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Originally Posted by newmomtoteen
well, he and I have been having problems with his son. Wednesday night I was on lthe phone with my sister and my step son way yelling at my husband. I asked my step son to respect the fact that I was on the phone and he than started yelling at me. I got very upset and told him to go to his room that I was not his father and that I was not going to put up with him disrespecting me. Before I knew it my husband had ran out of the run yelling and grabbing my wrist and pushing me around( here I'm pregnant) yelling that I should not disrespect him in front of his son. He said that when I made the comment that I was not his father that made him upset. I don't know earthie mama I am not going to back down. I am not going to have a 12year old call me names and yell at me. was I wrong?
Sylvia
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I can't say whether you were right or wrong. That is something only you can answer, I have been meditating and working on
my side of the two part problem. IMO, you could have handeled that differently, and it would have worked out possibly better, I don;t feel that a step-parent should discipline a step-child, because in order for discipline to be efffective you need a bond wit hthe child, and also it leads to much hatred and resentment (I have a step-dad can you tell? We get along great now, but I tell ya.....) It was also I feel inappropriate to say that about your husband, but that doesnt give him any reason to get physical with you. One thing to remember is that it is like a dance, if you change your steps, he can't keep doing the same ones.....so focus on you, do what you feel is right, forget about what you deserve, and see what happens. If nothing changes after a month and you can't take it anymore, its time for a new plan, but so far it is working well for me, the only time we have problems is when I get that "I deserve better" attitude. While I may deserve more help, compliments etc. getting that attitude gets me nowhere. What works for me may not work for you, but follow your intuition, we can get over these obstacles.
