Weekly chat; 5/15 - Page 2

[boscopup]

Originally Posted by emilyrose

Is anyone else struggling with names? I have a girl name, but boy names are proving to be very difficult....

With my first pregnancy, we came up with a girl's name right away, but took a LONG time to figure out a boy's name. Of course, the baby was a boy (thankfully we had picked the name before 29 weeks, since he made an early entrance!).

This time, we came up with a boy's name right away this weekend! But we have NO CLUE on a girl's name, and we don't want to re-use the girl's name we'd picked out from last time. And of course, I really really really think this one is a girl.

[mama_rad]

Well feeling better over that uneasiness, never was sick ... still tired somedays more than others. Still have food cravings but they change day to day. My "pouch" is from dd so waiting to show more. It does feel different this time around, less attention or just really cautious more. I'll be 16 weeks tomorrow, think I've felt movements since 14 weeks maybe a couple times but haven't been able to zone in on them this week ... so can't wait for next appt to hear heartbeat.
Boy name we have already one we didn't use, girl name well think we'll wait for the u/s to start thinking of some. I think it's a boy this time, at least I'm hoping.

Got to spend some time with dd now... I'm a SAHM love it but occassionally miss daily adult interactions, will teach when kids go to school.

[boscopup]

I hear you on the adult interactions! My best friend and I are both SAHMs, so we just call each other on the phone ALOT. But this week she's not on the phone much since she just had her 2nd baby last week, and she has people staying with her the next couple weeks to help out. But after next week when her inlaws have their visit and then leave, I'm sure she and I will be back on the phone everyday.

Not yet sure if I'll do any work after the kids start school. I will probably just take on some at-home programming stuff (I was a software developer pre-Joshua). I occasionally get website work and such to do here and there now, but I never have time to really commit to much, so most of what I do is freebie stuff for non-profit groups (like my dog obedience club, a dog rescue org, etc.). We raise meat goats, and my DH has put together a database package that we intend to eventually sell to other goat breeders when it's ready, and I know I'll have LOTS to do with that (he threw something together and expects me to clean it up and make it more user-friendly). One of these days I'll get around to working on it... And then I also sew on the side some - I make ring slings, Mei Tais, and cloth diapers. And recently, I've gotten several Mei Tai requests - enough to pay for 2-3 midwife prenatals, but I just am SO SLOW right now and haven't touched my sewing machine much the last several weeks. I'm just totally unmotivated to do ANYTHING, including minimal housework. Ugh.

So that's basically what I do.

[Peony]

I'm a SAHM, I'll be doing it for a very long time, we want several more children, and will homeschool. I do breastfeeding support, it's enough to keep me thinking wihtout invading my family life. I have alot of SAHM support, my mom has been one for 24 years, many moms in my community are, and all my close friends are.
We haven't been thought about names yet, I just don't have the time yet, maybe next month.

[Knittin' in the Shade]

15ish weeks here, mornign sickness has gotten MUCh better. Haven't actually vomited in a week ro so, but still have nausea off and on. Have had some really nasty headaches, partially becuase of allergies I think, partially just from increasedblood flow and hormones. Have had some spotting, so going for an ultrasound tomorrow (with my history of PTL and dilation, we want to be sure my cervix isn;t funneling) I start progesterone injections next week to keep PTL at bay.

I feel HUGE. I'm definitely as big as I was at 6 or 7 months with my first. But since this is #4, I guess that's normal. I'm actually still about 5 pounds down from what I weighed when I got pregnant.

I think we've settled on names - charlotte rose for a girlie and either Joshua david or russell david for a boy. DH is really hopeful that we'll get to see gender tomorrow at hte ultrasound, but I'm doubtful that we will this early.

[Ellie Jan]

16 weeks here and feeling that baby move tons. Movement seems so weird since I can feel the fundus (sp?) a little below my belly button but I'm not showing at all. DH and I both forget that I'm pregnant. With a 2.5 year old and 9 month old we are so busy we just forget. We are getting excited now though, I think the shock has worn off. We have a new Pedi and I'm very happy to say that at DS 9 month WBC today he asked if we are vaxing and when I said no he didn't bat an eye.
I'm a SAHM and plan to be for quite some time. I run a small business from home but I work when I want and I love the freedom.

