DD isn't invited to *another* wedding - Page 2

[GranoLLLy-girl]

If that's the case, I agree with the others that a fun event beforehand or something fun with grandma will be just the right thing to appease her and make everyone happy!
Sounds like everyone can be a winner in this case.

[rebeccalizzie]

Originally Posted by Shenjall

I'm sorry your daughter feels left out. It sucks sometimes.....

But anyhoo, I think a nite out with g-ma might be fun. All of you can get ready together and put on some "fancy" clothes and leave at the same time. You go to wedding; they go out for dinner and dessert. Would she like that?
I know my dd looks for any excuse to dress up....

I thought of something else, maybe your dd could send her own congrats card with some warm wishes in it? It might make her feel included. Just a thought......

Oooh, I *love* that! She is just really hitting a stage where she is being a super girly-girl, she'll completely love getting ready with me, and then she and Grandma can have their night out. I'm going to email my mom right now so she can think of where they can go--she's good at that stuff.

I'll ask her if she wants to send a card, she may not want to since she doesn't get to attend the wedding, but it will be nice for her to have the option.

[mamawanabe]

Originally Posted by velochic

And you honestly Do you know these people well enough that you could ask them to do something special with your dd BEFORE the wedding? Perhaps she could tag along with the bride for a fitting, then the two of them have a grown-up lunch.

Yes, if she is sad becuase she can't go to the wedding (and she wants to go because these are people she knows and likes) the key would not be you planning something special for her but you thinking of a way for her to be a part of it. Can she make them a handmmaid card?

[RubyWild]

How about you take the money you were planning to spend on wedding gift and spend it on a special, formal dinner with your Dd?

[Celtain]

Originally Posted by Calidris

On topic, is there something special they can do together? go out for a fancy tea that involves dressing up? something like that?

When I was in 8th grade some moron decided that kids would never transfer in from other schools. So, they bought field trip tix in bulk at the begining of the year for the exact number of kids they had enrolled at that very moment. Since I transfered in at the end of September, I didn't get to go on any of the field trips.

When ever there was a class trip my mom took me somewhere special. The day my class watched a baseball game and went on a whale watch in the POURING rain, I went to the MFA and had a steller lunch looking at the stadium out the window!!!!!!!

Doing things like this definatly ease the pain of exclusion.

[kymholly]

I love the idea of a fancy tea. That's such a girly thing to do & it really makes you feel special. Another fun thing that she could do with her gramma would be to have a manicure/pedicure at a spa or nice salon.

And I do love the idea of telling her that she doesn't have to invite them to *her* wedding... even tho it's not terribly "pc".

What a great mom you are for thinking of her feelings & trying so hard to help her to learn how to handle disappointment.

[HelloKitty]

Originally Posted by kymholly

I love the idea of a fancy tea.

Whoa there's a shocker!