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post #81 of 272
Lily LOVED "hunting" for eggs! We had a little hunt here at home(the Easter bunny hid some eggs) and then at my Grandparent's house we had an egg hunt. Whenever Lily saw an egg she would yell "OOOOOO" and giggle! I keep finding her trying to get into the baskets. The girls only got some mini eggs and jelly beans but Lily is bound and determined to find and eat them all!

I can't believe there are so many of you who now have newborns or are due soon. It seems weird to me. I guess in part because I know Lily is our last one and I still have no desire to have another one.

Rynna- I found that when Lily was born people were always amazed that I was out and about w/ all three girls. I never found it to be overly difficult esp. when Lily was a wee one and just wanted to snuggle and nurse in the sling. It's a bit harder now because Lily feels the need to walk everywhere and it gets hard to keep an eye on all three of them at the same time but I can usually get them to all hold hands.

Lily is sleeping nad the other two are at school. I'm going to go read the paper and drink my tea, (I might even have an Easter goodie too!)
post #82 of 272
Killian is such a rowdy kid that people always say to me, "You've got your hands full!" when I'm by myself with both kids. And, I always smile really big and say, "Better full than empty!" It just absolutely changes the whole mood, people smile and say how right I am, and you can tell it gives them a whole different persepective.

Of course, I have tons of Easter pictures... Easter Highlights. Or, you can look in my siggy for the best ones!
post #83 of 272
We decided not to do Easter. Unfortunately MIL had already sent the package. When it arrived there were FIVE, yes five, bags of candy in it. Plus a package of Peeps. She got them the tea set from Ikea and they had a tea party with two candy corns, a Dove chocolate egg and a Peep. At this rate we will have this candy for the next millenium. I have been having a serious acne problem (really my first ever) and I finally decided to cut back sugar and voila! no more acne. Luckily for me MIL insists on getting us Easter candy I don't like (but she does) like spiced jelly beans, jelly beans, Peeps and peanut butter m&ms. I wouldn't touch any of that stuff with a ten foot pole. So there is no temptation, which is good since the 2 days after I went off sugar the white sugar in the canister was looking pretty good.

My boys are so cute! They have been playing a lot together recently. They hold hands in the car. And the cutest thing I have EVER seen is them holding hands in a parking lot. Currently they like to hold hands with Ro in between Tain and I and then try to swing Ro. Good thing that kid is uber light! I was walking Tain home from school today and thinking about when we walked to school when it began in August. Superimposing the child he was then onto the boy he is now and being simply amazed at him. I've been looking at them a lot lately and marvelling at them, how could these beautiful, fascinating boys have possibly come from me? I mean, when they are babies, it is easy to take credit but the older they get, the more the credit falls on them and you stand back in awe at the people they become on their own, yk?
post #84 of 272
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Originally Posted by mattjule
I've been looking at them a lot lately and marvelling at them, how could these beautiful, fascinating boys have possibly come from me? I mean, when they are babies, it is easy to take credit but the older they get, the more the credit falls on them and you stand back in awe at the people they become on their own, yk?
Julie- I have similar thoughts, esp now that myoldest is almost 7. We were watching the video from her dance recital from last year not too long ago and she looked like such a baby. She looked so small and now I look at her and she's really grown into this big kid who can do all sorts of cool things. I'm amazed by her every single day! What really blows my mind is when I stop and think about how not too long ago she was the same size as Lily. Maddie has just started riding her new two wheeler w/ training wheels and can fly around the neighborhood like it's no big deal. Just ayear ago she couldn't do the small circle on her tricycle and now she got a big kid bike. Lily is talking up a storm and is really communicating and man does she have opinions about everything. It's weird to thing that just a year ago she had only a few words and wasn't walking yet. It still blows my mind to think that these amazing little people came out of MY body! Wild!



