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post #41 of 104
My miscarriage. It was the worst pain I've ever felt. I had to have morphine.

Nothing about my 2 subsequent labors could compare to that pain.....
post #42 of 104
Pains that were worse than labor for me were -
Passing gallstones
Migraines
Rupture of an ovarian cyst
After pains with my last birth hurt sooo much worse than labor contractions.
post #43 of 104
labor without transition wa sno big deal really.....well, uncomfortable and painful but nothing like an inflamed nerve for example.

But I reached the hospital with transition and had an overall traumatic experience then so I don't think the pain I felt then was a true measure of how it could have been or would be for most women.
post #44 of 104

I think it's also about feeling safe

I agree c-s recovery was far worse than labour.

But also, when I was labouring at home and could use my voice free and LOUD and be happy in my own sweet home where I felt safe, it was really intense, but not really 'bad', even though I went through almost 24 hours - 9 of them bouncing in and out of transition as baby's head did the yo-yo.

When I had to transfer to hospital and got outside to go to the car and got self-conscious and felt i must keep the noise down for the nieghbours, that was the first contraction that hurt like HELL. Then in the car they were okay even when we went over bumps. Then at the hospital - I hate hospitals, and was also aware of little sleeping babies and exhausted moms I did not want to wake - they were unbearable, unbearable, unbearable

I think for some women it is the other way around - much worse in early labour at home because they have been taught that labour is a dangerous, so find things 'less painful' once at hospital and feeling safe.

But being made to lie on my back for an exam!!!!! HOW do most western women who deliver in hospitals cope with this unnecessary and horrific standardised torture position for their WHOLE labours?

So I think you may want to really feel out and consider:
What are your coping strategies, be they making sound like me, having something visual to focus on, movement, looking into a loved-one's eyes whether in person or photo, looking at a beautiful thing or meaningful spiritual symbol... what? Can you make sure you can use them during labour? If so, all the stuff you mentioned experiencing will be 'worse' than your labour.

If your primal comfort-zone is in any way disrupted, for e.g. an unwelcome MIL arrives, or you can't use your best coping strategies for some reason, or feel in any way prevented/inhibited about letting your body move as it needs to, then labour may be the worst pain of all.

Above all, yes, remember that there are always a finite number of contractions, and each is one less to go, and focus on the breaks in between them - which are longer than the contractions most of the time

Good luck. And even, I hope, "Enjoy!" : )
post #45 of 104
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Originally Posted by Je'anna L C
But being made to lie on my back for an exam!!!!! HOW do most western women who deliver in hospitals cope with this unnecessary and horrific standardised torture position for their WHOLE labours?
I totally agree with this!!!
When I went into labour with my son it was so mild and nonexistant I didn't even know I was in labour. It was SO EASY!! I went into the hospital to find out if I was in preterm labour or not.
After about two hours of waiting around demanding someone check me and confirm what I'd felt (dilation in excess of 6cm and something on my perineum) I finally had someone come in and he lay me flat on my back with my butt kind of inverted up.

OH MY GOD! That hurt like nothing else! I was literally howling in pain! Everyone was telling me to shut up and stop making noise but it was impossible!
I spent 15 minutes flat on my back being run upstairs and it was the *worst* labour pain I'd ever felt. By a hundred times. I can't believe women birth that way. I've done posterior presentation AND posterior breech presentation labour, I've given birth to a baby with a head in the 95th percentile with her hand up over her cheek - those were way easier than 15 minutes of that!
post #46 of 104
Oh! Fun thread! Reminds me of Billy Crystal's character on Saturday Night Live, "you know what I hate? when you stick a needle under your toe nail and kick the wall..." "Yeah... I hate that...." (Ok, did I just TOTALLY date myself? How many of you have NO IDEA what I'm talking about????)


What hurt worse than childbirth for me>
hands down.... gall bladder attack.

But someone mentioned leg cramp-- I was pushing out my 2nd child-- with legs in stirrups, he was breech and 9 lbs 8 oz with a 15.5" head. He was halfway out of my body, the doctor had his hand up my r*ctum trying to put counterpressure on baby's head (apparently this doc had never read the headsup.com site).... and as all this was happening, you hear me whine on the video "OH! I'm having a leg cramp! Get my legs down! Cramp!"

So apparentlly, a leg cramp hurts more than pushing out a 9 1/2 lb breech baby while having a man's hand shoved up your *ss.
post #47 of 104
This darn sinus infection I've had for over a month! The pressure has been so painful I've been in tears...even told my midwife I'd rather be in labor! I couldn't sleep, my teeth hurt, it felt like I had 2 black eyes, and it did not go away until just a few days ago!

