Embracing the wait...

[newmainer]

I think I have finally come to accept that I'm going to make it to my due date- or beyond even though i do have ctx. every day, this baby's gonna stay put until the end.

and with that... how is everyone embracing the wait until the golden moment? lately i feel like i have come to a more gentle and accepting place with my dd- feeling less irritable and resistant to her contstant touching, whininess and rollercoaster behavior. I just keep thinking that these are our last weeks as just Mama and Raelin and so i'm trying to savor that. I have made us a hair cutting date next week- going out to lunch and ice cream and getting her hair cut for the first time!

that's been the biggest shift for me...i'd love to hear how others are going to resist the spiral into torturous anticipation and inpatience!!

[gnutter]

I am still all irritable and anxious-and emotional-I have been trying to steady it all though and just relax and let go of all of that. I know all the stress will only delay what I am so eagerly anticipating!
I am trying to just focus on other things-like some light gardening and just realizing that these are my last weeks of being able to sleep through the night and basically be on my own schedule-I should enjoy this time-especially with all the great spring weather!! I even took a short walk yesterday.So lets just say its a work in progress for me. I figure by the time I really embrace the wait-the wait will be over

[nitareality]

Every time I try (and I really try) to get into that place where I'm not impatient I have some contraction spree or other thing that reminds me how close I am!

[Peppamint]

I'm kinda on the fence... on one hand I'm really ready to meet this baby and have him/her in my arms but on the other hand I'm happy to wait until he/she is ready.

What kills me is the prodromal labor. I kept waking up last night to a rock hard belly and tons of cervical pressure it was making me .

Ah well... what will be, will be. I don't really expect to go past my edd, at least I haven't before and admit that I hope I don't. :

[dharmama]

Interesting Kelly....I'm feeling a lot of the same things with my DD.

She has been SUPER-CLINGY but unlike before when it was making me I'm really enjoying the extra closeness with her.

We've been doing special things like going out to lunch or breakfast and then spending much of the afternoon napping/snuggling together.

She has been wanting to play "tiny baby Lily" where I hold her and snuggle her and call her my "tiny baby"....then all of the sudden she pops up and says "I big girl Lily" and runs on her way.

She got pretty emotional when I set the co-sleeper up next to our bed. She kept saying "Lily bed...Lily sleep in her bed." I let her climb in it (she's only 20 lbs) and lie down and we played "tiny baby Lily" in the crib. When she came out she wanted to nurse, nurse, nurse (honestly I think we rocked and nursed for well over an hour). Every once in a while she would come off and hug me and pat my back and say "It's ok baby girl....it's ok."

It's just so amazing to experience her processing her emotions about the changes that are happening.

I have no idea what's going to happen when the babe gets here but for now she is making her needs very clear -- she wants to know that she is still my baby -- and I am trying to fill that need (and amazingly not feeling any resentment about it.....which I could not have said a month...or even a couple of weeks ago).

[guestmama9906]

I am definitely trying to "embrace the wait." Trying being the keyword here.

This is for SURE my last child. The problem is, I am too overemotional and stressed and bitchy and eager to fit into a bikini to really appreciate these last few weeks. I feel like I've been nothing but pregnant for the last 5 years (3 kids between 2002 and now) and I'm done already!! But I am trying to make time everyday for me and the new little girl.

[waterbaby9503]

Yesterday I had a 24 bug, so I was doing everything I could not to have the luck to go into labor.
I'll give myself a few more days to rest back up, then start walking like crazy again.
But my intuition tells me that baby will wait at least till his due date. My body is getting ready all the time, but labor will begin when I finally relax and just feel joyful about the summer weather. When I feel at peace, then the baby will come right away.

[eco_mama]

I just can't wait to have this baby. This last month will seem the longest but I'm sure it'll fly by just like that last couple months have. I definitely want the baby to stay in my belly until after May 16 though (which I'm sure it will since my due date is early june now) because my DH is going to Panama from the 9-16 so I'll be here alone w/ DD. I was stressed about it before because my dd was May 12 but then we got the u/s and it was pushed back to June 6. I was pretty relieved at that. Relieved yet anxious at the same time. I'm just so huge now (well, i've been huge for awhile but..) and it's taken it's toll on me....I think the baby dropped like, yesterday or something. Not sure, it's probably just my imagination. Anyways, I'm extremely excited and getting more and more impatient everyday but it's exciting to count off the days.

[JayGee]

Totally embracing the wait here . DS was 12 days "late", DD 2 days. I know I'll see my due date come and go again, so no need to get excited quite yet . I'm trying to squeeze in as much time with DS and DD as I possibly can before #3 arrives. Oh and let's not forget time with my husband too .

[luckylady]

Well, I have decided to embrace the wait as well.

After a day of natural induction techniques, I decided it's more tiring to stress out about it. I will enjoy this time since this will be my last PG. He'll be here before I know it!

Plus, if anyone even comes close to my nipples at this point, I will kill them.

[mominchina]

"Embracing the wait"....that's a great way of putting it! Funny because I was just thinking about this today. It could be any day now, but I'm nearly sure it will be at least a week, and I'm pretty excited about everything I'm going to accomplish in the coming week. Freezer meals, final nesting, time with dd, and just getting out a lot! And I don't feel miserable about this big belly or terribly uncomfortable, so I feel like I'm in a good place.

[saritabeth]

Originally Posted by dharmama

Interesting Kelly....I'm feeling a lot of the same things with my DD.

She has been SUPER-CLINGY but unlike before when it was making me I'm really enjoying the extra closeness with her.

We've been doing special things like going out to lunch or breakfast and then spending much of the afternoon napping/snuggling together.

She has been wanting to play "tiny baby Lily" where I hold her and snuggle her and call her my "tiny baby"....then all of the sudden she pops up and says "I big girl Lily" and runs on her way.

