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post #41 of 175
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Originally Posted by MomBirthmomStepmom
So since your friends could manage every other abused woman can? Now THAT is a silly excuse!!

I DID have alot of issues with childhood sexual abuse. It didn't stop me, no, but it did give me a HARD time mentally, and I considered stopping quite a few times cause of it.

I just think it's plain wrong to go saying that's an 'excuse'.

I couldn't have said it better....I battled with those same feelings.
post #42 of 175
Thread Starter 
Since I was the OP I will explain why I started this thread. I am working my tail off to keep feeding my baby. I just spent 3 days in the hospital with severe mastitis (after doing 3 different antibiotics at home). I am not trying to toot my own horn - my last baby weaned at 3 months. And yes, I had an excuse which seems stupid now. She was in the NICU and we had trouble getting her to latch (and I was experienced!). I pumped for 3 months and put every feeding in a bottle. Finally I was worn out and just gave up.

After working like crazy for this baby, it really ticks me off to hear lame excuses. I thought it would be funny to hear the crazy/silly things people say. And maybe help some of us who are having difficulties vent a bit. I hate that when I was in the hospital everyone (I work at the same hospital) just assumed that this meant I'd wean Luke. He's 5 weeks old! Good grief, isn't breastfeeding worth fighting for? Apparently most of my co-workers don't think so. It is so frustrating!

Evansmommy, I feel bad that you keep reading this forum and feel guilty. I felt that way myself not too long ago.
post #43 of 175
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Originally Posted by Yulia_R
“I breastfed for X weeks/months and then my milk dried up" (yeah, right, it just dried up!..: )
Uh...my milk dried up after 24 months...yes, it just dried up!
post #44 of 175
Thread Starter 
My milk did just dry up too, and dd was only 9 months. But I was pregnant again. Couldn't figure out why she was biting and fussing at the breast. I thought it was a nursing strike - nope just pg.
post #45 of 175
You know - some people are thoughtful and rational, and make decisions based on reality. Other people are ignorant, and they make decisions that are based on, um, other things. Sometimes those reasons are amusingly ridiculous to those who know better, i.e. us.

I don't think anyone here didn't breastfeed because their nipples were too big or they wanted DH to be able to feed the baby.
post #46 of 175
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Originally Posted by EvansMomma
That's awesome!
FFing is - I think - far more time consuming and troublesome than breastfeeding was. I spend hours a day cleaning and preparing bottles. Then once a day I get the joy of MAKING the wretched formula. All this, and on top of it I have to listen to my poor lil babe cry for 3-5 mins while his bottle warms. If anyone says to any of you that they FF because it's easier - they are fooling themselves!!
lol Yup! That's why I told the lady at the park "I'm too damn lazy to Formula feed" It's the truth! lol. I'm too lazy and too much of a tightwad to FF.

Sure, my dd went on nursing strike and (due to lack of support and education...) weaned at 8 months...I still gave it a good go. Formula was *EXPENSIVE!* Even for an 8 mo old who was getting regular meals of solids...
post #47 of 175
I have heard some classics! I used to have a list that I kept adding to when I was working but I have no idea what file it is. lol I will paraphrase some from memory.


I can't breastfeed because this is a mixed race baby and I'm only white.

I tried to breastfeed but the baby didn't like the way I smelled.

I won't breastfeed because I am 16 so I can't make enough milk. I heard about mature milk and I'm not physically mature so...

I won't nurse because I work in a tanning salon and I tan and I don't want to nuke my milk.

I can't breastfeed because I didn't nurse my older son and that wouldn't be fair.

I make low-fat milk and the baby was always hungry. It's because I am too skinny.

I tried breastfeeding and did ok the first day but I think the baby was uncomfortable with the intamacy, she doesn't like to be held.

We didn't breastfeed becuase we circumcise. (still don't get that one)

I weaned at 3 months because he started staring at my chest and it made me uncomfortable.

I wanted to breastfeed but she was in the NICU for two days and I heard that if you don't nurse in the first 30 minutes you can't get your milk in so it was too late for us.

My doctor told me to wean him because he was gaining too much weight.

I switched to formula because she had diarrhea all day. (which i later confirmed was soft, yellow BM stools. mom was expecting solid brown stools like an adults and assumed the baby was ill)

My girls were allergic to my milk to I had to use Good Start. They did much better with those small protiens. (AAAAARRRRGHHHHHHH I hate Nestle!)

The nutritionist downstairs (at WIC) told me my diet isn't good enough for breastfeeding and that I had to cut out all grains and milk. I don't want to.

I heard that when you're nursing you can't eat nuts or have oral sex.


lolol......good times!
post #48 of 175
I forgot on eof my favorites!