Marcia

[babywink]

I'm 16 wks here (17 on Sat.) and I have more energy now but still have strong food aversions. Lately, I LOVE LOVE LOVE watermelon and ummm gelato (though sometimes I get frozen yogurt or sorbet instead). I felt like crap for the first 13 wks but only puked 2x, and all I could stomach was carbs so I've managed to gain 13lbs. already (even though despite the gelato I actually eat pretty healthy). I think I felt movement a couple of times but I don't really know if it is baby movement or just gas especially because this is my first. Lately, I'm getting ligament pains in the abdominal area and feeling really itchy the tummy. I am short (5 ft.) and feel like it just looks like I'm getting fat in the middle not that I'm having a baby...I just got a snoogle pillow for my b-day and strongly strongly recommend it I absolutely love it and am sleeping much better now.

As for what I do - I'm an attorney I work full-time and will be returning to work after the baby is born since my DH is finishing his PhD and I'm the bread winner of the fam. Luckily my SAHM-attachment parenting sister lives really close and has agreed to help us out so we don't have to leave the babe with a stranger. I'm really nervous about juggling work and family but I know in my heart of hearts that it'll all work out and that I really want both.

[SoPac]

Is anyone else struggling with names? I have a girl name, but boy names are proving to be very difficult....[/QUOTE]

Me too! It's just not going anywhere...I'm hoping that as the baby gets bigger, he/she will communicate with me more about his/her name. Otherwise, I keep thinking that we'll just have to meet the little one to get a feel for the right name - then i'm sure it will be clear...right?

[BathrobeGoddess]

We have no names...my ds wasn't named until he was almost 24 hours old and this one is looking like it will be even older at this point.

The problem for us is that dh and I have very different taste in names. I love nature names, he's not really a fan. My top pick for ds was Cedar, his was Simon. My top girls name right now is Nova, his is Gladys....

Its gets to be really frustrating for both of us, especially when I find a name I think he will like that I like, like Karis. He didn't like it at all, he said that's what we drive to work everyday. GRRRRRRR.

[LavenderMae]

We are having a really hard time with names this time. I don't even have a clue of what we will name this one wether it's a girl or a boy. She/he might just be nameless.

I'm still pretty fatigued but for me that never goes away completely while I'm pregnant. It has gotten better though, thank goodness!

I'm an unschooling SAHM and will be hopefully until all my kids are much much older.

MerryOne, sorry you have a pregnancy stocker, that sucks. I don't get why someone would want to do that. It does sound like besides that you are doing great!!!

[BabyBumblebee]

Had my second prenatal visit yesterday - got to hear the heartbeat again after 45 minutes of trying....aaaaargh! I think I was holding my breath for at least 44 minutes of that :

I think that we have a girl's name picked out, but I'm not sure about boy's names...somehow, nothing that we've discussed seems quite right. Dh and I have quite different tastes in names; I think we may try and find out the babe's gender at my Level 2 u/s in 4 weeks, so it would be nice to have at least some ideas...I remember how nice it was last time to be able to talk to dd as 'Charlie'

MerryOne, I'm so sorry about your stalker...that's just unpleasant. I hope that they're not putting too much of a dampener on things for you.

I think that my present craving for dried figs is *not* a good thing. Apparently, it is possible to eat too much fibre - ooops

[Mrs_Hos]

I'll finish up 13 weeks today...
I definitely have a little belly--and maternity are the only 'comfortable' clothes I can wear. It is just too uncomfortable to try and get into regular clothes--can't even sit...
Anyways...I think I'm feeling flutters--or maybe gas!
I'm excited for warm weather...and going swimming...I'm just trying to figure out how to do that with a 3 yr old! I can have 15 min 'adult swim', but can't leave my 3 yr old to sit and 'watch'...I would worry she would try and get in with me or 'need' me or something, so I have to figure out what to do...guess I could go with a good friend who doesn't mind sitting there for 15 min...sounds selfish of me to ask tho...

