MIL hates our baby's name - Page 2

[jinkel]

Originally Posted by Jade2561

Dh and I both love the name but whenever we talk to MIL she begs us to reconsider and keeps telling us that everyone is going to call her Pussy Willow. I am so annoyed; she got to name her own kids - why can't she just leave us alone....

HANG IN THERE, MAMA!! You choose the name that you feel is right for your dc! It's one of the first (of MANY) choices you will make on behalf of your child in his/her life. The ONLY thing that matters is how you and dh feel about the choice you've made.

Originally Posted by Miss Juice

We don't talk about names until the baby is born, and then we say "Here's *****". I think before the baby is born people think they can change your mind. Not that that makes it any of their business anyway, but some people just won't quit.

We do the same thing. Kind of. We don't share the name with my parents ahead of time, because somehow my mom thinks that us sharing means that we've asked her opinion. Which is NOT what it means - - so we don't tell her ahead of time. DH's parents are fully supportive of whatever we pick, so we have no issues telling them ahead of time.

Originally Posted by Miss Juice

You could also point out, in case she has forgotten how this all works, that sex determination is completely up to the man, so it's her son who's not producing a boy. You'll carry whatever he gives you, but you have no say in it!

I LOVE reminding dh of this, when he says it would be nice to have a girl. Luckily, he ADORES his son, and is looking forward to having another one (he's not too hung up on boy or girl - - but he does love the idea of having a "daddy's little girl")

[JoyofBirth]

I think people learned early on that we are not open to thteir negative comments and it's not going to change our minds. When pregnant with dd#1, m y MIL didn't like our boy's name we had picked and she just said let's just hope it's a girl. THis time my mom didn'nt like our boy's name. ANd she only mentitoned it, because I wasn't in love with it, but my dh was and I didn't h ave anything better. It will probably grow on her after the baby comes. I hated my SILs names for my nephew and my niece (but had the courtresy to nott say that to her) but once they w ere both born, I thought Oh they do look like a ______. And now I coulnd't imaine them being anyone else. If you feel comfortable, tell her you know her opinion and you don't need to hear it again because you're not changing your mind. I personally love the name. This girlie was supposed to be Willow before we were even pregnant. But I got a differentt name for her and so that's not who she is. Some people may think this is crazy but I think babies tell you in your heart who they are supposed to be. I think Auttumn Rayne is an awesome name too. I may steal tthat if therer's another girl in my future.

[Jade2561]

Thank you for the replies - I am glad I'm not the only one who loves the name Willow - beside who cares what MIL says - she says all kinds of stupid things!

[aydensmama]

to you!

My whole side of my husbands family hated the name Ayden, and that I spelled it differently. they would mispornounce a jillion times, and be horrible, I ignored smiled and said that is his name!

This time...they are opininated BUT they know that I will do what I want, they did try to veto Kaleb, these are nice popular names...they are very boring folks! )

Stand your ground!

[SabbathD]

(Our little girl is going to be Autumn Rosalie! I love the name Autumn....)

[Gabe_n_Pippas_Mum]

When we decided to name our son Gabriel, mil and fil and sil etc thought it was "too religious"...(they think I've brainwashed dh in addition to taking him away from the UK to the wilds of Canada... ) and when we rang fil from the hospital to tell him about his first grandson, his response was, "Oh, so you went with "Gabriel", then did you?" Needless to say I was less than pleased but what can you do.

This time, we're naming dd Philippa, Pippa for short, and everyon on the UK side of the pond thinks it's lovely and many people (incluidng my dm and df) said, "You're calling her what?" and had some issues, though at least they weren't so obnoxious as dfil and dmil. They had never heard the name Pippa before, whereas everyone in the Uk though it was a normal name.

What can you do? As long as you're happy, just be thankful your in laws live so far away. That's what I do!

Beth

[RiverSky]

Originally Posted by Jade2561

Besides, if it wasn't going to be Willow Faith it was going to be Autum Rayne;

Both of those names are gorgeous. You know, we also made the mistake of letting our family know the names we were considering before the babies were born and we had all kinds of comments, "do you want them to be teased in school?" "Who is ever going to give them an interview when they see those names on their resume?". Our parents told us over and over that we were making a mistake and would suggest more common names to get us to change our minds. We didn't.

Guess what? Once the children were born and they started telling their friends what their grandchildren were named, they came around. They started to love their names, perhaps due to the fact that whenever we tell people their names, we almost always get really positive responses.

Next child, don't tell anyone what names you are considering.

[ksjhwkr]

I love that name. And what is wrong with Pussy Willow?? I loved pussy willows as a kid! My Mom has told me several times that she didn't really like the name Seth when we named Seth that. But now it fits him and she likes it. Oh, I am SO glad I have her approval uke:
I'm also glad my mom lives 1000 miles away...for many, many, many reasons!