baby gowns (I love those-so easy for changing)
boppy or other nursing pillow
certain babyproofing measures
bibs if you have a big drooler
waterproof mattress pads
Burt's Bees diaper cream (only essential in case of rash)Nice but not necessary:
padded changing pad and cover
co-sleeper (since our bed is already full most nights
bouncy seat-great for getting a quick shower
swing-I have had one babe who loved it and one who hated it.
stroller-sometimes almost necessary when you have older children as well, if not for baby, then for toting stuff.
crib-sometimes nice for naps, especially to protect baby from before mentioned older children.
high chair or booster seat for later
sippy cups for later
a couple of nice wooden/cloth toys
rocking chair (for me this is almost an essential)
baby washcloths/towelsForget about it:
disposable diapers and wipes
playpen/ pack 'n play (althought they make great toy boxes!)
big plastic junk
special "baby" laundry detergent
special "baby" bottled water
tons of pink frilly clothes (in case of a girl)