And I had 2 OP babies/labors; first baby was delivered with forceps, had a 38 cm. head, weighed 9 lbs., and I had preeclampsia, so I was on mag. sulfate...I literally couldn't even walk for a week after delivery.

But the sinus infection was worse than all that. It's not purposeful pain.

Carrie, mama to Jake and Lola and surprise baby #3 due in August
post #48 of 104
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Originally Posted by brown eyed girls
So apparentlly, a leg cramp hurts more than pushing out a 9 1/2 lb breech baby while having a man's hand shoved up your *ss.
OOo Dang! While i was reading this, I was clenching my butt involutarily! AKKKK! I think I need to go lie down now........
post #49 of 104
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Originally Posted by oregongirlie
I've had migraines so bad I can't really move or talk, period cramps with endometriosis (a few times with vomiting, unable to walk or talk, lying on the bathroom floor, getting all white shaky and clammy ), laparoscopy (abdominal surgery),
I've had both of these, and labor is nowhere near as bad as those period cramps, IMO. It has an ebb and flow that you never get with cramps like that. There's a start a high point, and an end...it doesn't just keep going and going and going. My aunt and I both agree (we're the two who had the worst endometriosis and ovarian cycst during periods pain) that experiencing that kind of pain just made labor so much easier. Now, that's not to say that it's not hard WORK, it's just nothing compared to the never ending all encompassing puke your guts up pain that I had with periods. Nothing like. I've had nasty migranes, but I class that as a different type of pain...
post #50 of 104
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Originally Posted by brown eyed girls
So apparentlly, a leg cramp hurts more than pushing out a 9 1/2 lb breech baby while having a man's hand shoved up your *ss.
Absolutely hilarious.
post #51 of 104
What hurt worse than labor?

Having my midwife with my first hold back a stubborn lip of cervix while I pushed. (Okay, that was in labor, but I don't really consider it part of labor. Once she stopped doing that, I was fine. The lip went away on it's own too. : )

The pain after my ovarian removal surgery
Ruptured ovarian cysts
gallstones (while 7 mos. pregnant!)
post #52 of 104
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Originally Posted by brown eyed girls
I was pushing out my 2nd child-- with legs in stirrups, he was breech and 9 lbs 8 oz with a 15.5" head. He was halfway out of my body, the doctor had his hand up my r*ctum trying to put counterpressure on baby's head (apparently this doc had never read the headsup.com site).... and as all this was happening, you hear me whine on the video "OH! I'm having a leg cramp! Get my legs down! Cramp!"

So apparentlly, a leg cramp hurts more than pushing out a 9 1/2 lb breech baby while having a man's hand shoved up your *ss.
must have been some leg cramp!!!
post #53 of 104
I've experienced tons of painful things in my life and there was nothing worse than labor for me. It was excrutiating. I remember during transition thinking OMG...this is the worse pain I've ever experienced in my life! But ds was also posterior (major back labor) and I had ctx every minute or two so I was in hell with no break. Oh and my pain tolerance is high so...yikes. I'm hoping for an anterior baby next time.
post #54 of 104
the flu--- so much worse.
post #55 of 104
The pain of internal bleeding (at the site and referred pain) immediately prior to my laprascopy for an ectopic pregnancy. I remember afterwards saying I would go through labor every day of the week if only I never had to hurt like that again....
post #56 of 104
Wow. People had some interesting things to compare with labor pain. Ouch to most of them!

I remember wondering this same thing before giving birth -- I know all of us, especially those who want to have "natural births" do. What really helped me mentally in preparing for birth and during the whole experience was the way I thought about it. I had read several resources and talked to women who had very positive birth experiences. I didn't listen to other people's horror stories and I limited other information (i.e. we didn't even go to the session at the hospital on C-sections or pain meds). I tried to just surround myself with with positive information and thoughts about birth. I was distressed when we were at one of the classes at the hospital and everyone was talking about how incredibly painful birth was going to be. I really thought it wasn't a very useful way of going into the experience. Another big part of my/our preparation was that DH and I took a hypnobirthing class and even though my experience wasn't exactly like what we saw on the videos (I wasn't quiet during the process -- oh, I guess that is another thing I DON'T have in common with Katie Holmes) , I truly got the wonderful birth experience that I wanted and wouldn't have changed a thing. A large part of the hypnobirthing class was focused on how to deal with "pain" during labor and to think of contractions as "surges" instead. I know it sounds cheesy, but for me it totally worked. I didn't fight the "pain." I wasn't scared of it. I just let it happen and flow through me and it made all the difference at least for me. Birth is such a subjective experience and it will be interesting to see what it is like this next time around, but honestly I'm looking forward to it. When I think back about the day my DD was born (two years ago next week) pain is the last word that comes to mind. Labor is not a pain like any other. For me it was a singular experience that can't adequately be compared to anything else. There truly is nothing else like it and I feel so fortunate that I got to experience it. I think it is by far one of the best things about being a female human.
post #57 of 104
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Originally Posted by brown eyed girls
"OH! I'm having a leg cramp! Get my legs down! Cramp!"

