Originally Posted by lisasaurus
my husband unleashed his skepticism last night. He is mainly concerned that i'm going to put all my eggs in this one basket... like these procedures will be a cure-all. which is not my mindset at all. it IS my mindset however, that i would very much like to get this lead and mercury that is POISONING me out of my body. I don't think that is too much to ask.
its such a hard spot to be in, paying for all of this out of pocket... feeling so helpless because i am a stay at home mom not contributing any money to the family, yet asking so much. sucks.
This thing is hard on the spouse and honestly hard on a marriage. First, us getting sick and not finding answers the normal way, so they feel helpless, and then, at least for most of us, having to consider something totally outside our comfort zone. My DH, for one, wouldn't have been one to get into alternative medicine on his own. I'm sure he's had skepticism, mostly based on concern for me, for my physical and mental/emotional well-being, but he's not the type to bring it up except in a roundabout way.
By this point, DH and I are closer than before and I feel like we could weather anything now. But there were months when I was angry and frustrated, with him and the world, and I just felt like we were slogging through. I was grimly focused on getting well. I didn't feel close to him, somehow we just endured. Any outside help you can get, in whatever way--someone to help with kids occasionally, or help with household stuff, will help. My mom came to visit several times, it was a blessing. Anything that can take some day-to-day stress off the two of you will help.
Hey, in terms of concrete stuff. Separate from the manner of chelation, things that have helped me:
1. adrenal support -- the process of getting sick really thrashed on my adrenals, and a combo of lifestyle stuff (no gluten/dairy, no caffeine, snacks to deal with blood sugar crashes, to bed ridiculously early, daily vitamin C (vitC's important for adrenals in particular), and adrenal supps) helped me get through the days near the beginning. Not a miracle, I still had a lot of fatigue, but I was doing a bit better.
2. Vitamin C flushes like this Perque document describes. Check into the company, they make high-quality supps, even corn-free (check each individual supp if it matters to you), and I'm glad they have this document in the public domain.http://www.perque.com/pdfs/Pt_Ascorbate_Slush_FIN.pdf
I did this either the day I got my amalgams out or the next day (can't remember now), it physically flushes toxins out. I did them before I got my amalgams out too and each time I'd do it, the amount of vitamin C I'd need to get to bowel tolerance would drop by about 15 grams. I started around 44 grams (my body used that much every day), and then with these flushes, plus taking bowel tolerance vitC every day, that slowly decreased, and I was down to 4-5 grams per day before I got my amalgams out. Chelating (anything to mobilize metals) will make that number go up, and these flushes help keep it down, they helped minimize re-distribution problems and I think did a lot to help prevent slow build-up type issues due to chelating. That seems to be a common problem with chelation, and I think this is why I didn't experience that.
When I'm chelating, I do these 24-36 hrs after I take my last pill. The one time I didn't, icky mood issues started. Play with the timing, I've found 10am for my last pill and then 6pm the NEXT day to do my flush (the doc says to do them on an empty stomach, good advice, but I can't do them first thing in the morning, I need food, so I eat lunch and then don't snack in the afternoon and that works for me).
3. High-dose vit/min supplements. I had already started matching my specific health conditions to vit/min deficiencies (thyroid, depression), so this part made a lot of sense to me. People who have issues like this get really low on detoxification nutrients (which starts first, I don't know), but things like folate, B12, mag, zinc, C, we tend to be really low. Stuff like vits D & A get thrown off, but I think that's more a result of the health issues, though it then can spiral and cause new issues. I've lived on lots of supps for several years now--I think maybe next year I'll be done.
4. Modifilan. It's a seaweed product, I used it to stop the headache I got after I got my amalgams out, and at various other times. It can be used daily, I give it to the kids daily and love it, but for financial reasons I only use it myself right now if I am in an acute situation (more near the beginning, not an issue for me now).
Oh, and speaking of finances, yeah, it sucks.
I used to be employed, I was an engineer. We'd always planned for me to stay home eventually, but not this timing, which was due to my health deteriorating. I hear ya on the money. We haven't saved any money in years now, and we've used a good chunk of our rainy day fund; I keep reminding myself, THIS is our rainy day, this is what we saved for. I'm just grateful we've been able to swing this this long, and now the end is in sight for me and the kids.