my kids are the same age/sex!
Originally Posted by pinkie usa
dd loads dishwasher, walks dog, empties litter box, makes dinner several times a week (it might be mac'n'cheese or it might be baked chicken), she's learning to do laundry
ds unloads dishwasher, gathers and sorts dirty clothes, makes dinner once in a while (mac'n'cheese),
both kids tidy, put up folded clean clothes, glass cleaning, clean bathrooms, & vacuum/mop, change bed linens, empty trash cans, & cook breakfast.
is my house super clean? no, not really--i don't usually clean behind them. but it's better now that we all work together more. we started gradually and worked our way up.
we set it up so that most chores take all 3 of us to do (dh's job is really time intensive, stressful, and rotating shift work, so he's taking a break from regular chores until his training is done, he still picks up a bit and mows) i do the countertops the most (not as often as i should). i do most of the cooking and often prepare & freeze casseroles that my dd later pulls out & pops in the oven. i have to clean the bath in the master bedroom and change my bed linens
i worked with them on a new job for at least a week, and periodically we have to go over it again. also with us all working on bathrooms, tidying, kitchen chores--we are making a point about cleaning is not women's work (before my husband got based here, he did most of the cooking, baking and 1/2 the laundry and i mowed sometimes) which is very important to me.
i like the jar idea. what we do is have a printed list of chores with a reward per chore. if they do the chore they get paid. no chore, no pay. they have a maximum amount (never even close) but if they want extra $, they know how to earn it. we also have them calculate their pay--if they calculate less than we owe--we pay them what they thought--happened one time and one time only so we get math practice in as well.