a friend just had her baby boy

[ani'smommy]

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[Kathryn]

Can you go visit her? Maybe if you're there, bring up leaving him intact.

[Nathan1097]

I agree with Karthryn. The sooner you find out what her decision is/was, then the sooner you can deal with your reactions to it. Worrying will only make you feel bad until you know.

[ani'smommy]

He was born last night and I have to work tonight. I could maybe go see her tomorrow. How soon do they circ in hospitals? (I'm in the midwest )

[Nathan1097]

Originally Posted by ani'smommy

He was born last night and I have to work tonight. I could maybe go see her tomorrow. How soon do they circ in hospitals? (I'm in the midwest )

Within the first 24 hours, I think, because they need time to circ, then observe before they will discharge the baby, and they usually like to discharge them with the mom. Considering the "drive-thru" deliveries, I'm thinking unless the mom has some medical issues, it will be within 24 after the time of birth (not 24 hours after she was admitted).

[Kathryn]

Depends on what time the baby is born and when that hospital does them. I've known babies that as long as they are born before 5 pm that day, they get circed at 7 pm that night before the attending doctor goes home. Some doctors do circ rounds when they first get in at like 6 in the morning.

[Super Pickle]

Hi anismommy.
Yeah, I'm thinking if he was born last night, then tomorrow morning would be the latest they'd do it....can you give her a call to congratulate her and let her know you'll stop by tomorrow? And then, after asking, :" Isn't he perfect?" and "How do you feel?" you could say something like, "Thank goodness they don't recommend circumcision anymore! Can you imagine having to deal with that on top of everything else?" and see where that prompt leads. She'll probably love to have someone to bounce her questions and doubts off of.

Don't worry that you didn't do enough. You gave her the Mothering and the Sears book, so she has the info. It would be really awesome, though, if you'd call and make sure you get a chance to speak up for him personally.

[ani'smommy]

Originally Posted by Super Pickle

Hi anismommy.
Yeah, I'm thinking if he was born last night, then tomorrow morning would be the latest they'd do it....can you give her a call to congratulate her and let her know you'll stop by tomorrow? And then, after asking, :" Isn't he perfect?" and "How do you feel?" you could say something like, "Thank goodness they don't recommend circumcision anymore! Can you imagine having to deal with that on top of everything else?" and see where that prompt leads.

I'll try to call tonight. I'm sure she's still at the hospital, though, and I don't have her number there. I'll try emailing her DH and see if I can go see them. I am so bad at this kind of thing. I don't want to make her feel horrible and guilty for doing it if she already has had him circed.

[ani'smommy]

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[rmzbm]

Volunteer to change his diaper, that way you'll know & won't have to have any "ackward conversation" if it makes you uncomfortable. And let us know, now I'm pretty curious myself!!

[MCatLvrMom2A&X]

: that he is whole.

[ani'smommy]

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[Quirky]

I would call the hospital and get patched through to their room. I would be upfront about it - say "Congratulations! How exciting! Have you looked him over yet? Isn't he perfect? You're not going to circumcise him, are you?" If they say they are, tell them to ask to watch someone else's baby getting circed before they make a final decision.

I think you will feel worse afterwards if they do circ and you didn't say anything than you will feel if you do say something and they react poorly. You have a chance to save this baby - take it!