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post #61 of 100
Whew, I was starting to think I was going nuts for wondering that. I'm only 29, so not sure age is a factor. But maybe I'm just out of touch.
post #62 of 100
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Originally Posted by hippiemom View Post
I realllllllly do not understand any of this thread... I read it just to try and get it, but I don't. I am with the poster who brought up the fact that, haven't we fought for the right NOT to have to be shaven for labor and delivery? I am a doula and childbirth educator, and have noticed that many of my clients are shaved "down there". Why? Since when did natural pubic hair become out of fashion? Yeah I'm old and outta touch I guess, but I cannot imagine shaving or waxing it all on a regular basis. I take care of the bikini area in the summer, and shave my legs and pits, but sheesh, that is enough.
no sheesh needed, it's completely a personal preference, i don't think it has anything to do with fashion, but with what feels good. i don't shave my legs, but did shave my pubic area for many years. now i just trim it very very short. it's all about what you're comfortable with. and that's really what women have been "fighting" for isn't it? the freedom to do as we so please with our own pubic hair, shave or not, trim or not wax or not. not having someone else tell us what we want wiht our bodies is wrong, dirty or "fashionable" is freedom too.

(and i'm guessing i'm older than you and have certain parts pierced too that others might find odd or wrong also )
post #63 of 100
Hippiemom, I've been getting notices in my email saying there were more replies and each time I would think of all my AP/NFL friends in Lawrence, KS that are completely unshaven. Not all of them are, but there are a good handful. And I keep thinking that this site is about being more natural. I do shave my legs in the summer and I trim my pubic hair, but I've never shaven it completely. And I also wax my eyebrows. I've got a long way to go to get completely comfortable with my natural body. This thread just seemed a little odd to me here.
post #64 of 100
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Originally Posted by honeybeedreams View Post
no sheesh needed, it's completely a personal preference, i don't think it has anything to do with fashion, but with what feels good. i don't shave my legs, but did shave my pubic area for many years. now i just trim it very very short. it's all about what you're comfortable with. and that's really what women have been "fighting" for isn't it? the freedom to do as we so please with our own pubic hair, shave or not, trim or not wax or not. not having someone else tell us what we want wiht our bodies is wrong, dirty or "fashionable" is freedom too.
I agree 100% it is about personal preference.
I personally llike the feeling of a hairless yoni. It is more for me than anyone else. My DH didn't even know I was having this done but he likes it a LOT It is easier for him to see everything and we all know how visual men are. I honestly fantisized about having this done for weeks before I made the appointment.:

What I think is ironic is that someone would feel it is out of place that this thread is here : I am a homebirthing, extended nursing, cloth diapering, co-sleeping Mama and have been at MDC for 5 years. I see more medically minded detached parenting threads than NFL/AP threads, specificially in this forum. I mean we cannot even use the word mainstream on this board anymore (now, don't delete this post please, I didn't call anyone mainstream ) So it's not name calling

But a Mama that makes the choice to decide what body hair stays and what goes is now not NFL/AP??? It's ok to decide to expose my fetus to unnecessary testing, chemicals, narcotics & other medications during labor, not to mention planned cesareans & vaccines but it's not ok to decide how much pubic hair I have??? Hmmm so much for women having a choice.

Interesting

Keri

BTW I'm 37 and I DON'T wax my eyebrows
post #65 of 100
I hate to be blunt......
I think you can be Natural/Ap parenting and have hair or no hair. I think medical concerns and things like that are alot different than a prefrence to shave.
I agree that hair is a natural part of life, but for some women it is ugly and gross. I said i was going to be blunt.
Also I think hair or hairless has been a trend. Just like clothes. Different generations did different things with it.
Does it really serve a purpose? In certain areas, I dont think so.
It is a choice to do what you want with your own body. Shaving is not going to effect my baby or my health.
Maybe it is my age (27) but I think too much hair on a woman anywhere, is unecessary. I dont see shat having hair or not down there or anywhere is considered not natural parenting or living. I thought that had to do with concerns that could effect the person/family in a real way. I.E. Circing, Vaxing, drug free etc.
Just my opinion.
post #66 of 100
do it!!!!

I have been getting brazilians throughout my pregnancy and found that they do NOT hurt any more than usual (for me personally, I've heard some people become more sensitive).

Be warned though that your first time getting a brazilian is the toughest, because there is just more hair to remove and it takes a little getting used to. But it is SO WORTH IT!!!
post #67 of 100
Oh wow I just read through the whole thread.

