Well, I was going to contribute to this thread that I have a friend who chose a tubal while she was on the operating table getting her second c/section because she didn't want to face the possibility of another surgery in the future.
Now I see that I need to explain just why this is sad. She felt like her first c/s was unecessary. She had a multitude of problems as a result of that first surgery. She was traumatized by her UNECESSARY c/s.
She wanted a vbac, she planned for a vbac, she chose the providers most likely, in this uber-medicalized town, to support a vbac. Then at the end of her pregnancy they started pressuring her that she might go overdue, and...need a c/s!
So sure enough, that's just how it worked out (and not without a fight). And, as a bonus, the OB nicked her bladder and she nearly bled out. Super!
So, let's see, why doesn't she ever want to get pregnant again? And why is it pretty easy for me to see why she would never want to go through another c/s?
Or perhaps some of us are thinking, well, what a crybaby! THAT'S not likely to happen again! So she had two bad c/sections! LOTS of people have c/sections that go really well!
I can't seem to help the snarky tone. I get a bit miffed when people feel like decrying ugly, bad c/s's is the same as saying that no one should ever have one or be sorry they did. That is so minimizing the pain of many mamas.
And, for the record, I don't know ANY mamas in this town who've had 2 c/s's who believe they have a snowball's chance in hell at getting a vbac. And I agree with them. The LEAST medicalized CNM practice in town thought I was crazy for nursing my not-quite-2 y.o. Lay midwives are illegal. A vba1c is a miracle around here.