Originally Posted by dolphinkisser
a weighty Friend who was committed to Quaker process ( because it seems to work) suggested that reading while others where worshiping was not a good idea as it distracts the whole community worship process. The goal of unprogrammed Meeting is not individual meditation but to collectively worship as a community and wait upon the Spirit that is believed to be within all. I think that is the beauty of unprogrammed Meeting...there is synergy that is not found in individual meditation and the reality of 'Christ (or spirit Deity)gathering where 2 or more people are found gathered in his name'.
I read that same article in Friends Journal, btw. I liked it, but I do remember thinking that I would not approve of the reading during meeting. It doesn't happen often enough in our meeting for anyone to make an issue of it, but it is distracting, IMO.
Should you go just for your son? I don't know -- that's a tough call. Perhaps if it's been a long time since you were in an unprogrammed meeting, you would find the experience different now. Or perhaps you wouldn't and it wouldn't feel honest to be there. Maybe you could find a programmed meeting as dolphinkisser suggested. Some of the FUM meetings are fairly close to FGC in their beliefs, I think. If you can find one of the more liberal FUM meetings, that might be a good solution for you. Good luck!