Hey changing topics but has anyone done much selling in the Trading post? Maybe I'm missing something. I've responded now to 2 or 3 threads in the past week of someone that was ISO something. I have it and am willing to part w/ it for next to nothing plus shipping and I get NO response. I realize that I have a trader rating of 1 but it's not like my post count is 50 and I'm new here. I just haven't done much on the Trading post and most of the things I've bought haven't been rated. Anyway I was wondering if anyone here can give me some insight.
post #85 of 272
I have the same thoughts when I look at BeanBean. He's been such a sweet little man, and he tries so hard to be helpful with the girls... such a love. I've been trying extra hard to enjoy Bella's baby days because my kids don't seem to be babies for very long, but rather than feeling like I have to cram extra babyness into my life right now, I find myself wondering what sort of toddler she'll be. As BeanBean gets older, I feel like I want to be around older kids more. I absolutely love having a new baby again, and I'm very excited about all of the super sweet baby things she does, but at the same time I'm looking forward to toddlerhood and I don't think I'll feel as shortchanged as I did when BeanBean and BooBah sort of became toddlers overnight.

BooBah is talking a blue streak, but still has "babyness" to her voice; "l" and "r" are nearly always "w." "Bella" is "Bewwa," for example. While her first year babyness vanished before I could blink, her toddlerhood seems, to me, to be sticking around more than BeanBean's did. The last time that BeanBean ran out into the street, for example, he was no more than 20 months old; in fact, I remember him doing it when I was 8 or 9 months pregnant with BooBah (so he'd have been 18-19 months old) but not at all after that. BooBah still runs wild, she cannot be trusted to stay on the sidewalk. She does lots of baby things which I am making an effort to enjoy, but BeanBean has become so much easier since he grew into a little boy that I find myself occasionally just wishing she'd grow up a little faster. : I'm fairly certain that this is a manifestation of my (very mild!) case of the baby blues, but it's still no fun to realize that about myself.

In a little while, I'm going to drop BeanBean and BooBah and Mike off at the park and take Bella to do the rest of this month's WIC shopping. When I return, I will toss the three of them into the backyard and do some cleaning, because I can't stand the mess. Mike's going to have to deal with it. Right now, he's taking a nap. I don't mind, I acknowledge that he's worked all day and is tired, but dammit, I worked all day too and I'm not taking a nap, I'm taking a short break only so that *he* can take a nap, and I don't think it's too much to ask that he entertain the older kids while I get some necessary things done. Okay, so maybe I do mind a teensy bit... but I know that I'll go to bed around 10 tonight, whether the kids are asleep or not.
post #86 of 272
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Originally Posted by 3girlsmommy
Hey changing topics but has anyone done much selling in the Trading post? Maybe I'm missing something. I've responded now to 2 or 3 threads in the past week of someone that was ISO something. I have it and am willing to part w/ it for next to nothing plus shipping and I get NO response. I realize that I have a trader rating of 1 but it's not like my post count is 50 and I'm new here. I just haven't done much on the Trading post and most of the things I've bought haven't been rated. Anyway I was wondering if anyone here can give me some insight.
I've tried to, but it's difficult-- if you don't have stuff that's right at the top of peoples' lists, your post doesn't stay on the first page or even in the first five pages, so it doesn't get seen. When you bump, you can only do it for so long before people start assuming that your post is outdated (never mind that the bumps might be recent ).

At any rate-- did you respond on the thread, or by PM'ing the OP? I've found that PMs are much more likely to get responses from people.
post #87 of 272
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Hey changing topics but has anyone done much selling in the Trading post? Maybe I'm missing something. I've responded now to 2 or 3 threads in the past week of someone that was ISO something. I have it and am willing to part w/ it for next to nothing plus shipping and I get NO response. I realize that I have a trader rating of 1 but it's not like my post count is 50 and I'm new here. I just haven't done much on the Trading post and most of the things I've bought haven't been rated. Anyway I was wondering if anyone here can give me some insight.
Haven't done much on the TP lately but I did a bit a while ago. Did you PM the person or respond in the thread? FWIW...I've gotten better results from PMs.

