Well, we're military. We had a hugely incompetant pediatric practice that we were "assigned" to go to (the only military treatment facility in a 20 mile radius). So, we had "no choice" but this practice.
I avoided the vaccination issue for nine months by simply nodding my head when they told me to go the nurses side to the shot room. I just didn't go to the shot room and no one ever put two and two together.
UNTIL the day I had my husband along with me, and we were waiting on some forms and HE went and stood by the stupid shot room. So, then one of the nurses came up to him, and he had to tell her that we were actually not vaccinating.
So, then I got to have the following conversation with this nurse that including the following points:
That she could report my husband to his active duty commander for refusing to vaccinate.
That if we were stationed in Germany, she would inform the base commander so we could no longer live on base
You know your son is FTT don't you? (which, by the way, was the first mention of FTT EVER with my son. I had been banging my head with this pediatric office for months because *I* knew he wasn't growing properly but they lost his growth chart three times and "we can't take a parent's word for it" when I'd tell them what he previously weighed. But now it was mentioned as if to accuse me of negligent parenting).
Culminating with "I'm glad not all parents are as careless and irresponsible as you are, and the doctor will need to approve this."
I sat there for a good two minutes, after this conversation, trying to decide whether I was going to let this go. And suddenly I sat up and said to myself "I don't have to take this crap, ESPECIALLY from this sorry excuse of a doctor's office." So, I followed Nurse Hilge right into the vaccination room and I let her know the following
a.) You are entitled to your opinion, but I didn't ask for it, so next time keep it yourself.
b.) I don't give a flying leap what you would do if we were in Germany. Last I checked, WE ARE NOT IN GERMANY. Last I checked, neither are you. So, it really doesn't matter WHAT you would do in Germany, now does it? Don't spew useless information at me.
c.) Go ahead and call my husband's active duty commander. Understand that he has no authority over our medical decisions and know that I will pursue you for threatening and violation of our HIPAA rights if you release any medical information about my son.
Long story short, she was quite unrepentant and said if I didn't like her opinion, that was my problem and she was going to report me as a combative patient. And THEN, the doctor came out. We were there to get a health form for our adoption signed for our son. He confirmed my son was healthy and there would be no problems, and he signed the first form BEFORE he knew about our vaccination stuff. Then, when we needed him to sign the second form a day later (after this all came out) he said he couldn't do that because our son was not healthy.
So, I had to make ANOTHER appointment to go in there. I took with me the first sheet he had signed stipulating my son would pose no health risks to an adopted child. Then I looked at him straight in the face and said "You have two choices. EIther you lied the day you signed this form, and said my son was healthy when he was not. In that case you committed medical negligence and I will be following up on that. Or, you are currently lying. In which case I will be following up on that. So, please tell me which is true, so I may figure out which actions I need to take."
He sat there in dead silence for a few minutes, signed our form, and then told us that when we came for future appointments to never see him because "it's obvious we can't work together."
It took two appeals and a whole litany of complaints to finally get permission to seek care with a different practice, and let me tell you, the vaccination issue wasn't even the biggest of my issues with that practice.