased up a bit they started to go back to 25 days but then I had an extra week tacked on to the cycle before I conceived. I don't really know what they would have done if I hadn't gotten pregnant when I did so I'm just speculating; perhaps they would have continued to be a 25 day cycle followed by a 33 day cycle followed by 22 day followed by 43 day but the important thing is that I DID get my bfp even as wonky as things were looking for me.

I have an internet friend who conceived her eleventh child when she was 45. To the best of my knowledge, she did not have any extreme medical intervention. That was not her style and she would have been having way too many financial difficulties at the time to afford much in the way of fertility treatment.

I love Velveteen's sig, which got me through some very rough patches in my TTC journey:

"Where there is longing, there is possibility."

Possibility is reality for me now: a nice, strong, healthy almost centimeter-long human being growing inside me and aserting her individuality by refusing to be a "typical" pregnancy.
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Spider, thank you so much for the kind words. I am disappointed but it's the whole idea of perimenopause that has me a little freaked out -- it sounds so old and so final! All the information you provided is most welcome.

NicksMom, I am so sorry for your loss
post #1214 of 1257
Rats, Melissa.

And nicksmom03, I am so sorry for your loss. It must be hard to be so far into the pregnancy and know that it won't continue. The waiting, I imagine, is agonizing.

What a downer of a day on the TTC board.
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So sorry to hear of your losses, Melissa and nicksmom03. Sending you lots of well-wishes for the coming months.

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Oh nicksmom I am so sorry to hear of your loss. My prayers are with you that you will find peace. ((Hugs))
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Hi Ladies!

Looks like we are officially TTCing! Woo Hoo! Started this past week. Yeah baby!

So if nothing happens this month, I will start charting on my next cycle.
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Nicksmom, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I wish I could do more to make things better for you. Your hormones are likely going nuts right now, so it's probably not a great time to make decisions about anything. You just need to take care of you for a while. Reach out to us as much as you need to.

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Charting / Sleep Issues

Melissa and Cat (and others),

You should post your charts in your signatures so that we "experienced" charters can lurk and comment. Spider is right - she and I have had similarly wonky cycles over the past year or so. Mine were 25 days on the dot until I began ttc'ing in January 2006, then they were all over the place. Stress (ttc'ing adds stress, ladies!) affects our cycles, as does our sleeping patterns. My sleep these days isn't that great, so my temps this cycle aren't looking as good as last cycle, but I'm not too worried about them. I'm watching for EWCM and the + OPK. MC is coming over tonight and hopefully will be back later this week, too .

Speaking of sleep issues, has anyone here taken any herbal sleep remedies, such as Valerian? The bottle says not to use it if TTC'ing, but I'm tempted to use it, particularly when MC stays the night, as neither of us is sleeping well together yet. Any thoughts?

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