So apparentlly, a leg cramp hurts more than pushing out a 9 1/2 lb breech baby while having a man's hand shoved up your *ss.

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post #58 of 104
Back to the original question...

Broken collarbone. A basketball injury. 10 weeks of recovery hell. Couldn't shave my underarms, so boils came up where the hairs turned in from the rubbing of the figure eight brace.

That year of fibromyalgia before dd1 was born (neverending muscular pain, torn muscle under the shoulder blade that couldn't heal, and insomnia in my case).

Breastfeeding dd1 for the first 14 weeks. Within an hour of her birth she had bitten me so hard I had four welts, two on each areola. Then spent two weeks spitting up the blood she was getting from my severely cracked nipples. From there I had pretty much the entire chapter on 'breastfeeding problems' in rounds until she grew big enough to latch on a little better. She was always a viscious nursling, I just didn't realize how much until dd2 came along!


I would say that my labors were both 'normal' as far as pain. No cakewalk, but no pitocin or back labor, either. And no meds during childbirth.
post #59 of 104
Oh, lots of things hurt worse. But I didn't really perceive it as pain. I agree with those who say a lot of it is your attitude, expectations, feeling safe, etc. I have had three kids completely natural, only first one in hospital, third one was born posterior at home.

Let's see... what hurts worse than labor...

gas pains
leg cramps
burning your finger (DEFINITELY)

Barring weird circumstances, I think that understanding what is happening to you, having a variety of ways to deal with it naturally, HONESTLY having a positive attitude about labor and birth and your ability to get through it just fine, lack of fear, good support system, reading "good" birth stories and talking to people who have had positive experiences, taking Bradley classes, reading "Natural Childbirth the Bradley Way" by Susan McCutcheon, drinking plenty of water during pregnancy and labor, keep moving during labor (I walked and walked and walked between contractions), sit well during pregnancy (NO recliners!!!!!!!!!!!), practice relaxation - this was KEY for me!

Really, truly, honestly - for me - contractions felt like menstrual cramps. When I went TOTALLY limp (I mean your head hanging down and your gut hanging down and dh holding you up as if you were passed out and spit coming out of the corner of your mouth kind of relaxed), it really was very easy to handle.

Think of the contractions not as pain, but as muscles working. That is the truth of what is happening. Do you cry and scream and beg for an epidural when you are forced to run around the track eight times in high school PE? No. It hurts; your muscles ache; it is not the most comfortable thing. But it is not "I want to die" pain. Just decide - DECIDE - that you are going to do this; you are going to find that groove and work with your body, not against it. If you are fearful and expecting pain, then you will unconciously be tensing up various parts of your body. This causes pain. Do not make fists or cling to the bed rail or squeeze your dh's hand. Relax. Close your eyes. Go limp. Chant (it sounds really funny as your mouth is supposed to be really relaxed too so it sounds like you're drunk) "muscles working" or "loose, loose, loose" or "open, open, open" slowly and over and over.

It is really doable! And I am the biggest wimp of all time - cry when I have blood drawn.
post #60 of 104
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Originally Posted by brown eyed girls
Oh! Fun thread! Reminds me of Billy Crystal's character on Saturday Night Live, "you know what I hate? when you stick a needle under your toe nail and kick the wall..." "Yeah... I hate that...." (Ok, did I just TOTALLY date myself? How many of you have NO IDEA what I'm talking about????)


What hurt worse than childbirth for me>
hands down.... gall bladder attack.

But someone mentioned leg cramp-- I was pushing out my 2nd child-- with legs in stirrups, he was breech and 9 lbs 8 oz with a 15.5" head. He was halfway out of my body, the doctor had his hand up my r*ctum trying to put counterpressure on baby's head (apparently this doc had never read the headsup.com site).... and as all this was happening, you hear me whine on the video "OH! I'm having a leg cramp! Get my legs down! Cramp!"

So apparentlly, a leg cramp hurts more than pushing out a 9 1/2 lb breech baby while having a man's hand shoved up your *ss.
I am so sorry for laughing, but I think I hurt myself from doing so, so hard. :
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