Dh & I never discuss baby names with people in advance of the birth. Primarily, we believe that he & I should be the only people who name our child. If we start telling people what we're thinking then they'll likely give us feedback, either positive or negative, and whether we like it or not it may influence how we feel about the name. So we just avoid that whole scenario but not revealing anything until after the birth. Then people are smart/polite enough to keep their mouths shut if they have a problem with the name... right? Apparently not. For the most part people have said really kind things, but on their 2nd day of life we had MIL call and tell us that so-and-so at work told her teenage sons our sons names and they reported back that one of them will be made fun of for sure. The impression I got was that MIL was suggesting (although dh doesn't think this was the case) that we could still change his name since it wasn't on a birth certificate yet. Then that same day I told one of my oldest friends (who honestly has a big mouth and always says hurtful & inappropriate things) their names and she said, "well, we'll just call F by his first name only". Then today FIL tells me how he likes 3 out of 4 of their names (doesn't like one of the boys' middle names). WTF? Are people insane? I would *never* *ever* say crap like this to a parent - especially a NEW parent! And obviously we didn't want nor ask for their input so why would they feel it's okay to give it now? 
: Geeze, after those first 2 comments (a day after I had given birth) I was totally in tears. People suck. Just had to vent. Hope none of you are dealing with crap like this.
: Geeze, after those first 2 comments (a day after I had given birth) I was totally in tears. People suck. Just had to vent. Hope none of you are dealing with crap like this.
s people are so rude and insensitive. My mum made it clear she didn't like DSs name and to this day (he is 4) only calls him by his nn 
I imagine we'll likely get some comments again this time depending on which name we go with.
) and at one point my mom said oh i'm sure you've picked Griffin with his horrid tone in her voice and look on her face 
...#1 and #2 are named and here ....#3 named..but WAITING....
Well, I can't say that I'd name a child Obadiah, but that's because a) we live in Amish country and b) my husband happens to be of Pennsylvania Dutch descent (by which I mean, we have a very, very, very common last name... if you're Amish, Mennonite, or just happen to live around here). Obadiah Ourlastname would be immediately, constantly, and consistantly mistaken for an Amish kid. 
When BeanBean was born, we got a lot of rude comments about his name. I had it worse than Mike; because Mike is white and fairly "straight" as these things go, people assumed that he had "allowed" such a name for a reason, and were more polite when they asked him about it. I am not white, and I look very young for my age (at least, that's what I've been told) so people assumed that I made it up (I didn't) and were downright obnoxious about it. One of Mike's friends gave me the funniest look and said, "Where the hell did you come up with that name?" When I said, "It's Hebrew," he totally shut up, as did everyone else to whom I "explained." 
It was almost worth the irritation just to see the way that their jaws slammed shut when I said that it was Hebrew! 
), but have generally been more polite than they were when BeanBean was born. (Perhaps I look "old enough" to be her mother? 
) Noone has asked about Bella's name at all; at least two famous people have had names pronounced identically to hers, and there's a lovely, nerdy reference for the geek crowd. People have heard it before, but it's not super common so they just say, "Oh, that's beautiful!" It's funny how things change... 
