Oh, I'm still sick about it. I GD and dh gives timeouts - but very early (before we had children) dh and I decided that there would be no physical punishment.
Why can't people read kids? I mean, MIL dropped by unannounced and it had been a rough afternoon/evening for ds. In fact, we were planning to put him to bed at 8pm and she stopped by at 7:46
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Anyway, ds was whining and overall in a bad mood. But, MIL kept antagonizing him. He crawled up onto the sofa she was sitting on and climbed up on her shoulders. As she sat there, ds pulled her hair. Dh told him to stop. Ds pulled again and MIL intervened and said she'd take care of it and yelled "DS DON"T DO THAT AGAIN!" and proceeded to pull his hair.
Of course, ds pulled again, so she pulled again and laughed.
DH got upset pulled ds off MIL shoulders and yelled at both of them that they were not to pull hair, etc. I was in complete shock, shook my head in disbelief at MIL and left the room.
I just couldn't believe what I saw. Obviously, dh "handled" the situation - not how I would have, because I honestly wanted to pull HER hair - but he did.
I talked with dh after MIL left and told him that what she did was unacceptable and she needed to know that we wouldn't tolerate that EVER again. Dh blew me off - not because he thought she did the right thing - but because he said that he handled it and she got the point. So, did sahe get the point?
I REALLY want to talk with her about how we discipline Owen, even thought of buying a book for dh and MIL to read, since I think both are expecting more from ds (2.5yo) than is developmentally appropriate. (I know he shouldn't be pulling hair.) But, dh handles his family and I handle mine. So, I left him with one thought. It was this "dh if the roles were reversed and you witnessed MY mother doing that to ds, how would you feel? Because, for me, ds is like my emotions walking around in public - totally vulnerable. And, I seriously walked away and CRIED when I saw your mom HURT him like that."
But really, did she get the scope of what she did? Esp since she laughed the 2nd time she did it. I'm still in total shock.
Why can't people read kids? I mean, MIL dropped by unannounced and it had been a rough afternoon/evening for ds. In fact, we were planning to put him to bed at 8pm and she stopped by at 7:46
:Anyway, ds was whining and overall in a bad mood. But, MIL kept antagonizing him. He crawled up onto the sofa she was sitting on and climbed up on her shoulders. As she sat there, ds pulled her hair. Dh told him to stop. Ds pulled again and MIL intervened and said she'd take care of it and yelled "DS DON"T DO THAT AGAIN!" and proceeded to pull his hair.
Of course, ds pulled again, so she pulled again and laughed.DH got upset pulled ds off MIL shoulders and yelled at both of them that they were not to pull hair, etc. I was in complete shock, shook my head in disbelief at MIL and left the room.
I just couldn't believe what I saw. Obviously, dh "handled" the situation - not how I would have, because I honestly wanted to pull HER hair - but he did.
I talked with dh after MIL left and told him that what she did was unacceptable and she needed to know that we wouldn't tolerate that EVER again. Dh blew me off - not because he thought she did the right thing - but because he said that he handled it and she got the point. So, did sahe get the point?
I REALLY want to talk with her about how we discipline Owen, even thought of buying a book for dh and MIL to read, since I think both are expecting more from ds (2.5yo) than is developmentally appropriate. (I know he shouldn't be pulling hair.) But, dh handles his family and I handle mine. So, I left him with one thought. It was this "dh if the roles were reversed and you witnessed MY mother doing that to ds, how would you feel? Because, for me, ds is like my emotions walking around in public - totally vulnerable. And, I seriously walked away and CRIED when I saw your mom HURT him like that."
But really, did she get the scope of what she did? Esp since she laughed the 2nd time she did it. I'm still in total shock.
