the silence is deafening...we've not received ANY type of response or acknowledgement.
dh and i have officially deemed ourselves 'in the doghouse'. honestly, we're liberated by it. we've always been the nice ones but we're not going to allow ourselves to be trampled just because we happen to be kind people.
not anymore! i kinda like it. i have been so impressed with dh through all of this, he is a lactivist to the core.
even if they come back to us with an olive branch, i feel obligated to call fil on his incredibly sexist sentiments. i cannot with good conscience let him get away with thinking and writing that he expects to only see breasts in doctor's offices, bedrooms, playboy, strip clubs, and to go so far as to rationalize that in the name of so called 'traditionalism'. what an idiot, i can't believe he had the audacity to write that and and i'm not going to let him off easy on that one. dh has asked me to wait a while to do this and i've agreed to do so with the caveat that i WILL do it, i'm just going to wait.
i don't think they even had a darn clue what a mess this was going to become for them. they just thought that it would be no big deal for me to remove myself from the room and everyone would be happy. ha ha, if they only knew what a firestorm they were in for. for me, the biggest insult is that they've ganged up on me, a basically good person who happens to be nourishing and nurturing her precious infant in the best way she knows how, and judging me and crucifying me...when there is not one other person in the family who hasn't done truly awful things like affairs, alcoholism, verbal/emotional abuse and served prison time. as a group, they are highly dysfunctional and they've taken it upon themselves as a form of 'sport' to vilify the one person who they perceived as the 'weakest' or most defenseless and this time, it was me. boy, did they ever peg me wrong.
i have a question for you wise mamas...even if everything ends up fairly smoothed over, i no longer feel comfortable nursing in from of fil and smil (they're the ones that we see most often on that side of the family). we usually see them in public venues ie: restaurants. my game plan is to leave the table when dd wants to nurse, but situate myself in another part of the restaurant, not hiding but just away from them. so they would know that i was nursing, and doing so publicly, just not in front of them. i would feel completely comfortable nursing before complete strangers but not sitting at a table with il's. would this be an ok thing to do, or kind of inflammatory and basically an f-you statement? my gut feeling is that with what they put us through, i don't care a whit whether they're offended by this or not...i just want to put dd and i in the most comfortable place possible and that is not in front of them, that's for sure!
thanks again for your support and words of encouragement, they mean so much to both dh and i through this stressful time. i hope that other nursing moms don't have to deal with this kind of nonsense, but unfortunately i have a sinking feeling that this drama plays out much too often in families all across the country. how sad.