I don't think I should breastfeed. I'm lactose intolerant and I love my baby but I don't want to be sick all the time.


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post #49 of 175
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Originally Posted by EvansMomma
That's awesome!
FFing is - I think - far more time consuming and troublesome than breastfeeding was. I spend hours a day cleaning and preparing bottles. Then once a day I get the joy of MAKING the wretched formula. All this, and on top of it I have to listen to my poor lil babe cry for 3-5 mins while his bottle warms. If anyone says to any of you that they FF because it's easier - they are fooling themselves!!
: Peanut was tiny and the NICU wouldn't let us bf until she was "up to it", so she was on bottle for several months before transitioning to breast- no formula, she threw it up, so entirely expressed breast milk- i can not even begin to say how much easier it is to just pop Little Man on boob, then it was to sterilize, heat, (i SO hear ya' on the crying babe- those are the longest 5 minutes!!) tote around, keep cold, etc. i always completely at that excuse- it is NOT easier at all!

i'm pretty tolerant of people's reasons, except the "DH doesn't want to share"
(then WHY did you have children, you will be sharing EVERYTHING of yours for years to come- get over it!) and "I don't want my boobs to sag" - said by my post partum nurse's daughter in law- this nurse is also a very good friend of our family's- we've known each other for 25 years, she told me that DIL choosing to FF for that reason was just heartbreaking to her!
post #50 of 175
[QUOTE=JamesMama]"

"I was molested." (I don't know maybe this is a very valid excuse but I know 2 people who were molested as children and they managed to bf)

QUOTE]
I was molested and really really really had a hard time overcoming this when starting out bfing- not because i was feeling sorry for myself or dwelling in the past etc but your body has "memories" and certain touches can cause flashbacks and induce horrible pain. I was not aware this could be a possibility at all until i was in labor with ds #1 and had a flashback episodes and then our bfing start was filled with horrible raw emotion where I was having a hard time seperating the abuse from feeding my baby...I did overcome this with lots of work and determination because i wasn't going to let my abuser continue his reign of terror to affect my child's life too 20+ yrs after he raped me. And I am happy to say I am *still* nursing ds#1 and his baby brother. But i can certainly see how it could be a valid point for *some* women- there's more on the topic in the book When Survivors Give Birth
I do think though if a woman suspects ahead of time that she thinks she'll have troubles because of abuse she should seek cousoling not just for breastfeeding's sake but because i've also learned (the hard way) that early abuse can also affect the way you parent as well...examples: afraid to bathe your child, afraid you're giving too much affection, afraid to trust your own insticts-because you think you're "damaged" , or living in absoloute paranoia that something horrible is going to happen there are many other ways it can affect parenting those are just a few.
So if you know someone who says they don't plan on bfing for this reason be empathitic and listen they may just need some reassurance, guidance or a point in the right direction to resources that can help her.
post #51 of 175
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Originally Posted by LadyInfidel

I won't nurse because I work in a tanning salon and I tan and I don't want to nuke my milk.


I heard that when you're nursing you can't eat nuts or have oral sex.


lolol......good times!
some of these are truly wild!! oral sex and nuts?

i laughed at the tanning salon comment, too- my little brother got married last year and i was going to be in a spag strap dress for it, so i hit the tanning salon a month before to get a little color- (i know, i know, they're bad, but i was SO white ) anyhoo- can't speak on it nuking your milk, little man didn't seem to mind, but i can say that if you tan topless and burn your nips, it HURTS to nurse
post #52 of 175
[QUOTE=josh&davesmomme]
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Originally Posted by JamesMama
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"I was molested." (I don't know maybe this is a very valid excuse but I know 2 people who were molested as children and they managed to bf)