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Guess what James did today? I was printing out a list to take to my midwife appt., and he heard the printer running and went into the office, fetched the piece of paper, and brought it out to me! How awesome is that? Like having a well-trained dog with opposable thumbs
DH said basically the same thing yesterday. We got Lil a little park bench for Easter and she "helped" him put it together yesterday. He kept asking her to fetch tools on the other side of the deck and was amazed that she actually did!

Oh and then she did the cutest thing...he was down on the ground working and she came up behind him and started rubbing his back and shoulders!!

My mom and aunt picked Lil up just before lunch and DH is picking her up on his way home from work so I've had a whole afternoon to myself to nest and clean!! OMG!! My house looks great! Now if I can just keep it this way until the baby comes.
post #88 of 272
OMG, did you guys know that Starfall has *sound*?!? Wow, does that ever change things!
post #89 of 272
Holy tantrums!!! I'm really losing it here!!

She's down for a nap now so I've got a few minutes to relax and breathe and regroup for the afternoon. OMG! I don't know if it's my pregnancy hormones affecting her, the age, teeth or what but she is a dream....as long as she's getting constant undivided attention and doing exactly what she wants to do when she wants to do it. Other than that....look out!

I actually locked her into her playroom (open space in our kitchen with a gate) for a few minutes today because she was just raging about 20 different things at once. She wanted yogurt, to play in the sink, to be nursed, to stir the food on the stove, to have an apple...but not the apple that she started earlier in the day, a new apple...but only if she could sit on the counter and eat it, to feed the dog (who only eats AM and PM)...

Bottom line was she was overtired and hungry (and so was I) and I couldn't get lunch ready with her under my feet screaming and pulling on me. And I could feel my blood pressure going up and up.

She managed to calm herself down after several minutes of screaming at the gate and then I nursed her while the food was cooking.

(I have NO idea if I'm doing the "right" thing or not but generally I've been trying to get her to calm herself down and stop screaming and then I give her whatever it is she has been screaming about. The problem I forsee is that there are times where I *can't* give her what she wants...like if we don't have the food she wants in the house or if she's insisting that I read her a book while I'm driving the car. )

Oy!

How are you all doing???
post #90 of 272
Erin, I think you're doing the right thing. Pulling oneself together emotionally is a survival skill, not just a convenience for Mommy. And I regularly gate James out of the kitchen when he won't respect my request to stay out from underfoot while I'm cooking - that's a safety issue IMO. Now that he's getting more verbal, that gate gets shut less and less often, but there was a time when I had to use it to prepare almost every meal.

I have a UTI, AGAIN. If this keeps going on I'm going to have to be induced - six straight weeks of abx is just too much. We're getting a 37-week ultrasound to determine how big Sarah is and how ready she appears to be to breathe, etc. If she's big enough and I can't get better without birthing her, I'm just going to go for it.
post #91 of 272
Thread Starter 
Hope you feel better, Smithie. (There are some good resources on maintaining control of your birth experience even while being induced, etc. Email me if you are interested in anything like that.) Have you tried sandalwood oil for the UTI? A little diluted on a cotton ball, dabbed on after peeing, helps with the pain and the infection. IME abx actually make UTIs worse, not better.

Rowan burned his finger, right beside me, at the stove. I think I tried to post this and I can't remember if it got lost, so I'm sorry if I am repeating myself. He was so still I thought he wasn't actually touching the red part (we have the ceramic flat stove top), but in fact he had pushed his fingertip DOWN HARD onto the red part. When he took it away he still didn't make a sound, he was so confused, and just started trying to get off his chair. Then the wail came up, and I saw his fingertip was charred white. This was all in about a second. So we put lavender oil on and Mr-will-not-wear-a-bandaid is suddenly quite agreeable about having a large piece of gauze taped onto his finger, now permanently held aloft. He has an enormous blister which everyone is desperate for me to drain, but I know and have read otherwise. Even dh, who believes in usually draining blisters to form callouses, says otherwise this time. But it is a big fat blister. At least the lavender oil helped the burn damage. That stuff is amazing for burns.
post #92 of 272
Smithie-- That sucks. I've got a UTI right now, for which I just finished a course of ABX which haven't helped. I'm sure it's viral. I've been gulping down cranberry juice as much as I can and forcing myself to pee more often...

