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post #321 of 334
ryleeee, i have some problems in that department too, and also when using the bathroom. i still manage to do both (LOL) but i don't know if it's getting gradually better or if i'm just getting more used to it...a thought to ponder.

i don't know about ever being "normal" again; i had episiotomies with my two previous births, and i noticed even after those i felt mostly normal afterwards, but a little more sensitive (in a mostly-good way), and my husband said there was like an extra ridge there or something (lol, sorry for such detail), not really a negative thing, but certainly different from what was there before. This time around, i had a nasty tear instead of a cut, and though most people say a tear heals better, i disagree (of course, that could be because i had previous scar tissue to contend with, so my experience isn't likely to be the same as yours, or anyone else's.)

i sure hope it'll get better! Yours and mine too But you're not alone at least.
post #322 of 334
it's nice to know i'm not alone, i just wish i was better.
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post #323 of 334
Ok finallyyyyy caught up on everyones posts and i knew it, i hear kayleigh on the moniter lol! But hugs to all the beauitful babes. Cant believe we have crawlers, teeth and talkers!!!! Growing up toooooo fast. Its not allowed. Ill update more later.

Rachel if the sore throat isnt the problem try a chiro adjust. Ryleee, my epis after my first took over half a year to heal. but this time around no epis and im good to go. so its different every time. ok shes crying byyyyeeee
post #324 of 334
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Ryleeee, with Jakob I didn't have an episiotomy but the midwife said it tore in a straight line just as if it had been done surgically. It was in 3 layers, owie! It took quite some time to be able to have sex without pain, I'd say the better part of a year. It would mostly hurt in the beginning of DTD though, and would get better as things progressed We DTD so infrequently that first year, we were almost shy when we did
post #325 of 334
Nope, not alone Rylee. I didn't get an epi but I tore all over (dr used a vaccum and literally ripped her out) and he stitched me too tight (on purpose : ). The first time we DTD after the birth it was like loosing my virginity all over. It still hurts, but I manage. It hurts more afterword than anything. I hope having a second child will help stretch me back out since I still feel tighter than before. (yeah and next time, there won't be a dr within 30 miles of me )

I finally got the motivation to clean and declutter the house I packed up all the extra dishes today so we only have 2 of each thing. I'll be so happy not to have a pile of dirty dishes staring at me. I still have a ton of work to do, but I'm proud of my progress. Now I have to work on DH to get him to clean his office. Usually if I go in there and start throwing away stuff he'll panic and say he'll do it himself BUT... I have to get him to actually throw away stuff, not just put it in a neat pile.
post #326 of 334
OMG Ryleeee I can always hear the state of your emotions in your posts, it's great. I'm glad Haye is sleeping now...finish the meatballs!! We were going to have meatballs tonight too...but I think it's going to be tomorrow.

Noah has 8 teeth...yes 8. And yes, I do feel them when he nurses Hopefully he'll be like my dd soon and I won't notice them.

I'm a wahm too but it doesn't seem like it. I teach Bradley classes and they are only once a week.

OMG I started this post this morning around 9am and now...it is almost 10:30pm...hope it goes through!

See you in the morning...maybe!:
post #327 of 334
good morning ladies...

Ryleee...I never had any problems in that area but my last 2 I had no epi and healed so much faster...well that's probably because I never tore much...I was very slow pushing and the midwife did a lot of counter pressure as baby came out. I hope things get better soon. I think I would avoid dr.s though..their solution would probably be more surgery. Maybe arnica or something like that would help with the healing.

Anna...way to go with the decluttering...I did a lot with getting ready for selling but it's slowly cluttering up again.

ok..not much time as usual..martina is pulling up..if I sit on the floor she crawls over(she has never made it to a really good crawl btw, still a combo of real crawl and army...I thought she would be really crawling all the time but she kind of switched gears on me..the rest of my kids left army crawl b ehind once they got a taste of the real deal) and pulls herself up using my body...last night she was trying to pull up in the tub and I notice she is getting really frustrated with her lack of mobility...she wants me to walk her around by her hands all the time now. But she's also sleeping more...I think the effort is wearing her out.

Got to run...mastitis is better...we have 10 days before our house is really and truly sold, plans are at the 2 different builders for pricing so it's wait and see what they come up with. It's nerve wracking and exciting at the same time. I really really hope the buyers sell their house soon...I really want this done finally. I will be nice to know where we are living come September.

Must run...have a happy day

post #328 of 334
man am i ever having a bad mommy day

THUD first haye fell off the couch.
then in the mall when i put him on a chair to swap him in the ergo from front to back, he smacked his face into my library book bag and now has a sad puffy left eye with a little bruise. :
post #329 of 334
oh rylee, that sucks. poor boy! and poor you...didn't we have a thread a while back where we all confessed dropping the kid or having them roll off of something? not that it makes you feel any better, just know it happens to everyone.

we have been MIA because now my grandfather is about to die (sorry for your loss Rachel!) and we went to say goodbye. he was very sweet and knew who I was and everything, and asked about the kids. now he is pretty much not making sense anymore and in some pain, so I wish it would happen soon. But anyway take care mamas and babies and I will be back when I can...we will be gone a lot the next few weeks.
post #330 of 334
sorry for your soon to be loss
i'll keep you guys in my prayers.
post #331 of 334
sorry for your soon to be loss mamabeth!

we went to the park today and noah decided to stand up on his own. up until now it has been to a squat for a split second. well this time he made it to the squat and then pushed himself up to a stand!!! holy cow we were all breathless watching him (I was quietly holding my breath hoping he wouldn't fall on his face!) That's the news of the day so far. crazy!

ryleeee i hope haye's face is feeling a bit better! wow
post #332 of 334
I'm sorry, mamabeth.

