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Do you use a pacifier?

post #1 of 28
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I have heard that using a pacifier with the baby is bad but I have also read that it was o.k. Just need some advice ladies. If you use them why and if you don't why. Thanks so much for the advice.




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post #2 of 28
I don't use them, but it's a hereditary thing. When my sister was a baby, and I was ten, my mom refused to use pacifiers. She called them something like "bozo-nose clown suckers" because she thought they looked so stupid. I don't think it had anything to do with breastfeeding.

I originally didn't like them because I grew up hearing how stupid they were, but when I learned more about breastfeeding and the problem of nipple confusion, I decided against them. I didn't want to introduce an artificial nipple to the baby and make it harder for him or her to breastfeed. If you do it after the first 6 weeks or so (I think?) nipple confusion isn't as much as a problem.

My other issue with them is that I don't want another thing to keep track of. Whenever we're at church and there are kids around with pacifiers, the parents are always bending over to pick them up off the floor. I don't want to have to worry about losing them, getting them dirty, forgetting them at home, etc.
post #3 of 28
I plan on giving it to them if they need it after the nursing relationship is established and then weaning them off it around 6 months. I read about this method in Happiest Baby on the Block and it makes sense to me especially since my babes will be preemies and possibly be more sensitive. I'd like to go without, but if I feel they need it, I'll do it. My sis used one after about 6 weeks or so and it didn't have a negative affect on their b/fing.
post #4 of 28
I'm wrestling with this one myself. I hadn't planned on using them. Nipple confusion, needless extra things, etc. Grandmother-in-law gave us a pack of them. Now I'm trying to decide if they're evil enough that we should get rid on them and not have them in the house at all.

I'm leaning towards getting rid of them. We'll have to start cup- or spoon-feeding at one or two weeks since I can't take much time off of classes and three hours is too long to go without nursing and seems to early to introduc bottles. If DH and DD are going to go to all the trouble of learning how to cup/spoon feed, why risk messing that up by using an artificial nipple?

My mother also was not of them. She kept a couple around for older babies and toddlers, but always insisted on using one-piece ones. Apparently when we were little several models of pacifier kept coming apart and choking babies. I remember my mom scoffing at babies with pacifiers stuffed in their mouths.

But I hate just throwing stuff out. And what if baby screams her head off the whole time I'm in class and DH can't find a way to comfort her? Not sure. My ideal is not to sue them, but one hears one's ideals scoffed at so much that it becomes a bit frightening to take a stand in advance.
post #5 of 28
THey do have their time and place, I think.

I have used them minimally with my first 2 children, the third just wasnt' interested.

For example: nursing in the car, when baby is freaking out screaming, and you don't want to (or can't ) get back there to pop a bub in their mouth, you just give them the binky and pray that it lasts long enough to get you to where you're going.

Or: late at night, you and dh are getting busy, baby is next to you, wakes up, pop in the binky until you finish, then give him/her the bub.

Other than that, for us, seems pointless.
post #6 of 28
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Originally Posted by cicerosum
THey do have their time and place, I think.

I have used them minimally with my first 2 children, the third just wasnt' interested.

For example: nursing in the car, when baby is freaking out screaming, and you don't want to (or can't ) get back there to pop a bub in their mouth, you just give them the binky and pray that it lasts long enough to get you to where you're going.

Or: late at night, you and dh are getting busy, baby is next to you, wakes up, pop in the binky until you finish, then give him/her the bub.

Other than that, for us, seems pointless.
My SIL is strongly against pacifiers but ended up buying one for long car trips. Her son, who was maybe 5 months old at the time, couldn't handle being in the car for more than an hour and the pacifier really helped. He never expected it outside of the car.
post #7 of 28
i'm really going to try not to fall into the binky trap this time. ds is still using one, and it can be such a pain sometimes. it's really become a sore spot with me, and several times i've wished i never gave him one in the first place...

if i feel babe really needs one, and can't get him/her to latch onto a finger or thumb instead, then i'll break down and get one, but we're really going to try our best not to get the habit started again.
post #8 of 28
We only used one occasionally for a month or two when DS was about 6 months. It was a keep-him-from-screaming-in-the-car thing, but after a while it stopped working. He never took one again. Some babies aren't into them.
post #9 of 28
NOPE!!!!

Pacifier use during the first six weeks can cause nipple confusion and problems with breastfeeding.

Besides they fall, they get lost, they get dirty, and I just read in American Baby that one company had to recall theirs because the sucky part came off and caused choking (plus who wants their babe sucking on plastic?)

I would MUCH rather just nurse, give wooden and cloth toys, and let baby discover the wonders of their own hands, and you don't ever have to wean them off the things.

I found that if I never had them in the house at all, I never missed them.

Got one free with the diaper genie and threw it directly in the trash.
post #10 of 28
My dd would only suck on my fingers when she was a baby, and we never thought much about trying to get her to use a binky. However, just in January, she found one around (probably in her toybox... we were gifted a handful and when she never showed much interest it just became more of a toy) and has been SERIOUSLY addicted ever since. I really hated it at first - I also grew up in a household that talked alot of smack about the binky - but now, I can accept that she is still fulfilling some sucking need. It's said that toddlers can maintain an intense sucking need until they are three - I am sure that it varies from kid to kid. DD self weaned when I was about 4 months pregnant, and it was a few months later when she got hooked on the bink.

