my bil is a real pain in the butt - Page 2

[gentlebirthmothr]

Originally Posted by Greenie

I would have. I would have taken the food out of the poor boy's mouth and flung it right at his head. :

But, to the OP.. Go on. Burn him. I double dog dare ya'!

Carrie,

2nd that for sure.

Thank you.

[gentlebirthmothr]

Originally Posted by snugg_bug

OMG! I would have kicked his butt! I think that someone taking the position that they can rightly start shoving stuff in your kids mouth needs a good swing upside the head! Before my DIL suggested the candle, the day before, he chewed on a piece of gum and then tryed to shove THAT in my babies mouth "here, here" he says, "want to taste some gum?" I lurched between my DS and the gum and flat out told him "I don't think so" he asks "why, just give him a taste". "Because" I said, "that's grose"...he got really offended "oh well maybe next time I ought to disinfect it with bleach first!". I said to him, you gotta be kinding me, you're offended by that comment? Like he would let someone stick something in his son's mouth. I tell you, there is something wrong with these people. They try to take charge and change things and then if it goes their way they feel like they've accomplished something and like to give themselves a pat on the back! If he tries something with DS again, I will be giving him a foot in the arse!

snugg_bug,

2nd this as well.

Thank you.

[bellona]

My dh's best friend is a childless child discipline guru as well :

He gives me a hard time about spanking...not that he tells me I should, but when I say it is not an option for us he gets this smug look and says "just wait until you see what they'll do when they get older" like I won't be able to stick to it. My toddlers have all loved to climb and instead of following them around all the time telling them no I taught them to only climb on kitchen chairs. I supervised them at first to make sure they could do it safely and I've had no problems with it really. He tells me all about how they should NOT be allowed to climb up on chairs because his mom let his cousin do that and he fell and broke his arm. He speaks to me like I'm being neglectful and ignorant when the kids get up there. But then, when we were living with a barely 1yo and a wood stove in our living room we'd spend the days using a space heater, then the wood stove at night when ds went to bed because it was literally in the middle and there was no way to block it off and I was afraid that if nothing else ds might fall onto it and get burned. He told me to let him touch it and get burned when it was just starting to heat up and he'll learn to stay away from it.

So I guess if I was a good mom I would not let my kids climb on chairs because they might fall but letting them burn their baby hands is a good idea?

He lives with his neices and nephews now and because they weren't perfectly behaved when he moved in, without any warning or discussion he took all of their stuff (game consoles, tvs, sterios, toys....) away while they were in school and said they had to earn them back. He also divised a way to divide the housekeeping responsibilities among them. Oh, and he takes stuff away again for the slightest misbehavior.

[RubyWild]

Originally Posted by bellona

My dh's best friend is a childless child discipline guru as well :

Most of the things you described don't seem to have much to do with him being childfree. I mean, he'll probably parent exactly the way he says you should A lot of people who have grown children will give you the same exact advice he does.

When I was childfree, I didn't dispense parenting advice, but, if I had, it would have been exactly the same as what I'd say now. I guess I don't see why people think childfree parents are so ignorant.

[Finch]

Oh for heaven's sake, he would have a cow at our house, bellona. : My ds likes to STAND ON A KITCHEN CHAIR (pushed up to the counter, with me right there) to watch when I'm using the mixer (he's just fascinated by it). We blow bubbles indoors all the time. One of the favorite pre-bedtime activities is to stand on the catwalk and blow bubbles into the ceiling fan over the den, it scatters them everywhere and the cat goes nuts. We also let him run in the woods EVERY DAY *gasp!*, and ooo...ooo...we have this, which we swing ds on every night!! We have an indoor ball pit at our house too!!

OH, THE HORROR!!

[Brigianna]

Originally Posted by Finch

Oh for heaven's sake, he would have a cow at our house, bellona. : My ds likes to STAND ON A KITCHEN CHAIR (pushed up to the counter, with me right there) to watch when I'm using the mixer (he's just fascinated by it). We blow bubbles indoors all the time. One of the favorite pre-bedtime activities is to stand on the catwalk and blow bubbles into the ceiling fan over the den, it scatters them everywhere and the cat goes nuts. We also let him run in the woods EVERY DAY *gasp!*, and ooo...ooo...we have this, which we swing ds on every night!! We have an indoor ball pit at our house too!!

OH, THE HORROR!!

That is so cool; I would love to have a swing like that--for me *and* my kids! And how do you get an indoor ball pit?

[lilsishomemade]

Originally Posted by bellona

He lives with his neices and nephews now and because they weren't perfectly behaved when he moved in, without any warning or discussion he took all of their stuff (game consoles, tvs, sterios, toys....) away while they were in school and said they had to earn them back. He also divised a way to divide the housekeeping responsibilities among them. Oh, and he takes stuff away again for the slightest misbehavior.

Where in the world are their parents? They let this man move in and just completely take over the discipline? I mean, my brother might speak up if he sees one of my kids doing something, but only if I'm preoccupied, and only with the things he knows I would say something about (like, going for the street or something), then immediately steps back. He'd never assume becoming the discipliner in my house (and he did live with us for a while).

[skj474]

Originally Posted by TortelliniMama

Maybe the next time he starts in on you, you should burn him with a candle. Then he'll learn the dangers of being obnoxious to you.

:

[snugg_bug]

My BIL is not childless, him and his partner (my husbands brother) have a 26 year old special needs boy, who has down syndrome and is bound to a wheelchair. They adopted him when he was about 3. Anyways, BIL has never had to deal with his own child "problems", the tantrums, the crying, the sleeping (or not) and all the other things that are involved with dealing with the personality of a baby. One poster here mentioned boundaries, and that is what I will have to iron out with BIL. Whenever BIL has had an issue with me, he is not shy to put me in my place, therefore he should expect the same from me. It's just that whenever I have spoken to him about something, he always has some quick response that shuts me up, either because I can tell he is offended and don't want to pursue the issue, or, because I can see that an argument will ensue if I go further, it's like he always has to be right, and he is VERY stubborn and self-righteous! Oh well, in due time. Maybe I will just send him an email.

[Finch]

Originally Posted by Brigianna

That is so cool; I would love to have a swing like that--for me *and* my kids! And how do you get an indoor ball pit?

Ball pit came from One Step Ahead, but you can buy ball pit balls at any toy store and pile them in a pack n play if you already have one for the same effect.