I agree with others that it is a matter of personal preference. I would be upset if I was shaved against my wishes in a hospital, absolutely. :

But I think we all have the right to do as we wish with our hair as a personal choice!!! Pubic and otherwise. I am very into natural living but one thing I enjoy doing for myself is getting a wax.

Nothing wrong with the natural look either!!!
post #68 of 100
Maybe I'll change my sig to "bikini waxes are NOT natural!"
JK. I'm pretty live & let live when it comes to other people's grooming habits.
I wonder about the infantilizing/porn-izing aspect of it...there's something odd to me about trying to have hairless genitals as an adult woman. I am no longer prepubescent, and the porno 'landing strip' doesn't appeal to me aesthetically. And pain/itching/bleeding/pimples/ingrown hairs on my labia sounds totally unappealing. So no, I don't really "get it" either. A trim seems more than adequate if needed to keep things hygienic.
But I've got no problem with people seeing it differently.
post #69 of 100
Yeah, same here. I wasn't proposing that we confiscate people's hot wax; just wondering if mamas had given any thought to the shaving/waxing issue in light of the history of this issue, in terms of natural birth.
post #70 of 100
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Yeah, same here. I wasn't proposing that we confiscate people's hot wax; just wondering if mamas had given any thought to the shaving/waxing issue in light of the history of this issue, in terms of natural birth.
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maybe i shouldn't wear a bra either, in light that my feminist foremothers risked so much socially by burning them.....

(i wonder if anyone here knows that there are certain ethinic groups in this world have no or very little pubic hair... are they naturally infantilized too by naturally being like this? )
post #71 of 100
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Originally Posted by honeybeedreams View Post
i don't think it has anything to do with fashion, but with what feels good.

agreed, I dont bother with my legs at all (well, rarely, definitely less than once a month....) but I shave all pubic and armpits daily. at almost 6 month pregnant it's getting really hard to see to shave there so I'll be doing it by feel before too long.


no waxing though, ugh. no one besides me or my partner needs to get that close to me naked.
post #72 of 100
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(i wonder if anyone here knows that there are certain ethinic groups in this world have no or very little pubic hair... are they naturally infantilized too by naturally being like this? )
No, but in looking into it I learned more about pubic hair than I had even thought possible . Closest I could come was that Japanese people tend to have thinner pubic hair. But no, I wouldn't see that as the same as voluntarily and painfully removing your secondary sex characteristics.

I also found The Brazilian Wax: the New Hairlessness Norm for Women? . Rather comprehensive and expresses my thinking on the matter.

Regardless once again, peace and hair grease to the waxers and nonwaxers of the universe
post #73 of 100
maybe i shouldn't wear a bra either, in light that my feminist foremothers risked so much socially by burning them.....

Except that didn't actually happen!

http://www.snopes.com/history/american/burnbra.htm
post #74 of 100
being shaved in a hospital and "styling" your own hair are completely different imo. i would feel violated having someone do that TO me but i don't at all doing what i want with it at home. (or trying to con my dh into doing it once my belly gets too big ). i'm too chicken to get waxed down there but i get my lip waxed on a regular basis. i just don't groove on having a 'stache. i don't want to look like a man even if apparently my genetics did want me to i think it is about the freedom to do whatever feels good to you.

i think nfl encompases a wide variety of personal 'style' types. i mean it is easy to assume when we can't see everyone sitting at their computer's that we all have dreads and wear quilted skirts and backless shirts and grow our armpit hair.....but uh i don't look like that. and yet there are so many things about AP that i love. it doesn't have to mean hippie. or 70s style bush (which i am rocking at the moment by the way) i go back and forth
post #75 of 100
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Originally Posted by Herausgeber View Post
maybe i shouldn't wear a bra either, in light that my feminist foremothers risked so much socially by burning them.....

Except that didn't actually happen!

http://www.snopes.com/history/american/burnbra.htm
sure it did, i have photos of it in my women's studies text books! (okay, maybe they were draft cards... but men burned those, not women)
post #76 of 100
It's weird, but I never felt the urge to have a Brazilian until this, my third pregnancy. I just had a total aversion to my hair. Now, I feel great. I felt great with a full bush during my first two pregnancies. Go figure. Before Brazilian, I did NOTHING, not even shaving.

Thanks for posting the article on the feminist perspective. I can't wait to read it.
post #77 of 100


This thread makes me laugh because we are all strong, powerful women trying to impart our ideas/opinions to others to 'help'...yet sometimes words on paper come out wrong and people feel threatened...

