Who's Peeking and Who's Not? - Page 2

[kalisis]

We're def. peeking. DH won't hear of not. Even tho we're homebirthers, we do genetic testing too. Something we decided on long before we even had kids...so far, it's all worked out ok tho.

[Zaxmama]

totally peeking. I have the patience of a toddler.

[Ahappymel]

Not sure yet but I really really think we're gonna want to peek

[mrsfatty]

We're peeking!

[Jess_n'_the_bean]

We have a difference of opinion!! I don't want to peek but dh does...this is our first and he is so excited that he wants to know all he can about it.

I want the mystery and the surprise! I also agree about the gender neutral baby stuff/clothes - I'd much rather recieve that than pink frilly dresses or blue baseball uniforms! I know our parents will want us to find out but...I think I get final veto on this one!

[itsang]

it's so great to see so many of you mamas who aren't peeking. i'm not even pg yet,but dp & i aren't going to peek! we will be able to handle being patient enough...that's not a problem. we just are "back to basics" kind of people...i don't agree w/ unnecessary medical testing & we are looking forward to the surprise! i also agree on the gender-neutral clothing, etc. being much better looking!

but, one thing i have noticed since we've been ttc'ing & i'm talking to some of my friends about "gender peeking". They all seem almost 'apalled' that we wouldn't want to find out the gender pre-birth. grrrr...mamas (especially mainstream) can be so opionated on what's right for you, your dp & baby!:

for you mamas who didn't/aren't peeking, i'd like to know some of your rebuttal to the people who voice their disapproval to you for not finding out the sex of your baby during pregnancy.

(sorry if i'm not supposed to be posting here, since i'm not yet pg... )

[earthie_mama]

Originally Posted by itsang

for you mamas who didn't/aren't peeking, i'd like to know some of your rebuttal to the people who voice their disapproval to you for not finding out the sex of your baby during pregnancy.

Well, the fact that ultrasounds haven't been proven safe works well for me. Google it, you'll be amazed at what some studies havew found. Keep in mind, I'm not saying that they are unsafe, b/c there is lack of proof for that as well, but I always err on the side of caution.

[mamallama]

Originally Posted by itsang

grrrr...mamas (especially mainstream) can be so opionated on what's right for you, your dp & baby!:

for you mamas who didn't/aren't peeking, i'd like to know some of your rebuttal to the people who voice their disapproval to you for not finding out the sex of your baby during pregnancy.

Instead of a rebuttal, I'm going to offer you my advice (Ha! I love irony!)

Don't fall into the habit of defending your decisions. When you sense disapproval over decisions like peeking, hold your head high and remember that it has a whole lot more to do with the other person's insecurity and actually very little (if anything!) to do with you.

Best of luck, itsang.

[niki_73]

we peek. I like being super organized and for that to happen I have to know the sex

[OldFashionedGirl]

I definately do not want to peek. On some level, I know this is going to kill me. I have a hard time waiting for Christmas, for heaven's sake But, I figure this way I can't be disappointed. I do want a girl. If I peek and find out I'm having a boy, I might be disappointed. If I wait until I have the baby in my arms though, I'm just going to be so happy to have a baby, I won't care anymore what it is.

My bf put it best, though. "It's like opening your Christmas presents early. It kinda takes the fun out of it."

[itsang]

thanks, earthiemama & mamallama! i don't feel quite so discouraged about voicing my beliefs & practices, now!

[a_work_in_progress]

Not getting ultrasounds here.

[Neldavi]

No peeking, no way, for many of the reasons that pps said.

I just love the idea of holding my baby for the first time and being able to discover it for myself right then.

I'm typically really old-fashioned about many things though. Plus the uncertain safety of ultrasounds.

[blissfish]

We were going to wait & see w/ ds, but I had some spotting that caused my midwife to recommend an ultrasound.

Even then we STILL were going to wait, but the very first time we ever saw our son, it was a great shot of his bum/testicles/penis.

So much for waiting.

I'd like to NOT find out with this next one, but we are using an OB and will probably have at least one us. Given our last experience, I can't say we won't know baby's gender by the end of 9 months. :0

[L J]

Since we are doing an unassisted pregnancy and homebirth, there will be no testing whatsoever from any medical personel, but DH and I have decided we want to do a 3d/4d ultrasound at 28 weeks. Its more him than me that doesn't want to wait- as "crunchy" as he is, he is fasinated by new technology and I have to agree that it is really cool that you can see the baby so well with those.

Those are the pictures we are going to mail our with our pregnancy announcments (yes, we are going to try to wait that long to tell family).

[MacKinnon]

We will be peeking! We did with DD and we will again. Way to impatient to wait! And another type A who needs to plan. I was just wishing we would know before garage sale season is over because we have NO boy/gender neutral clothes. Just boxes and boxex of pink! If we have a boy this time, we think we will not find out with our third. FWIW, the Chinese birth chart says girl again

[peaceful_mama]

PEEKING

can't stand the suspense and I know at my doc's office they don't tell you unless they are SURE SURE SURE

[Neldavi]

Originally Posted by L J

Since we are doing an unassisted pregnancy and homebirth, there will be no testing whatsoever from any medical personel, but DH and I have decided we want to do a 3d/4d ultrasound at 28 weeks. Its more him than me that doesn't want to wait- as "crunchy" as he is, he is fasinated by new technology and I have to agree that it is really cool that you can see the baby so well with those.

That is really funny to me. That's cool though.

Originally Posted by L J

Those are the pictures we are going to mail our with our pregnancy announcments (yes, we are going to try to wait that long to tell family).

Wow! That's pretty cool too. At 28 weeks the pregnancy is definitely more real and solid. That sounds like an old-fashioned way of doing it . .. don't discuss it until it's super-obvious to anyone who sees it.

[annekevdbroek]

We will peek - I'm with the super organized and impatient crowd. I'm the woman who shakes the presents under the Christmas tree. I am sort of hoping for a girl. There are no girls at all in my son's generation (e.g. all cousins are male on both sides of the family). So I'd like to know if I'm having a girl so I can start looking for clothes (used), etc. I've pretty much decided how I want to do the room, which is gender neutral, so for that purpose it doesn't matter. I think the family will go ga-ga over any baby, but particularly if it is a girl.