RANT....I wish others would leave me alone. So what if the baby was due a week ago

[tomtemama]

I am going CRAZY!!!

I am 40 weeks +6 days today and am so fine with still being pregnant. I feel great (I even cut my own toe nails this morning) and don't feel like I NEED this baby out. I certainly am not interested in inducing, naturally or medically.

I am, however, so tiered of being seen as a baby machine. Every single person I phone says "hi?" like I am calling to tell them the baby is born (can't I just call to chat?) a few have even said "are you in labor?" like I am going to be in active labor and phoning random friends to let them know.

I am totally physically limited in what I can do with my toddler and it is driving her and me nuts. In turn she is driving me more nuts by having a, totally justified and understandable, fear of the unknown as far as this baby is concerned.

I wish that I could just go into labor or crawl under a rock until I do.

Am I alone or is anyone else feeling too much outside pressure? I hope there is at least one other person here as I could really use some support.

[nova22]

That must be so obnoxious. I think most of my friends and family know better than to bug me about when the baby is born, but there are a few who have annoyed me a little. I am not due for another two weeks (approx) but last week, I got a phone call saying, "So, when are you going to go into labor?" in a very impatient voice. Um, I don't know. Sorry. That's so irritating. Having a baby in your womb really opens you up for harrassment. But if you complain about it you're just being "hormonal." (((sigh)))

Sorry for derailing. I hope you have a lovely birth and that people will understand that Baby will come at his or her own time.

[Peppamint]

I'm feeling the same way. My MIL calls to ask "how I'm doing" and my mom calls to say "going to hospital 2 hours away to visit your Gma but want to make sure nothing's happening first" . Yup, like I'm going to fail to tell my mothers that I'm in labor. I might if they don't chill out.

DD was induced at 38+1 and DS was born the day before his due date so this is my first time dealing with this much of the obnoxious questioning. :

[De-lovely]

no advice here mama-just support and I am proud of you for not being one of those mamas that is CONSTANTLY talking about "getting this baby OUT!" Let the babe be where he/she wants to be-safe and sound in mamas womb!

[Vortexing]

Same boat here... I went to my prenatal exercise class today (where you'd think people would somewhat understand about NOT harassing pregnant women), and everyone just stares at me with gaping mouths asking when I'm going to get induced. I'm only 4 days past, why on earth would I even be thinking about induction??!?!?!?

Anyway, I'm SUPER new here, and this actually is my first post, but I wanted to tell you not to let the crazies out there ruin the last bit of time you will EVER have pregnant with THIS child. There's no reason why you should be feeling any pressure right now (except maybe some pressure down yonder from that baby's head, I know I am). So, anyway, try to just relax and enjoy, baby will come whenever it is ready, which is EXACTLY how it should be.

[KatSG]

I'm not quite due yet, but I'm sick of people commenting on my belly. I'm small so my belly sticks way out (think Katie Holmes) and for 2 months people have been saying "You're about due, huh?" or much, much worse. Like last weekend a woman said to me, "Is that fake? It looks like you have something under your shirt." That was by far the very worst. So freakin' rude. I so feel for Katie!

I'm ready to have this baby but not as cranky as I was last time. It's really just now dawning on me what's going to happen to us in a few short weeks and I think that's keeping me in check. People keep offering me help and I'm like, "Why?" And then I remember what those first weeks are like, and that I will be doing this with a high energy 2.5 year old...I can wait until the baby is ready!

[Peppamint]

Originally Posted by KatSG

Like last weekend a woman said to me, "Is that fake? It looks like you have something under your shirt." That was by far the very worst. So freakin' rude. I so feel for Katie!

OMG! How rude!

[gnutter]

I went 10 days over last time and I so feel for you guys! I had someone actually ask If I knew how to have a baby! LIke I was going to be able to stop him from coming by not knowing HOW to do it! hang in there You guys are doing great!

[SugarAndSun]

Everyone I know has been great, with the exception of my mother... who drives me insane anyway. She asked me if they were considering a c-section (at two days late). :

She keeps calling and asking if I have any "pains" -- yeah a royal pain in the a**... YOU!

She also did this last week on her trip to Mexico... guess she wasn't all that worried to schedule a trip to Mexico when I am due.

[Throkmorton]

I don't answer my phone or respond to "well, is she here yet?" emails right now.

DH does all of the call screening. If it's a call of someone asking if I've had the baby, he tells them I'm napping.

[tomtemama]

Thanks to all of you for responding I'm sure sorry to hear I'm not the only one.

I think busybusymomma summed it up best with her use of this smilie . I'm not sure why I like it better, because I want to do the hammering or because I feel like I am being hammered on? Either way it is perfect!!

I can't believe how insensitive some people can be.

I think I will just stop answering the phone. What would I do without call display?

[Peppamint]

Ugh... makes me wish I still had caller ID. MIL called again this afternoon just to chat, except she hadn't been doing that until the last week or so.

I actually think I'm handling this overdue thing pretty well, with exception to the annoying questions.

[brown eyed girls]

My parents and my MIL call all the time, so this isn't real different... but there have been others... It's kinda cute mostly...

But my Dad... he's so funny... he says "Have you had the baby?" I said "Don't you think I'd call YOU, Daddy?" He says, "Well maybe you're still in the pool and she's just been born and you haven't called me yet?"

I said "Um, so you want me to call you THAT soon? Like shall I dial while her head pops out?" He says "Oh! No! Of Course not!"

He's so excited... she's his 17th grandchild!!!! My IL's 12th.

[Peppamint]

Originally Posted by brown eyed girls

Like shall I dial while her head pops out?" He says "Oh! No! Of Course not!"

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