The funny thing is that it is not about our DD (who he is not biologically the father of) but OUR DS who is 7 months old. We agree pretty much on how to raise and discipline DD who is 7 yrs old. I know that Dr. Phil says that blended parents will never be able to successfully discipline children who were around before them, but that really isn't our case. Our problem is our different ideas on how to raise DS. I am "crunchy" as DH puts it. Vegan, breastfeeding, cosleeping, etc and DH was raised COMPLETLELY opposite. I mean in every possible way. His mom is a big fan of the CIO reasoning, formula bottle fed him, big meat eaters that don't understand why I am vegan. Before we got married he always said that if and when we had children he wanted me to raise them exactly like I had raise DD to that point because she is a wonderful healthy child. Well, that included being veg although I didn't bf her for long due to dufficulties. So in my mind, I am doing an improved version of how I raised DD simply because I was so young when I had her. But it causes MAJOR friction with DH because he accuses me of babying DS (he IS a baby) and says that I am spoiling him. What do you do when everything you thought would be a given isn't and you can't find a happy medium? I try to show him reasearch that backs up my ideas but he won't even look at those.
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4/16/06 at 12:08am