Liz-- your poor little guy! I hope his finger feels better soon.

I decided that today I was going to be a good parent, so I was not going to raise my voice or threaten the kids, and i was going to enjoy them. I did manage this feat, but nothing else really got done. Still, I was in a decent mood because I made it through the whole day without a ton of screaming from any of us. Mike, on the other hand, had a miserable day and is miserable now. So instead of reaping the benefit of our nice, calm day (two fairly happy, relaxed, unscathed children) by spending time on the computer playing games and being a bum, I'm going to end up spending the evening with the kids, in front of the TV. This sucks more than usual, because BooBah broke the VCR (big shocker ). I didn't want to get a new one before we could afford an entertainment center so that we could put the thing *up*, but my brother had one lying around that he wasn't using and he gave it to me. Now it's full of "jellyum" and the tape that it ate.

Ah, well. Maybe I'll watch LOTR again...
post #93 of 272
Liz, I eagerly await your PM! And I might as well try some sandalwood oil along with the seven other things my naturopath has me doing Abx usually work very well for me when I'm not pg (I've had UTIs my entire adult life, exhaustive tests by a urologist seems to prove that all my plumbing works and this is just a curse I must live with). Probiotics and nettle tea staved off infection between January and the end of March, but now I seem to be in the same place I was with James (pressure of baby's head = can't empty bladder = retained urine grows bacteria = pregnant lady in the ER at 4 a.m.)
post #94 of 272
Thread Starter 
Do you wear a girdle? Some ladies find they help to lift the baby off the bladder. I have to dig out this paper I have written on the subject, and will PM you tomorrow - right now I am so tired and blown I must take my Mike's Hard Lemonade (slumming I do when DH is not around to scoff) and my Daphne Du Maurier book off to the couch. I think I cannot pack or install dursashield cement backer or even do the dishes. I have literally had enough for one day. I don't know what else to do besides pack. I don't even know how we can paint the house until we have more junk packed and thrown away. But I have three weeks until we leave for this interview, and my goal is to have it more or less done so it can go on the market as soon as we return. It's mostly cosmetic at this point and dh has some time off next week. We should be able to do it. The roof is almost done! There are shingles halfway up on all sides!

I am looking forward to having everything packed so I can see what it's like to live without piles and piles of *things* and art supplies and silk dye and cotton dye and goat wool and sheep wool and audio cables and esoteric turntables and five external hard drives. And three xboxes and all ensuing wired and wireless controllers. I am so desperate I am even packing most of the toys!
post #95 of 272
Thank you to whomever suggested the sidewalk chalk. R loves it and drawing on the back porch is alleviating some of her desire to make pen marks on EVERYthing.

I think I have a "mild" thrush infection--red, excruciatingly itchy nipples. "Mild" meaning I don't think I've had it long and it isn't deep. I've been having a lot of problem with dry nips this winter and I think the skin was just broken enough for something to set in. I am bathing in vinegar solution and will navigate the medical establishment tomorrow to see if they can help me. It just never ends around here.
post #96 of 272
I'm glad the sidewalk chalk is working for you! At our house, we've all been enjoying it for the past few weeks. And, we learned yesterday that Killy can color in the lines! Before anyone chastises me for teaching my child to conform and crushing his creative endevors I just want to add that he did it without any encouragement from us! We were drawing shapes for him, and then he went and got chalk and colored them all in. It was neat to watch him, and he actually did a pretty decent job of staying in the lines!

