I have tried and read a few things over the last 4 years. My husband is horrible [horrible] about housekeeping. Better than his parents though?!?! I first read "Clearing Your Clutter" and later "Confessions of a Happily Organized Homemaker" and the companion book "Confessions of a Happily Organized Family." Also when I was in the deapest of dispair [and no time to read !!] someone hooked me on http://www.flylady.org
and I was SOLD! I have used a combo of ideas from these sources [and friends] over time to help keep me sane when it comes to kids and husbands and cats and dogs and dust bunnies -- all of which hold a dear place in my heart.
Major ideas we use are the "Clean Sink" from FlyLady and "Single Minded Motion" from Confessions. [Clutter one was mostly motivational for me FYI] And I have a calendar of things to do and if some thing is on another day it STAYS there. This helps me see my "Free Time" easier.
Taylor is very helpful and loves to cook, do dishes, sweep or vacum, and put away laundry. But only when he feels in the mood. Otherwise I get things done in 5-10 min batches while we play etc. Often things "sit" undone for a good long while tho.