38 Week Prenatal or Shootout At the OK Corral... (Vent, Long) - Page 2

[mamacatsbaby]

Originally Posted by boscopup

Jumping in from November...

How on earth did the human race ever survive before we had heater beds?!? Especially babies born in winter before we had electricity!!!!

I know right? My brain couldn't even process this statement.

Originally Posted by brown eyed girls

I just posted this link for someone else on another forum....
http://www.texasmidwives.com/SafetyStats.htm

Check out the infant mortality rate for MWs versus OBs... remembering that because lay midwives pretty much ONLY do homebirths, that means the stats are homebirth vs. OB. In 2000, Midwives lost .3/1000 babies while OBs lost 5.5/1000 babies.

How DO they sleep at night? Drugs, I'd wager.

So WHY can't you do a homebirth? Is there really any way that a homebirth is riskier than what you experienced with that tour?

Great link brown eyed girls Sad to say it comes down to the almighty $$$. DH and I tried to come at it from all kinds of angles and we just couldn't afford it. I've always wanted a / :. Had a great HB MW in mind that I'd already talked to. Never wanted to be in the hospital. God willing I will never give birth in a hospital again.

Originally Posted by ILoveMySofie

Just offering you another big
It is absolutely unacceptable, what you had to listen to...
Whatever, you WILL have the birth you want!

Thank you ILMS! You're right. I will not let them steal the joy of birthing my baby away from me. I suppose I can also look at this as prep for all the battles that may be ahead of me (I won't even touch the vax issue). Somebody will probably keel over when I sign myself out AMA. That is, if things go well and there's nothing that they need to save me from.

It's just funny. I know we have a need for doctors and such at certain times and respect that. I'm grateful that we have come so far technologically. Well, sometimes... But it's like so many of them seem to feel they are almost God-like in a way and they are the keepers of your fate. They don't expect you to know your own body or what's good for you at all. Respect needs to be given to be gotten and the dismissive patronizing attitudes just don't seem conducive to a profession that is supposed to advocate for the patient. It makes me angry and sad.

[brown eyed girls]

My first planned homebirth our income for the year was less than $10,000 but we paid our MW with our tax refund... $1200. And we transferred to the hospital because baby was breech... the doc didn't know how to deliver a breech and almost killed my baby and we ended up with a $60,000 NICU bill that Medicaid paid.

My next planned homebirth we didn't choose the MW until 32 weeks so she was going to lower her fee since she didn't do all the prenatals... but she ended up risking me up to her perinatologist backup and I ended up with an induced hospital birth-- but unassisted! We were alone in the room when the baby was born. LOL

So our last 2 babies have been homebirths, and I never bothered to hire a MW. The first one was born on my bed, total cost for supplies was less than $30. The second one was a water birth with the fishy pool, total cost for supplies was still not much more than $30.

This will be my 3rd homebirth, and I again was not planning to use a MW. But something in the back of my head has been niggling at me, so I called around and found a MW on Friday who will give me a single, no-strings-attached prenatal visit to check baby's position in the womb and talk to me about some of the issues I've had feeling detached and ... discombobulated! Yeah, that's the word. LOL... We'll see how that visit with her goes tomorrow. I told her I'd love to have her do this one prenatal, and then pay her to come out and do a newborn well check and weigh the baby after it's born and she said yes.

[mamacatsbaby]

$60,000? OMG! What a horrible experience for you to have to go through.

Making less than $10,000 and still able to pay for your MW? Awesome. We've been in that situation before but this time around our refund was under $800 which we needed to put elsewhere anyway. Apparently DH just worked too damn hard over the year. Killing himself to pay the government more. We don't own a car or much of anythng excessive as we tend to be minimalists anyway and we still penny pinch.

I wish I had the bravado to UC my 1st at home. That would be great. DH and I talked about it also and he ain't having it. Totally uncomfortable with the idea of us delivering this baby ourselves. Especially it being the 1st one. I've been daydreaming about how everyone will be too busy or something and just ignore us and we can just UC in the hospital.

I hope all goes well with the appointment!

[Peppamint]

My aunt UC'd her 3rd or 4th baby (I can't remember which son it was) in the hospital. Not even her hubby was in the room... she was laying in the bed and the baby just kinda slid out.

[gnutter]

must be one of those hospitals where they film a baby story
I am so glad there are MW there-I'll cross my fingers for that you will go into labor on a friday. What I think is so funny is that in a book I have that is for MW in 3rd world countries it has a whole page with pictures about not cutting the umbilical cord until it stops pulsing. This is taught so that the baby has a chance to get all they can from the placenta. I should copy that page and send it to your hospital-what a bunch of dorks.

hugs to you and your dh. And try to not strangle the next person who says something stupid like that LOL! MEdical personel can be so condescending.

[mamacatsbaby]

Michelle I'm sure that was one surprised husband when he came back in the room!

Originally Posted by gnutter

must be one of those hospitals where they film a baby story
I am so glad there are MW there-I'll cross my fingers for that you will go into labor on a friday. What I think is so funny is that in a book I have that is for MW in 3rd world countries it has a whole page with pictures about not cutting the umbilical cord until it stops pulsing. This is taught so that the baby has a chance to get all they can from the placenta. I should copy that page and send it to your hospital-what a bunch of dorks.

hugs to you and your dh. And try to not strangle the next person who says something stupid like that LOL! MEdical personel can be so condescending.

I know right? I felt like I should've been looking for cameras with all the flabbergasted "Are they serious?" thoughts flying through my head.

Yes please! Send them everything you got! Though they'd probably dismiss the info as inferior. That was one of the hardest things for us. That after all this research and thinking about what we wanted and trusting our instincts that they dismissed everything we said or wanted as trivial, inferior. That they know what's best for our baby and how dare we stupidly question them. They could not respect a different avenue.

I'll try to keep the violence to a minimum gnutter but I don't know if I can make any promises!