So the boys & I went to a playgroup today with a few other mamas. We got to discussing how soon I was due and what my past births were like (if I was overdue, having natural birth or not, etc). So I mention that we had a homebirth with Hunter and will do so again, and the boys were only a couple days 'overdue' themselves so no biggie.
I get comments like "wow you must have easy births then" - why just because I had baby at home? or without drugs? I said well Hunter was short, but very intense, more so than my longer labor with Austin. I didn't know how to respond to that - as if labor/delivery is 'easy'?
Other mama asked when you're supposed to call the midwife, and I said we waited too late and ended up having Hunter a few minutes before she arrived.
She was like 'oh my gosh that would've freaked me out, were you freaked/scared'? Then on to asking if DH was scared, etc. I wasn't sure what was supposed to be scary - honestly. Now if I had to clamp & cut the cord myself when I hadn't been prepared for it, that might've scared me. But to just catch the baby and snuggle with him until the midwife arrived, I know it's unusual and special but didn't seem like that big a deal to me like to spaz about or be scared especially if baby is clearly calm, breathing,happy, etc.
I left feeling like this big freak.
I know I'm super sensitive these days, but jeez, usually people think it's so neat we had a homebirth, not freaky and scary.
*sigh* hormones...
I get comments like "wow you must have easy births then" - why just because I had baby at home? or without drugs? I said well Hunter was short, but very intense, more so than my longer labor with Austin. I didn't know how to respond to that - as if labor/delivery is 'easy'?
Other mama asked when you're supposed to call the midwife, and I said we waited too late and ended up having Hunter a few minutes before she arrived.
She was like 'oh my gosh that would've freaked me out, were you freaked/scared'? Then on to asking if DH was scared, etc. I wasn't sure what was supposed to be scary - honestly. Now if I had to clamp & cut the cord myself when I hadn't been prepared for it, that might've scared me. But to just catch the baby and snuggle with him until the midwife arrived, I know it's unusual and special but didn't seem like that big a deal to me like to spaz about or be scared especially if baby is clearly calm, breathing,happy, etc.I left feeling like this big freak.
I know I'm super sensitive these days, but jeez, usually people think it's so neat we had a homebirth, not freaky and scary.*sigh* hormones...
It's just a continuous thought process. You never know, maybe you got the wheels turning in someone else's head like someone did for me. 
