About a week ago, I got out of the shower and walked into the living room and found my oldest DS laying unclothed on the couch and my unclothed 4 y/o DD giving him a doctor's "exam." I asked them to get dressed and talked to them about privacy and not touching each other's genitals, keeping private parts private. They seemed to get it.
Today, we had Easter at my in-laws. My husband is working. My brother-in-law and his wife and children were there. They have a 4 y/o boy and a 3y/o girl. They kids were in the bedroom playing (this is where their toys are kept) and the door was closed to keep out my 1 y/o. Their 3y/o daughter does not like my youngest DS to be near her. He had pulled her hair earlier so she was extra sensitive and was screaming and crying any time DS went near her, so having the door to the bedroom seemed like a reasonable solution. My sister-in-law went to check on them and they were all naked. This is not unusual, as they like to strip down and run naked around the house. I told them that if they want to be naked they have to have the door open. So they all got dressed.
Well, when I got home B-I-L called and said his DD was in the bathroom screaming because my DS had hurt her vagina. He told me this and hung up the phone. I talked to DS. He admitted that he had done this. He told me that he touched her and her brother. I got a bit angry with him because we had just had this talk and he didn't listen to me. We have been having such problems with his listening and I am getting so frustrated. But I generally kept my cool and told him again that it is not okay to touch other people's private parts. I called B-I-L to tell him that yes, indeed, this had happened, and that I was sorry and of course my DS would be watched closely in the future when with other children. B-I-L siad he was having a really hard time with it and couldn't talke and hung up.
Then a few hours later my M-I-L called and asked my if I know what had happened. I said that sexual exploration was normal at his developmental phase and I was sorry that I wasn't watching the kids closer. She then told me that B-I-L's DD was bleeding and having trouble urinating.
Now I don't know what to think. I can't imagine that my DS could have hurt her like that with us only a few feet away in the other room. And the way she was reacting when my youngest DS went near her, I can't imagine that she would let DS hurt her and not throw a complete fit!
What should I do? Should I be worried about my DS How should I handle this? My DS wants to apologize, but I don't know if they even want him near her. Any thoughts?
Today, we had Easter at my in-laws. My husband is working. My brother-in-law and his wife and children were there. They have a 4 y/o boy and a 3y/o girl. They kids were in the bedroom playing (this is where their toys are kept) and the door was closed to keep out my 1 y/o. Their 3y/o daughter does not like my youngest DS to be near her. He had pulled her hair earlier so she was extra sensitive and was screaming and crying any time DS went near her, so having the door to the bedroom seemed like a reasonable solution. My sister-in-law went to check on them and they were all naked. This is not unusual, as they like to strip down and run naked around the house. I told them that if they want to be naked they have to have the door open. So they all got dressed.
Well, when I got home B-I-L called and said his DD was in the bathroom screaming because my DS had hurt her vagina. He told me this and hung up the phone. I talked to DS. He admitted that he had done this. He told me that he touched her and her brother. I got a bit angry with him because we had just had this talk and he didn't listen to me. We have been having such problems with his listening and I am getting so frustrated. But I generally kept my cool and told him again that it is not okay to touch other people's private parts. I called B-I-L to tell him that yes, indeed, this had happened, and that I was sorry and of course my DS would be watched closely in the future when with other children. B-I-L siad he was having a really hard time with it and couldn't talke and hung up.
Then a few hours later my M-I-L called and asked my if I know what had happened. I said that sexual exploration was normal at his developmental phase and I was sorry that I wasn't watching the kids closer. She then told me that B-I-L's DD was bleeding and having trouble urinating.
Now I don't know what to think. I can't imagine that my DS could have hurt her like that with us only a few feet away in the other room. And the way she was reacting when my youngest DS went near her, I can't imagine that she would let DS hurt her and not throw a complete fit!
What should I do? Should I be worried about my DS How should I handle this? My DS wants to apologize, but I don't know if they even want him near her. Any thoughts?
