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"Go rest,you're not doing me any good."!!!

post #1 of 10
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This is what Dh told me in the store yesterday!!!!!I'm pretty sure you NEVER tell your wife who is 8 months pregnant with your 4th child,and dragged herself to the store with all the kids,and is thus too tired to think of what groceries we need to "Go rest."(in the van!)And that she is "not doing you any good"!!!!!!!!!Why does he think I'm tired?!!!Does he think I do this for fun?I'm exhausted!I'm miserable,I'm stressed,and I'm obviously not being supported!!!!I'm terrified to have this baby and continue being an emotionally single mother of 4.I've mentioned all of the above,and he thinks it's nothing!HELLO!Pardon me,but this is my EVERYTHING!!!This is what I do with my life,and he had the nerve to make me feel like an ignorant idiot for putting myself in this position!!!!!As if he had no involvement,as if this were not his life too!I've never in 7(as of this comming monday)years of marriage been so furious with him!!!ARG!!!
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I would have squished a tomato in his face.

really.

I snapped at my DH pretty good when he ticked me off - the worst ever - "You would think that in a relationship that has been going on for 8 years now, that by now you would know when to SHUT UP."

I hope he knocks it off and supports you.
post #3 of 10
I'm so sorry you're not feeling understood and appreciated. We're at a vulnerable time in our pgs right now, when we really need the presence (physical, mental and EMOTIONAL) of our partners... I hope your DH gets his act together and that you feel better soon...
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post #5 of 10
Aww mama big hugs.........Hopefully once the babe is born things will get better.
post #6 of 10
That would have hurt my feelings too! I'm sorry.
post #7 of 10
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Thanks for the hugs and understanding.That's all I need,was that so hard?SHEESH!
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Originally Posted by KindRedSpirit
Thanks for the hugs and understanding.That's all I need,was that so hard?SHEESH!
Well you wouldn't think so but it seems so hard to get on the same page sometimes. Blech. More hugs.
post #9 of 10
Aww, hugs mama!!
post #10 of 10
So, KindRedSpirit, I'm with everybody else. Hugs, and what a dork, and I know how you feel - I think my birth question this time around is "will I have the support I need to be the kind of mama I want to be to this baby in birth and beyond?"

Yesterday my DH spent like 4 hours hanging out at the river with friends after I told him I was pooped and DS wanted to play active play outside. He also turned his phone off, so I couldn't call and bitch him out and started to get really worried, since he wasn't home 1 1/2 hours after he said he probably would be. I was MAD. I was especially mad when this resulted in DS screaming while I made dinner and ate it because I HAD to eat because I'm pregnant and starving because he wanted to still be outside. I do not make my DS scream for 30 - 45 minutes without stopping what I'm doing to deal with his unhappiness very often. It is not our style at all.

But he did respond appropriately when I told him I was mad and he did apologize when he got home. So I'm not mad anymore.

I wasn't feeling very connected with him at all a few weeks ago. I decided to try doing something different, something small. I've been giving him hand-rubs every day. He didn't even notice that I was doing it on purpose every day. But I feel like it's working. Other than that spaz yesterday, things have been getting better. Nothing dramatic - hand-rubs aren't dramatic - but I just feel more and more confident that I'm not going to feel emotionally abandoned when I go into labor.

Hugs again and I hope things get better soon.
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