Originally Posted by GreenGrrl
I'm not a frequent poster here and probably won't be welcomed back after saying this, but geez, ladies, this is one mean-spirited thread. Instead of getting all high and mighty about other mother's excuses for not breastfeeding, how about some thoughtful responses to those excuses that might help moms make better choices for themselves and their babies? People accuse the media of creating the "Mommy Wars," but here it is, in black and white, produced by and for mothers themselves.
Thank you for this.
I'm a ff-ing Mommy, not particularly proud of it. I was a staunch breastfeeding advocate prior to having my son, and as much as I knew bf-ing was the right and ONLY way to feed a child, I really was not prepared for the onslaught of emotions after the baby. I was reeling from a really nasty labour experience, had a gaping hole in my episiotomy that was not able to be stitched, I actually didnt' want to be anywhere near my son because all I remember was pain and frustration because I couldn't get him to latch right. One half hour after he was born, the nurse tried to get him to latch on to my breast so we could feed. I told her no way was I formula feeding my son - that was akin to rat poison in my books. So she tried - half heartedly - and I was pretty doped up still from my epi, and getting stitched and poked and prodded. Evan was having trouble latching, and the next thing I knew she put a bottle of formula in my husband's hands and told him to feed the baby the formula, that it was no big deal.
Anyway - this has all been discussed in prior posts from me on here. I tend to stay away from the breastfeeding/lactivism forums because it just brings back up all my guilt about formula feeding. I came into this thread to try to see if I could remember what my "excuse" was at the time. And to be hoenst, I have no idea why I quit. All I know was I was out of my mind, got NO support from either hospital staff or family members - aside from my husband who, bless his soul, was so distraught seeing me so frustrated and out of it that he really had no idea what to do.
I know that I am really a minority on these boards, and I try not to talk about my FFing too too much, since its' just not accepted, and I even to this day know that it was the wrong decision and feel horrible about it. But even though FFing is not looked upon too highly around here, I too think this thread is a bit mean spirited. Yes there are a ton of "stupid excuses", but you know - to those women at that time, they really might have been serious to them. I look back and think to myself "self, you're a punka$$ - lazy and selfish and seriously made a bad decision". Reading threads like this really makes me feel so much worse.
BUT - my reality is what it is at this point. I know better for next time, and I'll be damned if I let ANYTHING stop me with my next babe. But maybe, just maybe, these stupid excuses aren't stupid to the women who are making this choice - and ultimately it IS just that - their choice.