wipeing poopy bums

[Bartock]

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at what age does a kid succesfully wipe their own bum. ds is 5 and won't do it, if he does i have to re wipe for him or else poop stains in his underwear. he will be in school in sept and im worried that the teachers will not wipe bums, i don't want him to be a poopy bum at school lol

[hjohnson]

DS is 3 and he wipes his own bum 50% of the time and I do it the other 50% of the time.

[phathui5]

My ds is five and he does occasionally do it incorrectly and I see poop stains in his underwear later, but I don't do it. I will not re-wipe his butt or go behind him and check because I feel like that's teaching him that I'm the one doing it.

With school, of course the teacher isn't going to check or wipe him. Can you say liability? She's not going to go in the stall.

My advice is the next time he poops, to walk him through the wiping process, how to fold the toilet paper, how to wipe properly, etc. Then tell him that you are no longer going to wipe him or check his butt and that he's responsible for it.

[hottmama]

My 3 yr. old can but insists that I do it most of the time.

[mariposita]

i wipe 4yo ds probably 75% of the time and feel like that's still normal.

[angela&avery]

My ds is almost 5 and he just started wiping. He was dead set against it like 6 months ago. I just kept telling him I wanted him to try while still wiping him. Eventually he just started doing it on his own...

[Peace~*]

Ok i feel really MEAN THen.....

My dd is 3yrs. 3mos. and as i was searching for potty training thread found this one and she called out to be wiped....
Ok, i am 37 1/2 weeks preg and mama to 2 & 3 yr olds.... i've been frustrated by the "Come wipe me" thing. So wishing she'd wipe that poo. She wipes when she pees, But i can see that i am expecting WAY too much. i am forcing it too early. i have to remember she's still "Little". She's just so advanced in EVERYTHING else, i begin to expect more from her.

i know this post is not actually a discussion, but a statment....

i just was amazed at how events happened this morn and reading the posts thus far, i see i'm being Uncomfortable, Pregnant Mama. i don't want to force her to grow too fast creating a situation where she asks for nothing and we simply grow apart. i can see how it can happen.

Honestly Sorry, Peace~*

[eirual]

I don't know if flushable wipes would be an option or if you'd rather them just learn with the real thing, but there are many flushable children's wipes out there (and even femanine ones, or even people in general ones that would work). I hate to supprt such a commercial brand, especially one that i haven't tried, but the one that comes to mind is the Kando ones (don't know if they're flushable).

It may be an approtpriate steeping stone for some.

[Stayathomemommy]

i second the wipes idea. have a box next to the toilet and incourage him to use those. i have a trash can right by the toilet so the kids know to throw it away instead of flush it. now my oldest is 5 and hates wipes so this doesnt work for her. i told her she needs to start wiping her own bum and gave an age limit as to when i will no longer do it for her. we have said age 6. but there have been times i just cant run to her and she better wipe herself or sit and wait a long time. eventually she will do it.

[NicknJulesMom]

My newly 5 yo was still calling me to wipe up until about 2 months ago. I made him some cloth wipes and he uses those. He picked out the fabric, one side is flannel and the other side is velour. At first I was going and wetting them for him, but now he just prefers them dry. When he is finished he knows to put them in the diaper pail (right next to the toilet). I keep them in a container on the back of the toilet so that he's able to reach them fine.

That might be an idea. There are tons of diaper wahms that make CD's also make wipes.

[mahogny]

My son is 4 1/2 and wipes himself. About 5 months ago I was still wiping him 100%. Finally, I told him, "You wipe yourself once, and then I'll come finish." Then when that was mastered, I told him "2 wipes", and then "3 wipes", and now he does it all himself! Woohoo!

We buy Cottonelle flushable wipes for him.

[Drummer's Wife]

my 5 year old wipes her's about half of the time, otherwise she calls me to do it... I don't mind I want it really clean. I usually use cloth wipes to get it done well.

She does better with flushable disposable wipes, maybe try those so your child can practice for when school starts.

Oh and my 3 yr old always calls me to do it, I'm sure he would make a bigger mess if he did it on his own...

