What's TAO? Is that on MDC?
I think that anyone who doesn't know enough to give constructive criticism that begins with a complement, doesn't know how to critique writing. If they can't critique properly and politely, they don't have enough experience/education to be responding in the first place.
Ok, so I'm arrogant and I believe that there is a fundamental education that goes along with a true desire to write and those with that desire will search out that education. Ya know, read a mag, attend a class, goto a seminar, something...
That said, I have read some crappy stuff in my time (I was one of those English students that took all the creative writing classes, etc.
), and I have never not found something good to say about a piece of writing. I have never found a "problem" with a piece that couldn't be put tactfully. Heck! I've never found a "problem" that wasn't just my opinion/perception.
I think that it's a shame that anyone would be harsh to someone with enough courage to put their writing out there... I know how hard it is to lay your soul on the line like that, and when you just get rejection and criticism back... it's hard not to take it personally.
But I think your DH is right. You can't let them suppress you or your words. It isn't right for them to take that away from you. Follow your heart.
PS, now that my curiousity is piqued, I would love to read your work, if only to try to see what got someone's panties in a bunch!