QUOTE]
I was molested and really really really had a hard time overcoming this when starting out bfing- not because i was feeling sorry for myself or dwelling in the past etc but your body has "memories" and certain touches can cause flashbacks and induce horrible pain. I was not aware this could be a possibility at all until i was in labor with ds #1 and had a flashback episodes and then our bfing start was filled with horrible raw emotion where I was having a hard time seperating the abuse from feeding my baby...I did overcome this with lots of work and determination because i wasn't going to let my abuser continue his reign of terror to affect my child's life too 20+ yrs after he raped me. And I am happy to say I am *still* nursing ds#1 and his baby brother. But i can certainly see how it could be a valid point for *some* women- there's more on the topic in the book When Survivors Give Birth
I do think though if a woman suspects ahead of time that she thinks she'll have troubles because of abuse she should seek cousoling not just for breastfeeding's sake but because i've also learned (the hard way) that early abuse can also affect the way you parent as well...examples: afraid to bathe your child, afraid you're giving too much affection, afraid to trust your own insticts-because you think you're "damaged" , or living in absoloute paranoia that something horrible is going to happen there are many other ways it can affect parenting those are just a few.
So if you know someone who says they don't plan on bfing for this reason be empathitic and listen they may just need some reassurance, guidance or a point in the right direction to resources that can help her.
well said!! and for your experiences, and your courage in overcoming the past
post #53 of 175
A good friend of mine (who doesn't have children) was talking to a pregnant woman and her mom about how cool she thought the fact that i was nursing, how good it seemed for the baby, and that I save so much money. She was FF and raised around it and really thought that my BFing was "cool." I loved it. The pregnant woman's mom just looked ather funny and said,'Well, WIC is going to pay for formula so there isn't any reason to BF." My poor friend was so deflated. I thought we were passed the time when people though that only poor people BF, and only because they don't have enough money to FF.
post #54 of 175
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Originally Posted by LadyInfidel
I heard that when you're nursing you can't eat nuts or have oral sex.
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post #55 of 175
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Originally Posted by pfamilygal
My milk did just dry up too, and dd was only 9 months. But I was pregnant again. Couldn't figure out why she was biting and fussing at the breast. I thought it was a nursing strike - nope just pg.
Exact same thing happened to me! My milk supply started diminishing when my son was 6.5 months old. I tried EVERYTHING to keep it up. I didn't find out I was pregnant till 2.5 months later. That explained it.
post #56 of 175
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Originally Posted by LadyInfidel
I have heard some classics! I used to have a list that I kept adding to when I was working but I have no idea what file it is. lol I will paraphrase some from memory.


I can't breastfeed because this is a mixed race baby and I'm only white.

I tried to breastfeed but the baby didn't like the way I smelled.

I won't breastfeed because I am 16 so I can't make enough milk. I heard about mature milk and I'm not physically mature so...

I won't nurse because I work in a tanning salon and I tan and I don't want to nuke my milk.

I can't breastfeed because I didn't nurse my older son and that wouldn't be fair.

I make low-fat milk and the baby was always hungry. It's because I am too skinny.

I tried breastfeeding and did ok the first day but I think the baby was uncomfortable with the intamacy, she doesn't like to be held.

We didn't breastfeed becuase we circumcise. (still don't get that one)

I weaned at 3 months because he started staring at my chest and it made me uncomfortable.

I wanted to breastfeed but she was in the NICU for two days and I heard that if you don't nurse in the first 30 minutes you can't get your milk in so it was too late for us.

My doctor told me to wean him because he was gaining too much weight.

I switched to formula because she had diarrhea all day. (which i later confirmed was soft, yellow BM stools. mom was expecting solid brown stools like an adults and assumed the baby was ill)

My girls were allergic to my milk to I had to use Good Start. They did much better with those small protiens. (AAAAARRRRGHHHHHHH I hate Nestle!)

The nutritionist downstairs (at WIC) told me my diet isn't good enough for breastfeeding and that I had to cut out all grains and milk. I don't want to.

I heard that when you're nursing you can't eat nuts or have oral sex.


lolol......good times!
oh man these gave me a good laugh...until I thought: OMG, these women are actually responsible for
another human being! now that's a scary thought.
post #57 of 175
My "excuse" with DD was "I was uninformed and didn't try hard enough."

I felt guilt big time afterwards. Then when I got pregnant with #2, I was DETERMINED to breastfeed him. I read every book could get my hands on and asked a million questions online. (I don't know anyone IRL who breastfed) We dealt with major engorgement. We dealt with a dairy allergy. (I had to cut ALL dairy out of my diet) We dealt with mastitis. But it was the best decision I ever made. He's 19 months old and still going STRONG! (and I'm pregnant with #3.)

My son was hospitalized at 6 weeks for a high fever. When we were discharged, I was told to supplement with formula because he needed the nutrition. Needless to say, the formula they sent me home with went right in the trash.
post #58 of 175
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Originally Posted by LadyInfidel

I can't breastfeed because this is a mixed race baby and I'm only white.
Does she thinks Black women give out chocolate milk?
post #59 of 175
before i had children a friend told me she tried to bf but her boobs were so much bigger than her baby's head that he was actually AFRAID of them.

Boy did that scare me throughout my pg when my breasts exploded from D cup to LL when my milk "came in" i had my fair share of problems but baby being afraid of my breast? not one of them!
post #60 of 175
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Originally Posted by Pandora114
"Breastfeeding twins will be too much work. I want to bottle feed so my 2yr old can give the babies bottles while I nap"

"My boobs are for HIS enjoyment, not to feed babies..that's just gross"

"I dont want to deal with the BS of NIP"
Are these for real??
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