Man, I can't go into any details, but my life seems to be drama-central lately. I need to not let it get to me when Killy fights his diaper changes and punches me in the mouth. Or when I tearfully tell DH I need an hour to myself and he sighs and rolls his eyes. I threw an honest-to-goodness adult temper tantrum after that, which I'm obviously not proud of... Killian is just such an intense kid! Its so wearing to be around him all the time. He's just SO physical! He's constantly throwing himself down, throwing things around, and hitting. I do all the "right" stuff when he hits: I try to stay calm, I say "That hurts mommy" and make a sad face and then he'll give me a kiss - and then kick me again in less than a minute! I'll say, I don't play with people who hurt me, and leave the room. I'll say, "You can't stay on the couch when you kick sister." and then he thinks it a game for me to move him off the couch, so he jumps right back up, usually kicking Ellie again in the process. I'm not really looking for any avice here, and I'll be honest - I CANNOT handle any criticism right now. I'm just venting. I don't know where this all comes from, DH and I are not "rough" people, we don't smack each other around, we don't smack our pets around, we've never used corporal punishment... I just don't get it. And, the whole tantrum thing just baffles me. Its multiple times a day, every day. My ILs are fond of reminding me that DH only threw two tantrums his whole life, and my parents always talk about how shy and quiet and obedient I was as a child. And I parent almost exactly the same way they did - where does my wild child come from?

I told DH, I just NEED an hour or two to myself every once in awhile (like once a week or so). AWAY from home. Dh works from home, but he words 12-14 hours a day minimum, 7 days a week so its me and the psycho toddler and the defenseless baby all the time. I can hold it together for a few days or a week, but then I totally loose it and have a mini-breakdown, and then DH resents me for needing his help and causing him not to meet a tight deadline, which is the only type of deadline he ever has, and he has at least a few deadlines every freaking day. (and, my sister does live with us, but she works full time and is in grad school and has to get ~8 hours of sleep/night or else she has a seizure... so she helps out a little, but she's really busy all the time, too. and she tends to roll her eyes and sigh when I ask for help unless I'm nearly suicidal.)

Okay, I'm going to bed.
post #97 of 272
Oh, Queenie.

You need a mother's helper, like yesterday. Maybe a high schooler in the afternoon?
post #98 of 272
Queenie- I second the mother's helper. I have one that I use occasionally. It was nice to be able to call her and send the big kids off w/ her outside for a while so Lily and I could have some newborn baby time. Now my mother's helper is old enough that I can call her and then have her come and babysit while dh & I go out or I go get something done that I need to do.

Also have you thought about allergies? I vaguely remember a friend of mine whose son had some behavior issues and they found it was wheat, I think. I'll call her and ask her today if I get a chance, it gives me an excuse to call her since I haven't heard from her in a while.

Oh and
post #99 of 272
He's sensitive to red dye (makes him hyper) and sugar makes him hyper, too. Yesterday I cracked and gave him a Cadbury Egg from his Easter basket (both grandparents sent candy), and looking back, I'm sure that was part of the reason for the insanity. Oh, well... I guess I'll have to eat his easter candy!

I am so sick. Congested, both ears ache, sore throat, and terribly painful glands in my neck. I would be worried that I haver Mumps (there's an outbreak in the midwest), but I don't have a fever.

Thanks for the support, ladies. How have ya'll found mother's helpers? The kids in my youth group all live across town, and there's no one on my street.
post #100 of 272
I found my mother's helper at church. She lives about 7 minutes away from us. She has run the nursery at our church sicne she was 10.

Queenie- Also start looking at the ingredients and make sure there is no high fructose corn syrup in anything(it hides in so many things) My oldest has major mood swings and behavior issues when she has high fructose corn syrup. My mom always gave me a hard time about the restrictions I put on her diet. She was watching Lauren one afternoon and gave her yoplait yogurt and when I got there she was a out of control. I asked my mom what she gave her to eat. She replied I didn't give her any junk honest, all I gave her was some yogurt. I asked for the container and then pointed out the the FIRST ingredient was high fructose corn syrup. The light finally clicked! Now that she is almost 7 she can handle some in her diet but knows that beverages esp. make her feel like crap. She will ask me or if I'm not there she'll ask the adult in charge if something containes HFCS. We've had to change breads, peanut butter spag. sauce. It's amazing the number of places it can be found.

Anyway good luck and enjoy the Easter candy!
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