How do you feel about the age you were when you became a parent? - Page 5

[Sharlla]

I was 18 when I got PG and honestly I think that was way too young, I didn't know who I was then and quite honestly I wasn't really ready to become a parent. I think waiting until age 25 (when I had DS2) would have been a lot better.

[sapphire_chan]

My whole life is about 4 years off from where I feel it should have been. Therefore, while the time we're going to start having kids will be right for my life as it is, I feel that it's happening later than it should.

[jest]

I selected "I wish I had started my family earlier" because I spent 7 years TTC before finally having ds at the age of 37. Now I'm 38 and hope to be blessed with at least one more, but I really feel my clock ticking, lol.

I always thought I'd be married and starting a family by the time I was 25, but I didn't end up marrying until I was 29.

[Karry]

I wanted to start our family earlier, but dh wanted me to finish college first. We started TTC when I was 23, but it took almost a year for me to get pg with dd. She was born right after I turned 25. I had ds1 23 months later, and ds2 was born when I was 29. I also wanted to be done with having kids before I was 30.

[Jster]

I am really happy with when I had my kids...but wish I'd known their dad better, or that he'd grown up, so I would have seen him for the dud he is as a parent . Though we'd been together 6 years when we had our first (23 and 25 yo) he didn't adjust well to parenting...but then again, I think that was his personality more than an age thing, I just don't think he's quite cut out for being a parent.

The big problem I'm having now is, though my life is rich and wonderful and my kids are great, in looking at a new relationship I'll never have that "alone time" with a new person. Though that might be good in some ways (I'll definitely know how he handles kids!) it's a loss as well. But on the other hand, having my kids young I'll have an empty nest (perhaps!) while still relatively young (early 40s) so there will be time to enjoy our time alone in the future, if I even ever get married/partnered again. And I'm planning an international trip now with the kids, so I feel I still get to live a full life even as a parent. Just sometimes wish I had more time to myself (though it's probably more a single mama problem than a parenting problem!)