DH and I have been married almost 10 years. Most of His side of the family and My Side of the family have never met.
He was raised by his Aunts. I like to call them The Aunts (2 Sisters who are very close). So they are like his Moms.
My Mother (my father don't count in this picture) has never met them.
Mostly because we simply didn't make the effort, partly due to their *eccentric* personalities which would make for an awkard time for us.
My Mother knows about them...as I have talked about them through the years and vice versa with The Aunts.
My Mother feels "beneath them" so to speak because she and The Aunts are about the same age and they are doing well financially and she is not. She is very poor.
We are throwing DS's 3rd Birthday party at a local amusement park. The first Birthday party I only celebrated with The Aunts and the rest of Dh's family as I am somewhat closer to them (they just aren't AS dysfunctional as my family..drugs etc.) Plus, my mother was complaining about me throwing DS a First Birthday Party because she didn't have any money and blah blah blah....
Also, "the politics" involved. My mother is a very very very jealous person. She gets jealous when I mention The Aunts. It's really crazy.
Anyway, I don't know what to do about this birthday party. I'deally, it's a perfect setting to bring both families together because it's at a local amusement park and there will be alot of things going on. Rides, Games, Indoor playground...
Most of my time will be making sure the Party room is set up, the invited kids have their tokens, cake, ice cream...the usual things of Hostessing.
So when my Mom gets there, I will be happy to see her of course. But when The Aunts get there, it will be so awkard to make the Introductions (when they know each other THROUGH ME during the years)
They will be cordial of course to each other but afterwards follows that Silence. And then *I* have to make the small talk. DH will be of no help
I really don't know what to do. The party package is so cheap, I really could throw 2 separate parties for DS at the same place.
Once I tell my Mom The Aunts will be there, she may even say "I'm not comfortable with that" and ask we do something with just HER.
What would you do?
He was raised by his Aunts. I like to call them The Aunts (2 Sisters who are very close). So they are like his Moms.
My Mother (my father don't count in this picture) has never met them.
Mostly because we simply didn't make the effort, partly due to their *eccentric* personalities which would make for an awkard time for us.
My Mother knows about them...as I have talked about them through the years and vice versa with The Aunts.
My Mother feels "beneath them" so to speak because she and The Aunts are about the same age and they are doing well financially and she is not. She is very poor.
We are throwing DS's 3rd Birthday party at a local amusement park. The first Birthday party I only celebrated with The Aunts and the rest of Dh's family as I am somewhat closer to them (they just aren't AS dysfunctional as my family..drugs etc.) Plus, my mother was complaining about me throwing DS a First Birthday Party because she didn't have any money and blah blah blah....
Also, "the politics" involved. My mother is a very very very jealous person. She gets jealous when I mention The Aunts. It's really crazy.
Anyway, I don't know what to do about this birthday party. I'deally, it's a perfect setting to bring both families together because it's at a local amusement park and there will be alot of things going on. Rides, Games, Indoor playground...
Most of my time will be making sure the Party room is set up, the invited kids have their tokens, cake, ice cream...the usual things of Hostessing.
So when my Mom gets there, I will be happy to see her of course. But when The Aunts get there, it will be so awkard to make the Introductions (when they know each other THROUGH ME during the years)
They will be cordial of course to each other but afterwards follows that Silence. And then *I* have to make the small talk. DH will be of no help
I really don't know what to do. The party package is so cheap, I really could throw 2 separate parties for DS at the same place.
Once I tell my Mom The Aunts will be there, she may even say "I'm not comfortable with that" and ask we do something with just HER.
What would you do?
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