UGH! Venting

[nova22]

I'm sorry, I know this vent has been made a dozen times here already, but I need to get this out of my system. I'm so tired of hearing the same stupid @$$ questions over and over again. Are you in labor yet? When are you going to have that baby? Are you sick and tired of being pregnant? blah blah blah.

A few people know that I've been having BH cntx but I purposely did NOT tell the people who are prone to asking those questions. They ask anyway. My MIL announced yesterday that she was ready for me to go into labor. Well good for you. I'm obviously not ready to go into labor, or I would be in labor. I am not even due for another two weeks.

The other thing...all these BH cntx are really testing my patience. It is so hard. With my other two, when I approached my due date I never really got antsy or cranky while waiting for the birth day to arrive. This time, all the BH have got me wondering, when will I feel a REAL contraction? Instead of thinking, "I have two or more weeks left," I keep thinking, "Maybe tonight...!" It's aggravating because I don't want to feel like this, I know it's best that the baby is born on his or her own time, and I hate feeling cranky about waiting.

One more thing, I am so anti-internal exams during pregnancy, because I do not want to know if I'm dilated or not! I would be afraid of the OB saying I'm 3cm along, and then getting even more antsy for labor to come. I know some women walk around for weeks with a dilated cervix before labor actually starts, and I don't want anyone's hands between my legs if they don't NEED to be there. I keep having to remind myself of all those things because it's hard not to get an internal, and see how things are progressing, after having all these stupid bh cntx.

Thanks guys...just needed to get that otu.

[Peppamint]

I totally understand. I think reaching and then seeing my due date come and go would have been mentally easier... if I wasn't sure I'm at least a little dialated and having all the prodromal labor the last few weeks.

Hang in there mama!

[NYCVeg]

Ugh...I'm sorry people are driving you crazy. Although it's too late now, I know a lot of people here lie about their "due" date, just so people don't start bugging them too early (especially in this "so when are you going to be induced" age). "I'm ready for you to go into labor"?! That's incredibly insensitive!

As for the vag exams--stick to your guns! People think I'm crazy for not having any. "But don't you want to know?" Know WHAT?! How do people not know that the information you get from a vag exam is not an accurate predictor of how close you are to labor? Telling me my cervix is "2 cm and 50% effaced" is about as useful as telling me my cervix is blue (though I sincerely hope it isn't).

I actually had a quasi-vag exam the other day--my mws like to do one quickie at 36-7 weeks to confirm that baby is head down (and for GBS). I was okay with that, b/c I have a hard time discerning babe's position. So she checked the baby's head and then asked if I wanted her to check my cervix or not--and, honestly, I'm really glad I said no. It seems like all the women I know do everything possible to control their pregnancies--lots of u/s, all the testing an OB will throw at them, obsessing over weight gain, vag exams, scheduling inductions, etc.; but there's something so much more peaceful and natural, I think, about just trusting your body to do what it needs to do. I know it's incredibly hard, but try to let other people's impatience and craziness disrupt your last weeks!

[robin4kids]

Hello! I am due 5/27 too and I don't answer my phone any more!

I am so in the same boat. I had a scary day when I was have contractions and my DH was sick as a dog. I called my mom to just tell her I may need her and well, now I am regreting it. Nothing came of the BH and I am getting called twice a day from her, once from dad and SIL. Then there are the families that I babysit for. They drop off their kid and ask soo how do you feel? If I go early they are in trouble, because they really have not planned very well. I hate having so many people dependent on me.

Then I feel the same about these Bh. i don't remember them with any of my others! I really don't think I can handle these pains for 2 or more weeks. I keep going for walks, I just want to start something.

[JayGee]

I could have written your post, except my due date is the 18th. The internal thing drives me crazy. I don't want to know. Why can't people understand that? And the BH's are just so awful in the evenings. Every night I go to bed convinced that I'm on the brink of labor, and every morning I wake up feeling GREAT! Ugh.....

[Mom2Adam]

I hear you! I haven't been answering the phone either. I just got a message from a friend (who has had 2 c/s - the last one scheduled) and the msg was "I was calling to see how you are and how things are going....blah, blah, blah." - We just talked Monday. UGGGGHHHHHHHH.

and then there is the email group. Like my MIL who emailed "DId you know that Saturday was a full moon?" and that was it for her email. Ummmm...Yes, I did know. SO?????????????????

Anyway, I feel your frustration. Hang in there!

Traci

[Bellasmom]

Originally Posted by NYCVeg

Telling me my cervix is "2 cm and 50% effaced" is about as useful as telling me my cervix is blue (though I sincerely hope it isn't).

I just had to comment on this - in all likelyhood your cervix is blue or purple, due to increased blood flow! It just made me chuckle.

[Bellasmom]

Deleted repeat post!

[Peppamint]

MIL called earlier.... first thing she says is "Are you still <pause> walking?".



I think I'm going to start monitoring calls with the answering machine.

[NYCVeg]

Originally Posted by Bellasmom

I just had to comment on this - in all likelyhood your cervix is blue or purple, due to increased blood flow! It just made me chuckle.

Tee hee. Really? I somehow pictured it as reddish.

