Originally Posted by Jennisee
I am truly trying to understand, but I still don't get it. What things is the baby putting in his/her mouth that you object to? If your home is "babyproofed," there is nothing dangerous out for the baby to chew on, right? I am looking around my living room, and I see nothing that I would object to my daughter putting in her mouth. Can you give some specific examples and explain why you are unable or unwilling to simply put these things away? I'm also wondering what these "hazards of life" are? And what do you mean by a "stripped down" bedroom, and why are you unable or unwilling to repeat that state elsewhere in the house? And can you explain why you are unwilling to gate even the stairs? I swear that I am not trying to be obtuse, but I really an puzzled as to what these dangers are that are so great that you are willing to blanket train a child. As others have said, there seem to be so many easier--and more attached--alternatives. If I am understanding you correctly, you are saying that your home is well babyproofed and there are miniscule risks, yet you still think the negatives of training a baby to a blanket are outweighed by the benefits of avoiding these mimiscule risks. If this is correct, then I guess I'm dumbfounded.
We tried to keep small things they could choke on out of the way as much as possible, but of course that wasn't a guarantee. But when I say my kids chewed everything I mean *everything*--paper, toys, books, shoes, tapes, cloth, cotton balls, coasters, flashlights--you name it they tasted it. Our bedroom was completely stripped down to just our bed, baby's bassinet, two dressers with latched drawers, and the closet with the door closed and latched. That was it. It wouldn't have been possible to strip down the entire house that way, especially for the second one when we had to keep him away from all of dd's stuff in addition to our own. We did try to keep poisons and choking hazards out of the way, but I think that just as some of y'all have said you wouldn't rely on blanket-training, I didn't feel like I could rely just on babyproofing. We made it as safe as we could, but I still supervised them all the time and when I couldn't, I needed them to be on the blanket.
Gating the stairs is not an option. Having a gate in my house would be harmful to my mental health.
Yes, I do think that the benefits of blanket-training outweigh the negatives, but I don't agree with y'all about what the negatives are. I don't agree that blanket-training is the same as physical captivity or that it produces learned helplessness or that it's punative or that it's ineffective or that it's harmful to attachment. As I have said, it isn't perfect. I don't like being separated from my children or restricting their freedom. So I was asking about alternatives. But absent a better alternative, I do think that, at least for my children, blanket-training was the least bad option.