This is always an interesting topic for me...
I grew up with two parents in AA. They both got sober before I was born, they met in AA, so I never was around alcohol or adults drinking responsibly (or however you spell it
) . So, drinking was always a shock to me...almost taboo. My dad (who has 23 years ) was never judgemental and has always been very active in the program, my mom (with 20 years) is not active in the program and believes (though she'll never admit, though actions speak louder than words) that no one can ever drink responsibly.
Well...I hit my teens and drank a lot. I was always aware however, of my genetics and for the most part, I knew to be carefull. Alcohol never really got me like it did some of my friends. But, b/c I knew nothing about it and didn't know what normal drinking was, I had to teach myself my own boundries.
I think that seeing an adult drink responsibly is really important. I think that when we make it so taboo, so off limits...it becomes very inticing( or however THAT is spelled!)
I just see nothing wrong for having some wine at dinner or some beer, even allowing the kids to have some isn't bad. Maybe getting plastered or playing beer pong should be saved for a night when the kids aren't home...
I also love to cook with alcohol. It deepens flavors.
I have German grandparents, and they have always invited me to enjoy a glass of wine with them at dinner..so I did see responsible drinking from them. And their philsophy is that of most of the world BUT the US...that if parents want to offer their child some wine or beer...why not? It's up to them. And with drinking ages being at 18 or 17 in most of the world and alcoholism and all the problems we have being much lower- it makes sense that we should go with that too. It's ridiculous! But anywho..
I just...I agree with what the PP have said.
ETA- thinking back...I actually drank a lot to get drunk from about age 14-16(when I got pregnant with DS). The first I ever got drunk I was in fifth grade...so having never grown up seeing people drink, it made me experiment much more than probably needed. Even now, it's hard to not want to go out and be 18 and party and get drunk...but cest la vie!