hi all. i need some of your input on this matter....do you offer your parenting criticisms to strangers? here's what happened to me today.... i am still a little upset ok, i was doing my laundry at a laundromat with my just turned 5 year old son and soon to be 2 year old daughter...they are both beautiful, bright,friendly,outgoing,vivacious, but some times a little mischeivious(sp.?)...anyhow, the place isnt that big, but it does have an 'island' where the washers and folding tables are...creating a place where my kids can go around and around....i was on one side getting my stuff out of the dryer...they were on the other....my son had a laundry cart and whatever he was doing with it caused the worker lady to say please stop what he was doing...she said it loudly....i shouted to him to 'knock it off and come by me' because we were going to go...he did and i said 'go get your coats' which were on top of a washer...i was getting my stuff ready to go and was going over to help him get his coat...when a man and lady...my age....start saying to me....'GET A CLUE!' i was like,excuse me?...they proceded...'go take care of your kids! they are a distraction! cant you hear the lady yelling at them to stop!this one is trying to stand on a chair! we have 3 kids and our kids would never behave this way!' i am not sure what i even said back because i was so shocked....i think i was like...'a distraction? we are at a laudromat,not a library'...my kids werent behaving horribly! i knew where they were and was just gathering my stuff to go when the cart thing happened.....so as i am telling my kids....come on, get your coats on..lets go.....i think i may have said to the couple 'why dont you mind your own business....she said back 'oh just shut up!' and i then lost it....saying f.u...(which i know i shouldnt have said) and she responds with ' oh that's nice,now i know why your kids act the way they do!'i was so upset....my kids were upset! i got home, told my hubby, crying...my son was crying....i then explained to my son..that those people shouldnt have yelled at me....that i shouldnt have spoken that way back..and that if he was doing something he wasnt supposed to do and if the worker yells at him he should apologize and come tell me what happened. i just need to vent about this...my hub wanted to go back to the laundromat.but that wouldnt have been a pretty site.... am i in the wrong here?is that couple with 3 calm, well behaved children (who werent there)in the right? if i were them..id keep my mouth shut....think how lucky i was to have well behaved children...and if i saw a young child climbing on a chair..id say' oh,sweetheart, don't do that, you can get hurt..." and then tell his/her parents.....i wouldnt criticize/yell/embarrass the parents! please, can you comment on this situation to try to help me figure out if i did you anything wrong? besides the cursing part! oops! thanks! p.s. sorry this is soo long!
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2/28/03 at 12:36am