My 'opinion' is do what you want with your hair! Shave your head bald for all I care (and all other parts too!)

The 'biology' of it for ME is that when I completely shave my pubic area it feels good at first, but then if I sweat at all or just basic moisture is in the area it feels like my labia stick--either together or to my leg or something--just kinda sticky feeling...don't like it...so I do it rarely.

Same with armpits. If anyone out there has never grown their armpit hair, I would suggest you try it just once. After the hair grows out about 1/4 inch, it starts to feel nice...no pricklies! I don't sweat or smell 1/2 as much as I do shaven! And my armpits never have the 'sticky--kinda starting to sweat' feeling! It really feels better...but that is hard to explain to someone who has never had hair --or doesn't remember it!
I do shave my pits if I'm going to be in a swimsuit or something...mainly for my dh--he is ok with hair on my legs--but draws the line with armpits!

As for labor/delivery--PROS of shaving would be no hair sticking to the dried blood/pad after the birth, better photo ops (can see more) during delivery, no hair sticking to the 'tape' under paper pads (vs cloth pads).
CONS--if you knick yourself shaving right before L&D you may notice it, hard to shave while hugely pg, waxing may be uncomfortable since pg makes you more sensitive in that area (usually), hair growing back and blood/stitches is not a cool combo.

Those are just MY Pros and Cons--and are put here just to let ya think about! Again--I care NOT what anyone else does with any of their hair. Hell, my dh shaves all over the place--chest, crotch, he even TRIMS his armpits! (he's a metrosexual)

Anyways--keep the posts coming! I'm finding it really entertaining!
post #78 of 100

Yes, it hurts!

I got a Brazillian wax while I was in my 6th month and it hurt more than I could have ever imagined! I used it as practice for pain coping for birth! For some reason, I had no idea that the follicles would be more sensitive because of pregnancy, so part of my problem may have been that I was not expecting it to be this way at all. I have been waxed while I wasn't pregnant and it was never anywhere near this bad. I would recommend using an electric shaver and having your husband help you - just make sure you put on an attachment - it can be a really short one - that way he can't cut you.

Good luck!
post #79 of 100
Haven't read the entire thread, but my mom's a cosmotologist and yes, the skin IS MUCH MORE DELICATE during pregnancy. In fact, people have been known to lose skin and bruise very badly from waxing a bikini line and/or more than that during pregnancy. And I'm talking bruising like you've been beaten. I know this because I had her wax my bikini line before I knew I was pregnant. I lost the top layer of skin and bruised so badly I couldn't wear underwear or anything more than a very loose skirt for a week and a half. When we realized what was happening we stopped and she asked me if there was any possibility that I was pregnant. I was like, "well, mom, I suppose so, as I am married and we have sex..." Lo and behold...

So apparently, there are horror stories like mine all over salon culture...that's why they make you sign a waiver. I even know several salons absolutely refuse to wax a pregnant woman.

So, I'd say, shave as much as you can and then take a pair of trimming scissors with you to the birth and trim the hair very short after you've had the baby.
post #80 of 100
Resurrecting this thread.

I found it while doing a search on brazilian waxing during pregnancy. I had never done it before, had only tried upper lip, eyebrow, armpit and bikini, all of which were a good deal painful. I normally didn't do much with my hair 'down there' and there was a lot of it. So after reading an article about brazilians I got curious. I have shaven my lady before, but I hated the way it felt not 3 hours later, and (TMI) I'm one of those people that has hair on the inside of my outer labia, so shaving took forever to get a thorough job done. I told my DP about it and she was not impressed and talked me out of it for a bit. She said she didn't want me looking like a little girl, which was not my goal or intention.

For some reason this pregnancy I am just not happy with my body hair so last week I did it, I made an appointment to get a brazilian. I was worried after reading this thread about the pain of it, but I figure after pushing a person through my body with no meds I can handle anything. On Friday I did it. She left a nice little patch on the top, but nothing down below. Surprisingly it hurt less than getting my eyebrow and upper lip done. I brought tylenol with me in case I needed it, but by the time I got up off the table all the pain was gone. And I'm sold. I love the way it feels. I love being clean down there. It has literally been years since I've been hairfree but I will be doing this for a while to come. Personally it feels so nice to be neat down there. The hair was so annoying, and I hated feeling like cleaning up for doctors and midwives, but I also hated feeling all hairy. I can't wait to throw on my bathing suit this year with no advance preparation.
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