[MelMel]

i wipe my 3.5 year old, she is a girl so i am a bit paranoid about UTI'S from improper wiping. i explain to her what i am doing, s hopefully soon i will feel confident about her taking over. she does wipe pee herself, mostly. i also 2nd (or 3rd) the cloth wipes (or other wet, durable wipes) when we are out and use paper tp, it sticks to her and we both have a hard time getting her clean. i bet its hard for a kid to use and get all the poop off.

good luck with school, for sure the teacher would never wipe a bum. i dont ever remember wiping a kid when i worked day care, after they were in the 'potty learned' room (3 ish)

[amberielle]

Around 3.5 we started teaching DD how to properly wipes her own bum, and she had it pretty much down by the time she was 4. The wipes are so very helpful and always by the potty!

[joesmom]

Joe is seven & just started feeling comfortable wiping himself. As I have posted, he was not potty trained till 4.5ish, he has a hard time with the whole idea of poop, I think... I was glad to do it for him until he felt comfortable doing it himself.

(Well, maybe glad is too strong a word here... )

[mykdsmomy]

My oldest ds is 6 and I still wipe him.....the few times he's wiped himself it was like a scene from psycho.....poop everywhere We really need to work on this but he has vision issues so it's hard for him to see everything......

[eirbjorn]

My 7 year old still wants me to check him, he was nearly 7 when he finally felt comfortable to do it himself. He is a perfectionist, and is really behind in motor-coordination skills, and he refuses to attempt things if he isn't sure he will succeed... well, with things like writing and playing soccer I push a little and he gives in and tries and gets better and his confidence improves... well, with the idea of poop all over his back and underwear, well, there was nothing I could say to get him to do it himself until he felt he was ready. We are now weening off of me checking him.
My 5 year old DD was really into wiping herself when 3 and first using the toilet, but now she is afraid to do it herself and refuses. I don't know if she picked up on DS's thing, or is just going through a phase (that is lasting well over a year...). All I know is, I'm sure they'll figure it out before they hit puberty, and that is all I care about

Kristi

[sunnmama]

Dd is 5, and has never attempted to wipe her poopy butt. She will wait as long as it takes for me to come and wipe her. She will wipe pee, but prefers me to do that also.

I really don't mind....and we have no rush as she is homeschooled. We *were* feeling pressured, until we decided to homeschool.

She has been fully potty trained since 27 months. My personal belief is, she wants to hold onto this small part of being a "baby"....she enjoys these opportunites for me to "baby" her each day. And if that is what she needs, I am happy to do it.

[luvmy2boys]

Last summer I started having DS (having turned 4 the previous February; he's 5 now) wipe his own. We knew he was going to be starting preschool in the fall, and I knew the teachers wouldn't do it for him. So I told him he needed to learn to wipe his own bottom, or it would be sore at preschool. He complained a little bit, but I just didn't give in and he accepted pretty well. That said, he's always been a pretty logical kid, so logic like that works well for him. I know not all kids are like that.

We use the flushable wipes. Note: the adult ones like Cottonelle, etc. are better than the kid ones (can't remember the name, but they are made by Huggies) because the kid ones are *connected* (perforated, but connected). I can't tell you how many times he pulled out half of a container of wipes because he didn't know how to tear apart the perforations correctly. The adult ones are separate, so that hasn't been an issue.

Anyway, we've been using the flushable ones at home. He knows how to use regular toilet paper and he will use it at school/in public, but I noticed he didn't always do as good of a job with dry toilet paper. (I've always thought using dry TP was kind of weird anyway...*I* started using the flushable wipes when DS did and I like them better; but I digress). He's getting better at getting completely clean with the dry, but if he gets a poop stain in his underwear at school from time to time, it happens, but at least at home he's getting clean, and so is less likely to get a sore bottom.

[faythe]

My older two didn't start wiping after poop until about 4 1/2yo? I told them they couldn't go to school if they didn't wipe (which is true and they are dying to start school) and all of sudden they were filled with motivation. They still ask for help if it's especially messy, but we're talking once a month now. If they leave a skid mark I point it out to them, not to be mean, but to let them know that it's happening and they need to be a little more thorough. I also remind them about wiping when they complain about having an itchy bottom.

We get the flushable wipes from Target, but only use those when absolutely necessary.