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What age did DD start shaving? ** I LET HER SHAVE** UPDATE

post #1 of 92
5/12/06 at 5:36pm
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My DD is almost 11 and wants to shave...you all might help her get her way lol I have been saying no, but she is going into sixth grade...and I don't want her to feel ackward, and summer is coming (I think lol...freezing in MI LOL)! So what age was your DD or yourself when you shaved? Thanks!






EDITED: I let her shave...she thanks all you mamas from the bottom of her heart Can anyone recommend a razor for her?

She is using mine and she is just hacking up her legs...

Those who let their daughters shave, what razor do they use? Thanks!!!

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post #2 of 92
5/12/06 at 5:44pm
My daughter was 11.

I think you should let her shave this summer at least.

I bought the shick intuition. The kind with a bar of soap around the blade. SHe hasn't cut herself with that one yet.

WHen my daughter was 11, she was dancing in competitions. I was having her armpits waxed at first. She liked that the best, because it didn't hurt, and the hair stayed gone for a month. But, after competition, I started having her shave instead.
post #3 of 92
5/12/06 at 5:52pm
My dd is 12 and uses Nair just on the underarms. She doesn't feel uncomfortable with leg hair yet (yay me!) and I'm glad.
post #4 of 92
5/12/06 at 6:04pm
my mom didnt let me shave till I was almost 16 boy did that create some issues.
post #5 of 92
5/12/06 at 6:21pm
My daughter is twelve and in sixth grade. She started shaving this year, when she started having to change for gym.
post #6 of 92
5/12/06 at 6:44pm
I started at 11, when the other girls made fun of me it was horribly embarassing and we can all get into the sexuality debate but at that age, being different can be hard.
post #7 of 92
5/12/06 at 7:09pm
I started at 10 when other girls started making fun of me. Thankfully my DD (11 next month) hasn't been teased yet, but I'll let her shave any time she wants now.
post #8 of 92
5/12/06 at 7:14pm
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Originally Posted by LittleBee
So what age was your DD or yourself when you shaved? Thanks!
When she can make an informed and educated decision. I didn't shave until I was 23, and it was after my bf made a comment, he actually did the shaving because I said I wouldn't and if he wanted shaved legs, he would have to do it himself, so he did.

I will not raise my children to feel ashamed about how their bodies naturally are, and if they say they are being teased at school, I will raise the roof and every student will learn how to be respectful of each other.
post #9 of 92
5/12/06 at 8:46pm
She was 11.
post #10 of 92
5/12/06 at 8:55pm
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Originally Posted by LittleBee
My DD is almost 11 and wants to shave...you all might help her get her way lol I have been saying no, but she is going into sixth grade...and I don't want her to feel ackward, and summer is coming (I think lol...freezing in MI LOL)! So what age was your DD or yourself when you shaved? Thanks!
My dd was 12, but if she had wanted to at 11 that would have been fine with me.
post #11 of 92
5/12/06 at 8:58pm
My DD is WAY far from there (4)... but I was 11 back in the day!
post #12 of 92
5/12/06 at 10:15pm
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Someone told her she looked like the "tree girls" in the movie "Without a paddle" (I guess they make a joke and show these girls with extreme leg hair)...kids can be cruel!!!!!!!

I just want her to understand that if she starts....it's an ongoing process, not that she can't ever stop...but if they tease her for the natural hair on her legs now, imagine how they will tease if she forgets to shave and is all stubbly!!!

Thanks for all the insight.....I am going to talk with her tomorrow and make the decision She is probably going to love all of you ladies, you'll probably wake up to a THANK YOU POST from my dd HAHAHA!!!!! Thanks again!!!!!!!!
post #13 of 92
5/13/06 at 1:05am
When my girls ask they will be allowed. I remember a girl getting teased serverly about it and I don't think the teasing or any other reason is worth a battle.
post #14 of 92
5/13/06 at 1:34am
From the replies, I am gathering no one has even questioned or researched as to why we have hair in the first place.

Or the history behind shaving and child sexual abuse.

the only female without hair, is the child female. I will not do that to my daughters.
post #15 of 92
5/13/06 at 2:17am
What is the history behind shaving and child sexual abuse?

As for me... well, my daughters are still very young so we haven't dealt with it yet. I do remember starting to shave myself, though, and felt very conflicted about it. It was like it was calling attention to the fact that I was sexually maturing. I felt like this was an adult thing I was being expected to do, that it somehow sexualized me before I was ready to be sexual.
post #16 of 92
5/13/06 at 2:33am
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Originally Posted by MamaInTheBoonies
the only female without hair, is the child female. I will not do that to my daughters.
my step mom and all the women in her family have naturaly hairless legs, and i know many women around the world do. i don't shave and if i ever have a duaghter i hope she won't shave, it feels unnatural to me, but if she wants to shave when she is ten or eleven i will probably let her, at 11 or 12 i started shaving and at 14 i stopped shaving and have shaved a few times since, i'm 27 now, i would rather my child get to decide than for me to decide for her
post #17 of 92
5/13/06 at 9:14am

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I'm new here but chiming in on the subject. Both my daughters were about 12 when they started...it really wasn't much of an issue here.
post #18 of 92
5/13/06 at 12:45pm
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Originally Posted by fourlittlebirds
What is the history behind shaving and child sexual abuse?
Shaving did not become 'popular' until laws were put into effect that protected our children. It was then that some men decided to make women shave so they would be more child-like.

Growing hair is a time to celebrate becoming a woman and should not be a time to feel ashamed of becoming a woman.

Quote:
my step mom and all the women in her family have naturaly hairless legs, and i know many women around the world do.
Yes, that is true. But for the women who do have hair, there is no reason to make them ashamed or feel bad for what nature intended. Also, hair is a first line of defense against disease. It protects from cold or heat. There are reasons it is there.
post #19 of 92
5/13/06 at 12:55pm
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Originally Posted by moonfroggy
i would rather my child get to decide than for me to decide for her
I would not stop my daughters from shaving. I was saying that I will not condone making them feel ashamed for having hair.
post #20 of 92
5/13/06 at 1:02pm
I don't think anyone here has "made" their daughters feel ashamed of having hair. I haven't read any of that, and it doesn't seem that anyone forced her daughter to start shaving. However, in the culture in which my daughter and I live, hairy legs (and armpits) are generally considered unattractive. Forbidding a girl to shave at such an emotionally vulnerable age and thereby forcing her to look "ugly", according to mainstream America... well, that's not a choice I'd make.

My daughter was 11, and I did encourage her to wait, but in the end it came down to her decision...

Dar
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