Aaaaarrrrrgh. I am sooo frustrated with myself and annoyed with my BILs right now!!
Last evening, DH and I took a long walk, as we always do. Halfway through, I had what I think was my first real contraction. It felt like a belt of pain around my body, low down near the pelvis. It was intense and lasted a few minutes. I sat down on a bench and the pain went away, and we slowly finished our walk.
Last night, I had my usual regular BHs every ten minutes until I managed to fall asleep.
Today, my husband's brother called, as he's been doing EVERY DAY FOR THE LAST WEEK, despite our assurances that we'll let him know when I go into labor, to see if anything was new. DH told him about the pain I'd had last night, but said it hadn't led to anything. No big deal.
Well, three hours later, BIL's partner calls, and very forcefully insists that I call the birth clinic and talk to the mws about my "pain". I try to explain to him that it was probably just a contraction and no big deal and that I'm not the least bit worried. He's a psychologist and works in a hospital and told me and DH that he was surrounded by doctors, had asked their opinion and they all thought I should call the birth center, blah blah blah blah.
And even though I knew it was stupid and that he was over-reacting and that IT WAS NONE OF HIS BUSINESS, I did what he told me to do and called the mws! They were kind enough not to laugh at me, told me it sounded like a contraction and that I'd soon be having more of them
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But now I'm stewing over the fact that I let him treat us like children and steamroller us despite the fact that we are competent adults and that it's MY body, I know better than any "expert" what's weird / not weird.
I told DH that he was not allowed to share any more details with his brother aside from "we're leaving for the clinic now". I'm also realizing that I'll probably be dealing with this kind of interference FOREVER unless we learn to stand up for ourselves. The problem being that with this particular psychologist (he's also a Freudian psychoanalyst) is that resistance to his ideas tends to be interpreted as a psychological issue.
Grrrrrrrr. Sorry this is so long, I just had to vent. We're seeing them for dinner, I'm not sure how I'll be able to deal calmly with them.....
Last evening, DH and I took a long walk, as we always do. Halfway through, I had what I think was my first real contraction. It felt like a belt of pain around my body, low down near the pelvis. It was intense and lasted a few minutes. I sat down on a bench and the pain went away, and we slowly finished our walk.
Last night, I had my usual regular BHs every ten minutes until I managed to fall asleep.
Today, my husband's brother called, as he's been doing EVERY DAY FOR THE LAST WEEK, despite our assurances that we'll let him know when I go into labor, to see if anything was new. DH told him about the pain I'd had last night, but said it hadn't led to anything. No big deal.
Well, three hours later, BIL's partner calls, and very forcefully insists that I call the birth clinic and talk to the mws about my "pain". I try to explain to him that it was probably just a contraction and no big deal and that I'm not the least bit worried. He's a psychologist and works in a hospital and told me and DH that he was surrounded by doctors, had asked their opinion and they all thought I should call the birth center, blah blah blah blah.
And even though I knew it was stupid and that he was over-reacting and that IT WAS NONE OF HIS BUSINESS, I did what he told me to do and called the mws! They were kind enough not to laugh at me, told me it sounded like a contraction and that I'd soon be having more of them
.But now I'm stewing over the fact that I let him treat us like children and steamroller us despite the fact that we are competent adults and that it's MY body, I know better than any "expert" what's weird / not weird.
I told DH that he was not allowed to share any more details with his brother aside from "we're leaving for the clinic now". I'm also realizing that I'll probably be dealing with this kind of interference FOREVER unless we learn to stand up for ourselves. The problem being that with this particular psychologist (he's also a Freudian psychoanalyst) is that resistance to his ideas tends to be interpreted as a psychological issue.
Grrrrrrrr. Sorry this is so long, I just had to vent. We're seeing them for dinner, I'm not sure how I'll be able to deal calmly with them.....
right now, so I think it could be fun to try to "explore" and psycoanalize a bit why BIL may have such a hard time accepting your decisions!Is HE feeling insecure about a major decision or event in his life?Is he worried HE'll not be the best Uncle?It could go on and on,especially for those who know him...Give him a taste of his own "medicine".See how he likes it!
After all,you're just a "little innocent pregnant woman" concerned about HIS wellbeing,right?
Sounds like he's quite the birth expert. I would screen calls if I was in your position. Plus, is dinner necessary? Why spend time with anyone who does not consider you a birth goddess?? 
It is a good time to start with setting boundaries with him and feel free to use that word as he will certainly take notice. People will always have opinions about one's parenting but being assertive makes a difference. Now is the time to focus on yourself and your upcoming birth.
People are so weird about pg women for some reason.
Like midwives/doctors can peer at the belly and say "xx days to go" or whatever.
: . At this rate, I'll be birthing this baby sometime next winter.
I'm glad to see you refrained from a good old fashioned throttling of your ILs at dinner! 