I'm undecided about the newborn - I probably will just offer fingers again. It seems that it really will depend on the babe's temperment. Especially in the car, etc. I surely won't even attempt it until we've got a solid breastfeeding relationship down!
post #11 of 28
With dd we used a pacifier sometimes... we really didn't use it all that often but it's there covering her mouth in pictures. She wasn't a big comfort nurser and didn't get very attached to the paci so I chucked them one day. She picked up on sucking her thumb for a little way and then quit that too so we didn't have any issues with it.

With ds, he was a big comfort nurser and I just preferred to let him suck at the breast rather than introduce a pacifier. He never sucked his thumb either. I guess I was lucky... we do practice CLW so maybe that helps avoid the thumb habit.

I don't plan to use them, it's one more thing to keep track of...
post #12 of 28
I tried a little with my first two. #1 hated it and would never take it. #2 took it for about 2 wks then no go. Never bothered with them again. All my kids are big comfort nursers. I have noticed thought that about 15 mo or so if they find one in the toy box my kids don't suck on them but they chew on them when teething their molars. I just chuck them if I see bite marks on them.
post #13 of 28
We won't use one at all until 6 weeks, once a nursing relationship is well established (for all the reasons others have mentioned--nipple confusion, reduced supply, etc.).

After that, I think would we only offer one on car trips, if bun has real issues being in the car. Both of our families live 4 hours away, and I know that, realistically, we may not be able to pull over IMMEDIATELY every time she needs to nurse. So if it helps soothe her/tide her over in that situation, I would use it. Otherwise, I think mama and papa are better and healthier comfort providers than a plastic nipple!
post #14 of 28
I never used one w/DS - not *so* much out of principle, though I can't think of a reason to LIKE them - but because I didn't think he'd take it. He had/has a HUGE sucking need, but it's all focused on me - he never discovered or was interested in being shown his fingers or thumbs - he screamed in the car to the point where I learned to nurse him with us both fully belted in because that was the only way we could go anywhere further than 10 minutes away, etc.

Every baby is different, though. My nephew (1 yo) really only nurses for food and gets mad if offered the breast when what he wants is non-food sucking. He uses a paci, he sucks his fingers, etc. He's been that way since birth. Hmm. He was offered bottles of EBM pretty early, though. I don't know.

I think I'd rather do it my way than my SIL's way for purely selfish reasons. I got my cycle back at 15 mo post-partum. She got her cycle back at 6 weeks! I'll take a non-stop nurser and no periods for almost 2 years over a paci anytime!
post #15 of 28
I'm definitely anti-paci. I never used them w/ my DD and I don't plan on using them w/ this DC. I think they're totally unnecessary and confusing for the DC... Not to mention they look completely ridiculous.
post #16 of 28
We used one occassionally after nursing was well established - car trips and sometimes diaper changes (she really hated those in the beginning). She totally lost interest at 4 months,
post #17 of 28
I tried to introduce one to ds around a month, after bfing was well established, but he didn't like them. He never was a thumb sucker either. Just boobs for him. LOL I don't even plan on bothering this time around.
post #18 of 28
Only the human kind!!!! DD is a big time comfort nurser, I've spent many hours as a human pacifier. I think the difference between comfort nursing and a plastic pacifier is similar to the difference between holding your baby close and rocking them to sleep vs. sticking them in a mechanical swing and leaving them to fall asleep there by themselves.

The one exception would be neccessary, "horrific" car rides - if baby won't take your nipple, is crying hysterically, and pit stops aren't helping, I could see where someone might try a plastic pacifier. Although you'll be surprised how, um, flexible your breasts can be with a crying baby in the carseat. I'm sure some motorists have caught a glimpse of more than they were expecting!!
post #19 of 28
I plan to avoid using pacifiers (other than the breast and snuggling ), but I'll kind of wing it on this one, I think. Some good advice I've heard for those who DO choose to use them:

- Don't give them any artificial nipples until 6-8 weeks (can cause nipple confusion)

- Don't give them a pacifier if they are hungry, just if they are inconsolable by other methods (this can cause stunted growth)

- Wean them off of the pacifier at/by 6 mos (it is harder to do when they are older, and it is good for them to learn to calm themselves without needing a "tool")


** I also recommend Harvey Karp's "The Happiest Baby on the Block" for ways to make a baby happier during the first 3-4 months. I really enjoyed the book and it gave some really great, solid advice.
post #20 of 28
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Originally Posted by ent_mom
The one exception would be neccessary, "horrific" car rides - if baby won't take your nipple, is crying hysterically, and pit stops aren't helping, I could see where someone might try a plastic pacifier. Although you'll be surprised how, um, flexible your breasts can be with a crying baby in the carseat. I'm sure some motorists have caught a glimpse of more than they were expecting!!
I had to let ds suck on my finger because even if I was a passenger and I sat right next to ds there was just no way I could nurse him at all. I guess it's probably because I'm quite small... a b cup or so depending on how full I am and how soon after my milk comes in. I'm in awe of women who can nurse while baby stays buckled in and they are buckled too!
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