It is very much my place to judge. How else does one choose a friend than by judging their commonalities and differences against one's own. This must be why ALL my friends currently have intact sons who were breastfed.
I could not stay friends with someone who would abuse their child. It is not "just an opinion." It is a common ethical stance throughout our society that babies should not be brutalized (except in this one way?)
There is no way I would remain friends with anyone that intentionally hurts a baby.
Either by having their fingernails ripped from their beds because "its sooo much cleaner, there's no way he would keep them clean anyway", cutting off a toe "to look like daddy; who, of course, had to have one removed because it was infected as a teenager and remembers the pain..."
or because they just looove the way a one-eared man looks and they would "never want to be with a two eared guy eeeewww!"
I cannot change a friend who's son has already been mutilated, but I will not stay friends with someone who has the information (which I always share) and still has the most sensitive part of their baby's genitals ripped away FOR any
non-life threatening reason! but how many babies get penis frostbite?