Its nice to know people care, but quit calling me already!

[*~*SewHappyNow*~*]

Do people not realize just how annoying they can be when they call you everyday after your due date to find out if you had the baby? Its always the people who had the inductions too with theirs... every notice that? I guess they just don't get it and find the whole patiently waiting thing to be oh so inconvienent :LOL

I was sort of suprised my mother didn't call me today, actually, but then she went 3.5 weeks over with my sister.. so she surely knows what that is like

[FreeRangeMama]

I went 2 weeks over with ds and just stopped answering the phone toward the end (actually about a week before my due date). I just got sick of answering questions about the state of my belly, what aches/pains I had, and how come I haven't given birth already: That is when caller ID really came in handy LOL.
Good luck....and don't feel bad about ignoring the phone. People are rude for harrassing you anyway LOL.
Laurie

[owensmom]

I sent an email to those I used to work with that if I got one more email from them asking me I was going to tell them to F*** off.... if they didn't think I was going to tell them when it happened then maybe we aren't as good a friend as I thought!

At 43 weeks, I was a bit testy!

[Nik's Mommy]

Oh how I remember this. The phones calls started a week before my due date. Everytime we weren't home when someone called, we got a message like, "Just calling to see how you are doing.... but since you're not at home..... well maybe you're at the hospital. Just checking in." AUGH!!! Everytime I walked in the door it was a reminder that I HADN'T given birth yet!! My mom (who lives in Australia) must have had a massive phone bill that month. She called me everyday. (My MIL calls almost everyday, anyway, so it wasn't much different hearing from her.)
I had my dh tell people that I was sleeping and I couldn't come to the phone.

[KFH]

Oh ugh!

Boy, I remember that the last two weeks before my due date last time, I became very anti-social. I wouldn't answer the phone, and I hated going to any kind of get-together. I just didn't want to deal with people in any way! What's WRONG with people?

Hang in there.

[Sharon]

What a pain! But you gave me an idea. Maybe I should start telling people that they got my due date all wrong and I'm really not due until the very end of August (instead of the 13th)!! As it is, I'm trying to get away with telling people "mid August", but some insist on knowing a date. WHY? It doesn't mean anything! When I told my boss, she said, "I'll just write down August since it could be anytime during the month." I was so relieve to hear her say that. (obviously she's a mom!)
I vote for unplugging the phone or coming up with a clever message to put on your machine reminding your dear friends and family that you WILL let them know when you have your baby!

[melamama]

I was a week and a half past my edd with dd and I think I spoke to everyone I knew during that week and a half. I tried to promise myself that I wouldn't tell anyone my due date this time. Of course I'm due in a week and it's started already, every time I pick up the phone "are you in labor?".

I agree that this is when caller id really is worth it.

[jessikate]

This was so totally my mother. She was here for several days prior to Grace's birth but had to leave town for a doctor's appointment on the 21st. Of course, that's when we ended up going in to deliver. The bloody phone rang while I was being stitched up! I can't believe they'd let someone through on the line without sending someone down to check first. Other than her calling, though, I didn't get too many "Are you still pregnant?" calls, thank goodness. Would have made me crazy. I only went 3 or 4 days over, though. I don't know how people who go more over handle it.

JK

[XM]

OMG!!!

I went to 41w 3d with Xiola, and oh man you'd think people were going to lose their minds!! Trust me, folks, I want to have this baby even more badly then you want me to!

I did'nt mind as much when one of my good girlfriends would call, but Mike's mom called almost every day. She REALLY wanted to be at the birth and I kind of think that she was trying to catch me in labor so she could follow us to the hospital (um, yeah right, we had told her SEVERAL times that she was not invited, and she STILL kept asking).

One night, we went to visit a friend and forgot to bring our cell phone. Well, MIL called several times and since we did not answer, she and her sister proceeded to call EVERY hospital maternity ward in a 30 mile radius of our home trying to track us down!!! PLEASE! It was like they were stalking us or something!!

