Hi sozobe ~ So, our story, well... After Ds stopped nursing for pretty much anything else besides nap time and night time, Dh and I decided he was probably ready to go to bed without nursing. We left the nap time nursing and went for the night time nursing first. We began by using some of Jay Gordon's advice about only night time weaning ( I guess that hapened a bit before anything else,maybe at about 20-22 months or so) so he was already not nursing to get back to sleep through the night, just to initially go to sleep. Dh began talking to him about a month or so before we did anything, just taking every opportunity to talk about not nursing to sleep, and actually not nursing in general (cause that is essentially where we were headed in the long run cause there were only 2 nursing sessions left to take out before he didn't nurse at all). Like, Ds would be getting ready for bed and Dh would just say something really simple like, "Next we'll go have some nunus with mom, pretty soon you won't need nunus anymore to fall asleep huh" and Ds would always agree with him and was comfortable with the whole conversation ~ had this upset DS in anyway we would have taken that seriously and not proceeded any further. Dh also took advantage of us getting 2 puppies right around the same time (not on purpose, but it sure did work) Ds was really curious about the pups and Dh would tell him about how they used to nurse from their mommie's nunus but they were getting to be bigger puppies and now they didn't use mommie's nunus anymore. It was all really gentle and really simple comments or observations like these, and he never pushed, they would just talk about it, and I didin't get involved AT ALL!!!!! (kinda nice, but each time I heard them talking about it I totally dreaded that eventual day KWIM). Then he began talking more and more about it (especially on their way home from work, this is a big quality time for them and I am still at work so I'm not there) and talking about how we would go to sleep instead (mommy daddy night night, as Ds called it) and Ds was actually pretty excited to try it. Then basically DH just told him when we were getting ready to nurse one night that tomorrow night we'd try to not nurse before we went to sleep and then he asked Ds how we would go to sleep and he said "mommy daddy night night" with a big smile. SO we tried it the next night (I was soooo nervous) but not one cry, or any other protest from DS, just went right to sleep with mom and dad laying on either side of him. And that is still waht we do now almost 4 months later!!!!
Naps were a little harder ~ and he gave them up all together for a while too, but now he'll either nap in the car on the way to town, or on the weekends with dad reading him Dr Seusse's Sleep Book (always the sleep book). At first he wouldn't read a book with me and go to sleep but I have doen it twice now and it works pretty well. Dh talked to him a lot about naps too and we call it "relaxing time" cause when he ditched napping all together we'd tell him that mom and dad need to get some things done and so he could relax a while since he didn't want to take a nap, and he'd just sit on the couch looking at books or something else fairly quiet. But then Dh started talking to him about how much better Ds seemed to feel when he slept during the day (he would still fall asleep some days in the car, and some days we'd just put him in there cause he was so far gone!!) and Ds ran with it and started "relaxing" with dad each day of the weekend!!!!
Hope this Helps ~ I was sooo amazed it worked out sooooo well, I still am sometimes !!!!!!!!