Oh, and I want to add, I'm all for lactivism, but some people do take it to far.
Nursing was hard, it was a struggle, it was painful, but we're still working at it. My son is 15 months now. We've had our up and downs. He was exclusively bf till five months. After a series of events, he ended up with formula here and there. Infact, after that series of events, I stopped pumping for the time I was a way working. Six weeks later, I caught up. Then the pump was taken away from me. Thankfully I was allowed to have it back a few days after. Then two months later, it was taken for good. We broke out the formula again. Pumping just put too much stress on the time I had with him. I wish I could have mellowed out and kept him on the my milk. He hasn't had a drop of formula since the day I quit my job. Probably less than 3% of the milk he got was formula. I have some days I'm guilty that I broke down and made that choice, but then I have others where I'm happy that I had that choice to make.
Sometimes it hurts though when someone says something negative to me about formula. Sometimes some people are so strong that they make me feel like I failed my son. That really hurts, especially after that emotional rollercoaster I was on that drove me to the point of making that choice. I feel if some people weren't so strong about bf, myself, pre baby included, that I would have saved myself a lot of stress and worry. I wish I took a pump, and suplement if needed aproach from the beginning. I look back and often I feel more guilty for those months of stress and shortchanging my son because I *couldn't* fail and give him formula.
btw, I haven't been offended by anyone here yet. Somewhere else someone stated that "fomula is the devil's milk, it taste's nasty. Parent's would have to be insane to use it. " That's the kind of thing that makes lactivists look bad. I think we (yes I consider myself a lactivist) can do a little more to combat insensitivity within our ranks.