Grrr.
DP and I have only had arguments/tension, maybe three times this whole pregnancy.
The past couple months have been dreamy, relationship wise, and I've just felt like a fairy princess...he is so wonderful to me.
But last night, after I told him that I was having contractions and it might be the night, I noticed this really stressed out face. I asked him what was up, and he said, "I don't know if I'm ready for this." (not labor, the change to his life...he originally had wanted an abortion, I was married before, its my fourth, his first).
WHAT? After you cleaned the birth chair, and have read all these books, and come to classes, and been so supportive... You want to say this while I'm having contractions? I believe in honest communication, but occaisionally there are moments when the best thing to do is shut your mouth.
I know he's really worried about money, he hasn't worked steadily in over a year and we had to borrow money from his dad and its already almost gone....
BUT DAMN...we are about to have a baby! I went from feeling like the luckiest woman in the world, totally trusting and happy, to feeling scared and worried.
We haven't really been able to process it either, cuz he said this as we were falling asleep, and then left for work this morning.
RRRRGGGGG.
DP and I have only had arguments/tension, maybe three times this whole pregnancy.
The past couple months have been dreamy, relationship wise, and I've just felt like a fairy princess...he is so wonderful to me.
But last night, after I told him that I was having contractions and it might be the night, I noticed this really stressed out face. I asked him what was up, and he said, "I don't know if I'm ready for this." (not labor, the change to his life...he originally had wanted an abortion, I was married before, its my fourth, his first).
WHAT? After you cleaned the birth chair, and have read all these books, and come to classes, and been so supportive... You want to say this while I'm having contractions? I believe in honest communication, but occaisionally there are moments when the best thing to do is shut your mouth.
I know he's really worried about money, he hasn't worked steadily in over a year and we had to borrow money from his dad and its already almost gone....
BUT DAMN...we are about to have a baby! I went from feeling like the luckiest woman in the world, totally trusting and happy, to feeling scared and worried.
We haven't really been able to process it either, cuz he said this as we were falling asleep, and then left for work this morning.
RRRRGGGGG.
Pregnancy is a lot different for my dh than it is for me... sometimes I just do a lot better posting here or talking to the women in my life, ya know?
But you can also tell him that his feelings are normal and most men have them in some form or another. And encourage him about the fact that he WILL do fine as a parent to this child, even if he thinks he isn't ready now. 
I agree with what a PP said...tell him to keep his doubts quiet when you're having contractions! 