[midwestmeg]

I love to swim, too! But it is hard to figure out what to do with a toddler.... 'okay, mommy wants to swim about halfway across the lake; now stay here- YEAH RIGHT!' My cats would probably listen better.

My big score for the summer is that our friends from AK are sending their daughter to stay with us for a month while dad works commercial fishing and mom goes to school. Their daughter is 11 and she's super excited about earning some $$ by helping me with Cecilia. I also signed her up for horse riding lessons at the stable nearby- what 11 year old girl wouldn't love THAT?!! She can't wait to come, which is good b/c she's never been away from her folks/family much before.

I think I'm feeling movements too... but they are so flittery at first, it's hard to recognize them for movement. I am 14 weeks! Those weeks seem to be moving pretty quickly.

[BathrobeGoddess]

Their daughter is 11 and she's super excited about earning some $$ by helping me with Cecilia.

How fun! My dd is 11 and is the greatest help! It is so nice having that extra pair of eager hands around.

[zen-ozz]

Originally Posted by Knittin' in the Shade

I feel HUGE. I'm definitely as big as I was at 6 or 7 months with my first. But since this is #4, I guess that's normal. I'm actually still about 5 pounds down from what I weighed when I got pregnant.

This is me exactly! I keep worrying there is more than one baby because I am so big. I am sure it is normal for the fourth baby, but it just feels so strange to have my big belly start right below my breasts knowing that the baby is below my bellybutton!

I am feeling much less nauseous, but now the leg/belly/back cramps and restless leg stuff has started. It feels so uncomfortable, especially at night. I have started taking mega doses of calcium/magnesuim and today I went to my awesome, incredible cranialsacral therapist. She did a great job, but my legs were twiching the whole time. She said she just couldn't get my body to let go of it's tightness, so I am going to start going once a week. Hopefully it will all help.

I am a social worker, but I stopped working after Zeke was born. I was doing Early Intervention work before I decided to stay home. I had a reputation for doing well with families that were a bit more difficult to work with. By the end it was draining me. I truly don't miss it. I miss the families who were working hard and doing their best for their kids, but sadly, those families were rare for me. SoPac, I used to work with sexually abused kids also. I helped to start a child advocacy center in my town. That I miss, but my supervisor was not allowing me to grow in the position, so I had to move on. I feel lucky to be financially able to stay home with the kids, but I often miss the adult interaction. My husband is a pilot.

Faeriewisp ~ I am from Saratoga Springs, about 30 minutes north of Albany. My doula is very active in the capital region birth community and she is awesome!!! She may have some resources for you if you decide you want to connect with other unassisted birth mamas. I would be happy to give you her name. Feel free to PM me if I can do anything to help as you are moving! Maybe we could get together when you get here.

[Kerriemoe]

Hello, everyone! I begin the 14th week tomorrow! So glad to be in the 2nd trimester. Now if only the exhaustion will pay attention and realize it's time to leave. :yawning:

I've been in maternity clothes, oh, about since I got my BFP. I have a tummy sleeve that helps keep them up, though, and that really helps. The nausea and nasty taste in my mouth seem to be going away, thank goodness. I've gained about 10 lbs, which we're not happy about, but I think that'll taper off for a while now that I can eat healthy foods again. And I'm keeping up with the exercise, which will also help, I think. I had pre-eclampsia last time, so I do worry about that. I know the risk is lower with a 2nd pregnancy, but I'm just trying to eat right and exercise to stay healthy.

For a girl's name we're using the same one we'd chosen for DS, it's the one I'd picked out in high school: Colleen Rosemary, after my stillborn sister and my favorite grandmother. Two people I wish I could have gotten to know, or know better. Boy's names are harder, because DH has all these crazy "rules." We went through a name book, and only found one name in the entire boy's section that we agreed on. So Dillon it is! Still working on the middle name. We were thinking Patrick because we got our BFP on St. Patrick's Day.

I've been feeling movement for a couple of weeks now, though DH didn't believe me until we saw our future gymnast squirming around like crazy on the u/s on Monday. In fact, I'm feeling a little now and it's probably because it's snacktime. Gotta go!