You know, it's one thing when a mamafriend calls and wants to know how *you* are (instead of people who just want to meet the baby already)... but really, all those calls get SO annoying. We will definitely be screening our calls come May.

XM

[velveeta]

Originally posted by melamama
"are you in labor?".

This is so unbelievable! I would want to say, "yes, I'm in labor -- this is a great time for you to call!

Maybe I will preemptively strike by "changing" my own due date!


Jean

[mama2girls]

My mil did this too! Especially when dh let it slip that we were having weekly dr apts starting earlier than with dd#1 and that we were having a second u/s for size. ARGH! She must have been reading my mind--I didn't want to call her until the babe was out!!

[Stacymom]

Oooh, I hated this! My mos called everyday, and normally, she really couldn't care less about what's going on in my everyday life. I remember telling my mom, "Do you think that I would go into labor without telling you?" And she would say "Well, I just want to make sure that you're doing okay..." I'm sure that she really did have my best interests in mind, but it was so obnoxious! The worst though, was when she started predicting when dd would be born- "Well, I have a feeling that it's going to be Wednesday, I just think that she will be born then." Everyday she would call and remind me that she thought the baby would be born on Wednesday. Even though I would have given anything to give birth at that point, I did not want to have the baby on Wednesday just to spite her. I ended up going almost a full week later.

My boss would call my cell phone everyday until I finally told him straight out that I was on maternity leave, and wasn't going to talk to anyone (including him) until the baby was born.

I also had a neighbor that became progressively more "friendly" the closer I got to my due date. She would call or come over everyday at odd hours, and it drove both of us crazy! She called a few minutes after dd was born and they put the call through to my room- I was so annoyed to pick up the phone a few minutes after my dd was born and find her on the phone!

Wow. I'm glad that I'm not the only one that has had this problem. Thanks for letting me vernt.

[bluebird]

outgoing message

dh is the sassy type, and he hates answering the phone, so our he changed our outgoing message on voicemail to say something like

" no we haven't had the baby yet. thanks for checking and we'll let you know when we do. if you were calling for something else please leave a message."

i was the one who was so huge everyone said would have the baby early. i had my ten pounder 9 days after my due date.

[Bladestar5]

I just about yelled at a friend that is close enough to be family, bc I was so depressed about still having an occupant in my womb! I wanted to hold my baby soooooo bad! I wanted a girl in the worse way, and was so anxious to find out if I was right in thinking I was getting a girl like I wanted. Hang in there, soon you will get to tell them there is a baby, and the annoying calls will cease!

[Sofiamomma]

Yep, me too! I'm not even due yet and I'm already getting "Are you still pregnant?" "That baby is soooo big!" etc. etc. Sigh. :

[Chelly2003]

So glad I missed all that, ds came early - didn't give people time to get on the phone!
THANK GOODNESS........
We're now TTC#3 - and I'm thinking perhaps I'll add a week or three onto my due date, just to throw those kinda folks off the scent.

Chelly

[samsara]

hear, hear! i've officially entered a stage of No Patience, and of course everyone's testing me. the call screening has begun and i've put my foot down with my partner about going to parties/outings/events with extended family and friends -- i'm not going far! all i want right now is to hang out w/B and enjoy our last days as a childless couple; i feel like my family is really infringing on that effort.../OT

everyone needs to stop calling! i will let you know, just like i said i would...!

[Peppamint]

I highly recommend telling the majority of the people a date about two weeks after your real edd. I SO wish I would have told people early May (edd is 04/25/03) but I don't think I'll go overdue. I've been having lots of ctx already and feel like the baby is trying to come out. : Of course, just for typing that I'll go 3 weeks over! :LOL

My friend/coworker went two weeks over (and had a 10lb+ posterior baby girl) and she said if she has anymore kids she will tell everyone a later date. For her, her mom was late with 5 out of six kids so it's almost like it's genetic (they probably O late).

to you momma! Leave a sarcastic message on the machine like bluebird mentioned and screen your calls!