Originally Posted by pinkmilk
...I think a child's birthday should be about them...not about the adults need or desire to be in an intoxicated state of mind. There are many times when you can have a drink...why at your kids birthday?(And so many parents do this!)
Well, at all parties I give, for grown-ups or kids, I try and make sure everyone is comfortable. Among other things, I make sure I've plenty to eat and drink, I try to have things fine for vegetarians and vegans, I keep the meat/egg/fish things separate so there's no risk of things getting mixed up, I ask people if there are any allergies to be wary of, I always
make sure there are plenty of non-alcoholic things available; but, I also have a punch with alcohol of some kind available. I collect punch recipes (w/ and w/o the fermented/distilled stuff) and I have found at children's parties it DOES
help the kids' party be a success, believe it or not.
Why? As trivial as this may sound -- because I have found that certain grown-ups cease giving me foul looks for providing a HUGE bag of Rocket Balloons and 2 balloon pumps for the party. (You know, those are the long balloons you don't tie after inflating and that make a high-pitched whistle as they rocket 'round the room when you let 'em go.
) A glass of homemade sangria definately means fewer frayed tempers among the parents. No one is drunk, but a lot of people immediately feel a bit more calm with a glass of something relaxing in their hand, even if they only take a few sips. Anything that one would take time drinking tends to make someone relax a bit, I find.
Part of the difference in views is because of context. If one has grown up around an alcoholic, one knows that for someone with that problem, one drink
is a problem and even that has to be avoided. On the other hand, one drink does not cause total intoxication for someone without that problem. Especially with food being eaten and when the person imbibing a bit is well-hydrated. And no one is drinking to be blitzed...so we are modelling responsible behaviour.