She got pretty emotional when I set the co-sleeper up next to our bed. She kept saying "Lily bed...Lily sleep in her bed." I let her climb in it (she's only 20 lbs) and lie down and we played "tiny baby Lily" in the crib. When she came out she wanted to nurse, nurse, nurse (honestly I think we rocked and nursed for well over an hour). Every once in a while she would come off and hug me and pat my back and say "It's ok baby girl....it's ok."

It's just so amazing to experience her processing her emotions about the changes that are happening.

I have no idea what's going to happen when the babe gets here but for now she is making her needs very clear -- she wants to know that she is still my baby -- and I am trying to fill that need (and amazingly not feeling any resentment about it.....which I could not have said a month...or even a couple of weeks ago).

Our dd's sound very similar. I could have written much of that about my sweetie. I go back and forth between being overwhelmed with my daughter being on me and my ever shrinking lap all the time, to just loving the cuddles of my first. A sweet and challenging time to be sure...

I am feeling very done. I don't know if this will be our last or not, so I feel somewhat guilty about feeling so impatient. I am quite uncomfortable and have also had a lot of prodromal stuff going on. I really want to meet this person and kiss his wee little feet.

embracing the wait....I don't think I have embraced it. I can want what I want, but Im still waiting

[Rowenta]

well, i would like to embrace the wait, and I am feeling fine enough, but I have miserable contractions hourly. I am dialated to a 5 and feel soo much progression EACH day!
If i were just *pregnant* and not having all the labor stuff going on, it would be much easier to wait.

I am keeping myself busy though! Hubby just went out and bought me an embroidery sewing machine, software and all!!
I can't wait to start using it!

[Marylizah]

Well, I swing back and forth between wanting the baby to come NOW and being very calm about s/he coming when s/he is ready.

At my last appointment, almost a week ago, my cervix was only a little softened, not shortened or effaced or dialated in any way. I've been walking a lot this week, and I think baby dropped a bit, my pelvis has been under some serious strain (lots of twinges) and I've had tons of BHs every night.

That said, I'd ideally like baby to wait until next weekend, when the mw we like will be on call. After that point, if baby still isn't here, I know I will be INCREDIBLY impatient for him/her to arrive!

[Peppamint]

Originally Posted by Rowenta

well, i would like to embrace the wait, and I am feeling fine enough, but I have miserable contractions hourly.

Not sure how dialated I am... but I'm having a lot of ctx too and most of them are at night so I'm getting tired of this pretty quickly. :

I feel your pain!

[alexisyael]

I'm embracing the wait, but it's difficult... mostly because the PSD pain is getting worse (I 'll make an appointment with a new chiro on Monday who does the Webster technique, since mine doesn't) and I feel so HUGE and unweildy. Rolling over in bed is a joke (painful!) and every time I stand up, it feels like I'm bruised... and did I mention I have a zit on my pelvis? Right over my pelvic ligaments... SO MUCH FUN!

Also found out I had the makings of a UTI on Friday, so I'm downing the cranberry concentrate (no sugar) and water and vit C like there's no tomorrow...

But other than the physical stuff and some extreme grumpiness last week (that's mostly gone b/c my DH is being more attentive this weekend) I am still mostly loving being pregnant... I love the squirmy kicks! I love being able to massage my baby's butt in utero...

But yeah, I keep saying, I'm ready whenever he's ready. If that's not til late May, so be it.

[newmainer]

It's funny... just when i think that i am ready, something happens and i feel like i am even *more* ready as as result...

yesterday my circle of friends here gave me a *beautiful* Mother Blessing. It was exactly what i wanted/needed and now i feel like i reached the spiritual and internal readiness that definitely wasn't there before. I have candles to light from each woman, which will be my early labor ritual- one that i didn't have before. Last time i put up all my birth art from my birthing from within classes and made a small altar. i hadn't even thought about any of that this time and so i'm feeling a bit more complete...

and today, dh just about finished the shelving in dd's closet so we can get her stuff out of the baby's dresser and into her new set up. This has been the final logistical project and once i get all that nested out and in order i think i'll be able to take that final sigh of release and just let go.

today was unbelievable, weather wise, and just made me so excited for enjoying the beautiful weather to come with a new babe. (course, we have a week of rain forcasted starting tuesday but... whatever!) We have a playset on the way for dd which- i assume!- is going to make my life a gazillion times easier. i wont' have to chase her down at the neighbor's swingset- just the one in our own yard

anyway... wishing you all restful and fulfilling final weeks... days... moments until the magic happens!

[L'lee]

I am NOT ready!! LOL!

Well, my BODY is ready to be "free" again (at 36 weeks, so it MUST wait at least one more week ), but I have things to finish up, and I really want to finish my childbirth class before the baby comes (the last day is May 30 - 2 days after EDD!!) So, I'm trying to talk to the baby and say that May 31 would be the ideal time for him to come out!

Also, I'm holding onto Penny Simkin's words that (except in cases of preemies and very late births) the baby decides when it's time, and will come out when he/she is ready. So I will leave it up to the little one and try to get everything ready before then!

And I'll bear with the bulky body, the back and knee pain, the PSD pain of rolling over in bed, the fluid-filled feet/ankles/hands and try to take the best care of us that I can!

Good luck, mamas!! Hold on and we'll all get to meet our babies soon!

[KatSG]

I have no reason to believe that I'll go especially early so I'm absolutely embracing the wait. I still have some things to finish up for work and I want some more fun time with dd before things get crazy. Three weeks feels like just enough time to do all that.

[Peppamint]

I feel like today I can embrace the wait... but I slept better last night and was ctx-free for the most part.

We'll see how long it lasts! :