But you've proven my point! Knowing the color of my cervix doesn't tell me when my baby will come, now does it?

[KindRedSpirit]

I HEAR YA!!!!!!I actually told most people i was due in June,until word got out I was due within 24 hrs on my sisters wedding date-the 19 of May...and tho only reason that got out was that dh was going to be their photographer,and now he can't ...

MIL is calling 3 times a day to "see how I am","She's so worried for me","but sure all will be fine",and "you know we are out of town next week,"and "Call if anything happens..." I joke w/ dh about taking her up on this and litterally calling HER every 5 minutes to report another bh or cervical twinge,or bowel movement,and my fave cos it would freak her out,a slight sign of mucus or fluid,and go into great detail about all the events and possibilities of what each thing could mean....HAHAHAHAHAHAHA I may go into labor just laughing from thinking about it!
I totally want no contact with her in labor.She is a drama addict,and even having her know when I am in labor bothers me,as I know she is sending uptight energy my way.I'm still upset at one of the mw assistants at my last birth for letting her listen over the phone.She was not invited!And she has never brought it up,so she thinks it's her own special little secret!!!!!ARG!!!How disrespectful!

My absolute worst,biggest annoyance though,is when people ask if I"popped yet" or refer to birth as any form of "pop"!!!!!Are you trying to terrify me?!!!Why, in heaven's name would I EVER want to explode!?I've acctually started telling people I plan to birth,but thankyou for the lovely image!!!!!

I may start taking a tally,and everyone who asks me 3 times before the birth gets called 2 days late!HA!Take that!

[Snowdrift]

My MIL is obviously struggling to notbe obnoxious about it. It's kinda' funny watching her try to figure out what to say. Two days ago she called twice, an hour apart, just to see how I was. I pointed out that if she calls too much we might just not answer phone. So yesterday she didn't call, but today she called "just to let us know that the tub is ready" (we may be using her hot tub to labor and/or birth in). Then she wanted to know if I wanted to come over tonight "just to relax, and is everything going ok?" Mom, it ain't gonna happen just bc I'm in close proximity to a tub!

But she's at least making an effort, so I guess I can't complain.

Honestly, I'm getting more impatient than anyone else, I think. I've finally started having the massive cervical pressure the past two days that everyone else here seems to have been having for weeks and school is tiring and I'm just *ready*. I've spent the past several months warning the family not to expect anything before June (I'm due this weekend-ish), and apparently the only one who didn't listen was me!

[nova22]

Originally Posted by KindRedSpirit

My absolute worst,biggest annoyance though,is when people ask if I"popped yet" or refer to birth as any form of "pop"!!!!!Are you trying to terrify me?!!!Why, in heaven's name would I EVER want to explode!?I've acctually started telling people I plan to birth,but thankyou for the lovely image!!!!!

I'm so glad I'm not the only one who HATES that phrase!!! I always want to say, "I'm not bubble wrap!" or "Do I need to explain the birth process to you?!?"

to all of you ladies who are in the same boat. I keep telling myself, it's almost over...it's almost over...

...then I can look forward to "you're STILL nursing? he's three months old!"

[Peppamint]

Ugh... I feel like puking and my uterus feels all irritable and such. I just wanna get some sleep. :

<sigh>

[Snowdrift]

Originally Posted by busybusymomma

Ugh... I feel like puking and my uterus feels all irritable and such. I just wanna get some sleep. :

<sigh>

Sorry you're feeling crappy...it probably doesn't help, but I feel a bit better knowing I'm not the only one whose prodromal labor apparently includes nausea and feeling pukey.

[Peppamint]

Yeah, it sucks. Thankfully it's not all the time, it finally wore off so I could go to sleep sometime around midnight. :

Three days past edd... I'm just ready to be done.

[KindRedSpirit]

Is it possible,after so much prodromal labor to start in transition?I really hope you get some deep sleep,mamma...and then a baby too!

[Peppamint]

Originally Posted by KindRedSpirit

Is it possible,after so much prodromal labor to start in transition?I really hope you get some deep sleep,mamma...and then a baby too!

I'm halfway hoping so! That's why dh is paranoid for me to go very far from home, because I've had so much prodromal labor he's afraid I'll just start pushing somewhere. I just hope it's soon, I'm not sleeping well and just going nuts.

[nova22]

Originally Posted by busybusymomma

I'm halfway hoping so! That's why dh is paranoid for me to go very far from home, because I've had so much prodromal labor he's afraid I'll just start pushing somewhere.

I keep having horrific visions of going to the bathroom and suddenly giving birth instead. I told DH that if I ever go to the bathroom and I'm gone for more than 5 minutes, he should probably come check on me.

[Peppamint]

Originally Posted by nova22

I keep having horrific visions of going to the bathroom and suddenly giving birth instead. I told DH that if I ever go to the bathroom and I'm gone for more than 5 minutes, he should probably come check on me.

Dh did that on Friday night... I got up out of bed to pee and decided since I could use the bathroom sink again (he'd just finished replacing the faucet) I'd go ahead and wash my makeup off and brush my teeth. Since I didn't come back right away he came in to check on me.