Wow, Noah! I can't believe all the strides our babes are making! Reading about what everyone else's babe is doing makes me eagerly look forward to Sam doing the same. He *has* started sitting up for a minute or two, so I'm excited about that.

Sam has been "off" the last two days. Fussing a lot and not sleeping well. I'm not sure if he's teething or if it's separation anxiety come on - he's been fussing when I put him down on the floor by himself. But I guess it could be that period they go through before a developmental leap instead, since he's learning to sit. Oh, and he wants to crawl so badly! He rolls to get everywhere, but sometimes he gets mad because he just wants to go forward.

ryleeee, I had a lot of pain DTD after my first babe was born. I had an epi plus a 3rd degree tear. To be honest, it was uncomfortable for about 9 months or so - not to scare you! But it did get better, and I had no problems like that after my next babe was born. None at all this time too- if only I actually wanted to DTD! Anyone else having trouble with that? Poor dh, I can't even muster up a pity deed for him. I'd rather pull out my own wisdom teeth.
post #333 of 334
Operamommy--a "pity deed"..."pull out your own wisdom teeth..." : Umm, yeh, I can sure relate! Poor DH. It's like, that's the absolute last thing I want to do when I'm nursing all day long. And who asked the question about pain when DTD? I have not had an epis, but in general all things considered, it's always taken about a year before it's comfortable physically to fool around again. And then, we're like, "Gee, we should have been doing more of this! Why did we wait so long?" DUH! Because I had no hormones and was healing, that's why.

Mamabeth---Sorry about your impending loss. Death sure is tough to watch. It really makes me think, too. I always am reminded how short life is, and remember that I want to be remembered for being a good and gentle person, and loving and nurturing to my family. Thanks for the reminder about life being so short. Even though you didn't mean to remind us.

Hugs to all of you who have experienced a loss like that lately. Hugs Rachel!!

Allgirls---I hope the house thing works out!! It sounds exciting but exhausting, kind of. Hope you'll treat us all to a picture of your new house, if you're comfortable sharing that.

Ryleeee--I love your posts too! I know they'll always make me laugh my hind end off, you sure are funny! I love how you are human and realistic and just plain COOL. Plus, you like the library...way cool. In fact, I love all the mammas in this group! Even when I don't have time to do anything but read, it's always 15 minutes well spent and therapeutic! It just makes my days even better. I love the dose of reality and laughs from everyone. I love hearing about how the babies are doing.

Speaking of babies, little Hillary is crawling and standing, and has almost two teeth, and she started EATING! She loves green beans and corn pasta, in fact she'll eat anything I give her or she manages to stuff in her mouth. DH is all anxious, he's saying, "You shouldn't give her that! Start with some mushy food! Isn't that too hard for her to eat? Can't you mash some sweet potatoes or something?" Since when did he become so worried about it? And I'm like, "Well, look, if I don't give her these green beans she's gonna chew my hand off. Maybe you'd like to stick YOUR hand in her mouth and then try explaining why she isn't getting any beans!" OK, so today I thought I'd be a good compliant wife (ha ha, yup that's me! ) and bake some sweet potatoes and mash them up for Hillary. I did make them, but the other three kids ate them before they hit Hillary's tray at all! I had a bit myself. I told Hillary she'd get to taste them in the breastmilk. Tomorrow we're back to green beans and stuff. It's all organic, it's all soft enough for her to eat, and she loves it. She probably eats a grand total of about two spoonfuls of food a day.

Tomorrow is June, everyone. Who's gonna be awake first and start the new thread?

Good night and hugs, everyone!!!
post #334 of 334
wow, thanks guys!

i love you all so much.
who knew you could get so attached to a computer screen!

haye's top teeth are almossssttttttt through. i can see them on the corners poking out, i think tonight or tomorrow they will be out. i hope so! man, he's feeling a little under the weather. :

poor baby.

ugh. sometimes i feel like such a bad mom. like i just want to plop him in his exersaucer in front of baby einstein for longer than i should in order to get a break, you know? and sometimes i do. i'm trying to just get out of the house as much as possible, i find that helps, and it wears us both out. we went to the library and the park today and hung out outside, but it was really hot. i think i'm just going to shut my computer off for as long as i can stand it...which probably isn't long. but i made a huge list of things i need to do, and maybe i'll do them. *sigh* i don't know what's wrong with me. just realizing i could be doing so much more than i am. blah blah blah.

anywaysssssss...derek's brother is coming to stay with us tomorrow for a week. he's like...18 or 19 maybe. he's a fun kid. his name is derek too (foster brother). should be interesting.

i bought my dress for my sisters wedding, did i tell you i'm the maid of honour? : perhaps i'll get derek to take a picture of me in it sometime to show you. i think it's pretty.

and uhhh i'm too tired/lazy to re-read the posts.
i can't believe noah and hillary are pulling themselves up. that's crazy to me.
haye's legs are so strong, he can stand for extremely long periods of time holding onto things, he just doesn't really get balance yet.

ugh i can't believe i let him fall off the couch.
so dumb.

maybe tomorrow will be better.
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