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What hurt more than labor for you?

post #1 of 104
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I'll be having my first in November and am trying to frame my expectations based on previous experience. Have you had pain worse than labor?

I've had migraines so bad I can't really move or talk, period cramps with endometriosis (a few times with vomiting, unable to walk or talk, lying on the bathroom floor, getting all white shaky and clammy ), laparoscopy (abdominal surgery), and an ear infection that ruptured the eardrum.

The midwife said that having dealt with pain in the past is helpful, but It's so hard to know what IS painful. I mean, my "7" could be someone elses "5" or "9"...
post #2 of 104
My migraines are worse then normal labor (back labor is the worst pain I've experienced, and I didn't know that I had options to move the baby to get rid of the pain). I've had each lung collapse 10-30% and that pain was worse. I think I have IBS and some of the gas pains I get are 10x worse then labor.
post #3 of 104
getting my nose pierced hurt as bad a labor. pushing felt great for me. I actually don'r remember them hurting AT ALL. looking at the video they did lol, but you forget it. now the actual contrax hurt like hell. I had 2 hosp epidural births before my home birth and I am a BIG BIG sissy with pain. I cry when I pluck my eybrows. If you are comfortable where you labor it is so much easier.
post #4 of 104
Two labours: one 44 hours of hard labour, posterior and maternal exhaustion; one 2.5 hours of "hard" labour.

Things that hurt worse?
Migraines
Unmedicated wisdom tooth extraction
The first week of c-section recovery. I'd do 44 hours of hard labour twice over to avoid a c-section again.
Waking up in the recovery room 45 minutes after a c-section without *any* pain medication.
Injuring my pelvis during my first pregnancy with the daughter so badly that I couldn't even go to the bathroom by myself for a month.
post #5 of 104
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Originally Posted by oregongirlie
I've had migraines so bad I can't really move or talk, period cramps with endometriosis (a few times with vomiting, unable to walk or talk, lying on the bathroom floor, getting all white shaky and clammy ), laparoscopy (abdominal surgery), and an ear infection that ruptured the eardrum.
I would rather go through labor than those ^^^ pains. At least with labor you have time in between ctx and the intensity increases and then most importantly Decreases.

I have had severe lower back pain that makes breathing difficult and the pain was constant no matter which way i moved. With labor, during ctx, you can find positions, or techniques that help to decrease pain.
post #6 of 104
kidney biopsy. lidocaine just didn't work! i felt terrible.
pushing hurts like hell, but you are in euphoria and it changes everything.
post #7 of 104
Kidney stones. Good golly, I could have three or four babies naturally and not add up to that pain.
post #8 of 104
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Originally Posted by Lizzardbits
I would rather go through labor than those ^^^ pains. At least with labor you have time in between ctx and the intensity increases and then most importantly Decreases.
Exactly!!!
Also, there's a prize at the end. With things like endometriosis cramps, migraines or surgery... you have nothing. It's just pain for NO REASON!!
post #9 of 104
There was just a thread like this not too long ago....it got pretty big, you might try looking for it........

But for me, NOTHING on earth was ever one percent as bad as labor.

I get migraines, i get ovarian cysts, i get horrible PMS, i have had my wrist smashed(broken in like 5 places), been in a motorcycle wreck resulting in a horrible burn and road pizza on my leg, had all 4 of my wisdom teeth out at once.......all of these lumped together were a tiny fraction of even one contraction. Labor was HECK for me.

And for me, there was no "high" no "euphoria" no solace at all...."pain with a purpose" my patootie!!!!
I ended up with horrible PTSD for about a year after dd was born.......
post #10 of 104
I don't think you can really compare... I mean, labor is an aweful kind of hurt... but its a "natural" pain, a productive pain, I don't know of anything else that produces that "type" of pain. It was HARD pain, like I was being driven fiercly into the ground. It was just too different to compare it to the many other intense pains I've felt.

I will say this though, for me, recovery and breastfeeding were harder than labor, and there was a lot of pain involved there... but that doesn't really help does it?
post #11 of 104
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Originally Posted by littleteapot
Exactly!!!
Also, there's a prize at the end. With things like endometriosis cramps, migraines or surgery... you have nothing. It's just pain for NO REASON!!
Unless you reward yourself with chocolate... okay, I know it doesn't help the situation, but it makes me feel better.
post #12 of 104
I have had stomach aches, food poisoning, intestinal infection... LOTS of things are worse than labor! And anyway... you get a baby at the end of labor. Natural labor for me - without pain drugs- was much more physically rewarding than with an epidural or spinal. (I had one of each - had 3 kids!)
post #13 of 104
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Originally Posted by bobandjess99

And for me, there was no "high" no "euphoria" no solace at all...."pain with a purpose" my patootie!!!!
I ended up with horrible PTSD for about a year after dd was born.......
No? I always assumed that my euphoria and physical high after my son was born without pain meds was due to natural pain killers in my body and that everybody would get them. It was an out-of-body experience. A deeply medatative state, if you will.
post #14 of 104
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Originally Posted by Nathan1097
No? I always assumed that my euphoria and physical high after my son was born without pain meds was due to natural pain killers in my body and that everybody would get them. It was an out-of-body experience. A deeply medatative state, if you will.
It is.
However, intense fear can prevent that from happening. If you psyche yourself up, or you get too "into" the pain, don't work with it, don't respect it, fear it.... etc. You're not going to get that.
post #15 of 104
Ovarian Cyst Torsion. Not fun.
post #16 of 104
Gallbladder 'attacks'/gallstones. I wouldn't wish that on anyone.
post #17 of 104
For me, migraines, the flu, and food poisoning are WAY WORSE than labor. Labor was very manageable, with only the last couple of hours making me feel out of control.
post #18 of 104
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Originally Posted by littleteapot
It is.
However, intense fear can prevent that from happening. If you psyche yourself up, or you get too "into" the pain, don't work with it, don't respect it, fear it.... etc. You're not going to get that.

And sometimes, it just hurts like a b!tch. My 5th birth was horribly painful, after 4 very easy, very fast births, one completely painless. I had no fear. I had discovered the secret to painless birth! Until my fifth, when I tried to bash my head against the wall to knock myself out. There was no euphoria, I barely wanted to hold him after.

I still had 2 more babies after that, but I will NEVER, I mean NEVER, get my eyebrows waxed again! I was traumatized after the first time, the pain lasted for days.
post #19 of 104
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Originally Posted by sevenkids
And sometimes, it just hurts like a b!tch. My 5th birth was horribly painful, after 4 very easy, very fast births, one completely painless. I had no fear. I had discovered the secret to painless birth! Until my fifth, when I tried to bash my head against the wall to knock myself out. There was no euphoria, I barely wanted to hold him after.
By no means do I intend to imply that birth is painless for everyone.

However, "Until my fifth, when I tried to bash my head against the wall to knock myself out" -
It doesn't seem like you handled it very well. Could it be that you were mentally unprepared for a higher level of pain, having had so many easy labours, and therefore didn't have adequate coping skills?

My first was incredibly difficult, my second labour was practically non-existant. However, even though my first hurt a LOT I still wouldn't call it the worst pain or anything... pain is literally in your head, and in our heads is where we deal with it.
post #20 of 104
food poisoning was wayyyy worse than contractions

pushing kinda sucked but it didnt last long

why oh why get dental work done without meds? i'm just gonna assume you are joking.
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