Originally Posted by paquerette
Doesn't that say something about their thought processes, though? I'm not trying to insult your friends; I'm trying to understand how someone can believe such a thing in the face of overwhelming evidence that it isn't so. There are people out there making all kinds of dreadful childrearing choices who probably think they're doing the best for their babies, cio and spanking etc, but how can we validate that this is a logical thing to believe? I think the Flying Spaghetti Monster has more credibility than the belief that circumcision is somehow beneficial to an infant. :
I understand the frustration, but my point (and others) about my friends is that the 'good' parents that choose circ don't understand the overwhelming evidence against circumcising. My best friend believed some of the hype-- and her doctors are responsible for that. She was concerned about the pain and potential mistakes, as I was. We went through different thought processes that were shaped by many things. I'm very thankful that there were at least 3 people on a mainstream board that shared postitive experiences about leaving sons intact. Not everyone hears even one positive example.
So her though process was that circumcising is done to prevent painful infections, her doctors are telling her that this is true and recommending that she should circumcise. Now, then she further needed to rationalize her concern over the pain. Her doctor assures her that HE is so concerned about this that he does X Y and Z, not all doctors do this. He also has SO much experience and came recommended by so and so. So then maybe she justifies that other people (that choose to leave sons intact) don't have this wonderful doctor that does all this stuff to ensure ds's safety.
This is different than 'I circed my son because I think it is more appealing, and an intact penis is gross'. If my friend said that I would not even phase her out, she would be out, but I don't know anyone (IRL) that is like that, thank goodness.
I'm sorry I always rant on this, but it seems to me to be a very critical piece of knowledge in order to be able to approach people effectively. People are not goign to listen to me if I assume they are 'bad' parents because they consider circumcision a valid option. I have to find out how I can present information that reaches them. Or make them suspicious. Or relieve their fears. Or supply alternatives (such as a Bris Shalom if someone is Jewish). Or whatever.
I usually approach each person very individually online. I guess maybe I'd be bolder now that I know more than I did with my friend. One of the lessons I learned from her is that sometimes people do things like call pediatric urologist-- and these doctors see people that have 'problems' and are biased in that way.